Post # 1
I would like to have a bridal shower just as an excuse almost to get my family and my fiance’s ladies together. Most of them haven’t met before at all because his family lives on one end of the province (Kitchener-Waterloo) and mine closer to the other (Belleville), with a smattering of my mom’s family in the middle.
How do you coordinate a bridal shower when so many people live out of town? I none of my family and three of my 5 bridesmaids live where I live, but my Maid/Matron of Honor lives in the middle (Toronto) and has considered asking my aunt to host it at her house in Toronto.
The drive for both sides of the family would be about 2h to my one aunt’s house. The reason my Maid/Matron of Honor can’t host is because she lives in a tiny shared apartment XD Is this a reasonable plan?
Post # 4
You shouldn’t host a shower for yourself. If somone offers to host then you can figure out the logistics, otherwise don’t fret about it until someone offers.
Post # 5
If your FI’s family want to host a shower for you, they will.
If your BM’s want to host a shower for you, they will.
I understand your desire to have everyone meet, but asking everyone to travel 2 hrs is a bit much in my world.
As you will not be hosting the shower, I would sit back and wait to see what others do.
Post # 6
@clovester: it sounds like the Maid/Matron of Honor is hosting, however just asking the bride for ideas of potential places to throw it since her own house isn’t an option.
For me, we had it where I live. My mom, sister and two bridesmaids came down from the Okanagan (5 hours away), and my husband’s mom, sister and aunt came over from Vancouver Island (3 hours away). The rest were relatively local, within an hour and a half.
My mom and sister just stayed with other relatives, the bridesmaids bunked with me, and I rented hotel rooms for DH’s family.
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
Planning the shower is really the BMs and MOH’s job. Can they find a centrally located fire house or other cheap venue to have it in? There are many options for cheap caterers.
People sometimes have to travel for showers. That’s just how the cookie crumbles. If they can’t make it, they can’t make it!
I too wanted an excuse to get the girls together, so I am hosting a post-holiday brunch for them. Perfect!
Post # 8
Well, like others says, you shouldn’t host your own shower.
Personally, I would not drive two hours for a bridal shower unless it was someone super, super close to me. I think that’s asking a lot for a shower.
Post # 9
Just give the person who is planning your shower names and contact info of who you would like to be invited – its up to them to work it out. If they need help with arrangements, the planner should contact you about it. To be honest, I wouldn’t set your expectations too high for a lot of people to travel long distances for a shower – the wedding is the far more important event, so unless they cant make it to the wedding, its a lot to ask to have people travel several hours twice in a short period of time. Doesn’t mean they shouldnt be invited – just dont be hurt if they decline.
Post # 10
I’m from the Kingston area too (: I do think 2 hours is a long time to travel for a shower so don’t be surprised if it’s difficult or not an option for some guests (especially if they aren’t super close to you)
I’m sure the drive won’t seem that bad to everyone though. I mean, if you’re trying to go between cities in Ontario it’ll usually take a while just because things are so spread out- I’m sure a lot of guests are accustomed to the longer travel times.