(Closed) How did you deal with airport pickups for out of town guests?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Monikax3x3:  Yes, if a single group, as in 3 or less that can fit in my car with me and my husband is visiting me from anywhere, in country or out of country, then I would happily pick them up and drive anywhere we need to go and drop them off.  For a wedding, when there are handfulls of people who will be flying in, it’s unrealistic to expect that from the bride/groom.  Even fi she were to go do 12 separate pick ups, is she expected to do 12 trips to and from their hotel to the venue for the wedding, and back afterwards?  It’s just logistically impossible.

Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

camette:  I will be picking up the key people who are coming far in advance such as my sister/MOH, my aunt, and my best friend/bridesmaid. For everyone else, I am providing transportation info on my wedding website. There is a shuttle that runs to/from our hotel directly from/to the airport. If they don’t like the shuttle option they can rent a car which I also include info for on my website.

Post # 18
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Helper bee

This is very interesting. We had A LOT of airport pickups and dropoff (about 15?!?), and either my husband or I went to pick to pick them up, with the exception of 2 or 3, who were picked up members of my family, and one couple took an Uber because the timing didn’t work out. It didn’t even cross my mind NOT to pick them up. They came from so far, and we wanted to spend as much time with them as possible. After the wedding, we dropped all of them off at the airport too. Then again, this might be cultural. 

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Post # 19
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I’m still planning my wedding, but I looked into renting a expedition car umm 1000$ to the wedding site and back no thank you. At the airport here you can pick up a rental car and return it back at the airport before your flight..would be 24$/day. I will be picking up my parents, sister and my bridal party if they are coming early, and most likely they will be.

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Post # 20
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Helper bee

pinkshoes:   I wasn’t talking about the bride, all I was doing is sharing what my family did, so it is possible 

Post # 21
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

It is so nice of you to consider picking your guests up, however, as someone who has flown in for weddings before, I have never expected or even thought that the B&G would pick me up. I always made my own arrangements.

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Outdoor

We didn’t have very many out of town guests, but the close ones were taken care of by family or rented a car- for example my aunt and uncle rented a car and stayed with my grandma and mom, and then my uncle went back to the airport twice to get his daughters (who came in on the same day but one in the morning and one late at night… not my planning lol! My Maid/Matron of Honor took care of my other out of town bridesmaid, picked her up, hosted her, and took her back to the airport… and my DH’s aunt, uncle, and cousins were picked up by his grandpa, they stayed with him also. That was really the only poeple who came through the airport that I know of. Basically other than immediate family and bridal party, I assume people are in charge of making their own arrangements or finding their own rides. 

Post # 23
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Bumble Beekeeper

If they are coming from out of country, how capable will they be to secure their own transportation to the wedding city? How far are you from the airport?

We were faced with a similar situation when we thought a bunch of my relatives from Asia were coming. At the time, we lived about two hours from the international airport. You could personally pick up the most key people or have your parents help with some of that, but going to the airport sure is a time sucker. We also thought about chartering an airport shuttle to pick up our international passengers. It was actually cheaper than I had anticipated, but in the end, none of the international guests attended. 

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Getting from the airport to one’s final destination is something that I sort out as a traveler before I get to my destination and without expectations from a host.  Even if you do pick them up at the airport, how will they get around during their visit?  You’re setting yourself up to chauffeur people around before your wedding if you arrange for airport pick up.  There’s bound to be some people in the group that would take advantage of your hospitality.  There’s enough involved in the logistics of a wedding.  If guests can’t get from the airport to their hotel, they should have thought twice before accpeting the invite and booking the trip.

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee

I picked up my sister from the airport, she was the only one who flew in for it. When I traveled to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man, I needed a pick up and the Maid/Matron of Honor did it as the Bride (my friend and only person I knew) was unable to do it. Was it a little awkard? Yes, but I got picked up and to where I needed to be, no big deal. 

Its up to you, your Fiance, and any family and friends what you can do in your situation. I would first reach out to the guests flying and see who, if anyone, is renting a vehicle. Then you know who will need a pick up, find out their schedule and tell them you will see what you can do. Then you see what works for you and your Fiance. If the two of you are booked, or think you will be as you said in your original post, that’s when you can start to reach out to family, either yours for any relatives on your side flying in, or his family for any of his  family flying in. If that doesn’t work, call up your bridal party. While I KNOW airport trips are not required for any bms or gm, but if they have offered to help you could ask if they are available to help. Or any other relatives you have in the picture. No one is obligated to do anything, of course, so if a few people have to figure out their own way to the hotel, they are adults and its ok. If some of them are able to be picked up and taken to the hotel, awesome!!!

I don’t see what is wrong with reaching out to those guests and at least trying to see what you can do. 

Post # 26
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Bumble bee

camette:  We didn’t do anything. We expected our guests to manage their own transporation to/from the airports.

Post # 27
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015 - On a Cliff Overlooking the Bay, Florida

camette:  WE lucked out and most of our Out of Town guest were my MIL’s family. They booked travel together so we had 2 airport pickups (we hired a shuttle) for our 25 guest flying in. 1 family (9 people)  booked car service for the entire weekend for them to get around.  

Post # 28
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015 - On a Cliff Overlooking the Bay, Florida

camette:  I wouold like to add we had the same shuttle service take all Hotel guest (50 people) to and from the venue. My Mother-In-Law arranged the entire thing because it was her 9 Bro and Sisters families stating with us at the hotel.

We got married in our hometown but stayed on the beach with family who flew in for our wedding.

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

camette:  We did not organize any airport pickups. I truly feel like that is the guest’s responsibility. Some of our guests coordinated with each other to either share a rental car or team up with another guest who was driving down. There is WAY too much going on last minute for your parents or you to be driving back and forth from the airport.

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I would pick up my bridal party and in laws.  

ETA: I live in NY and most will fly into JFK.  There are numerous public transportation options from there at all price points.  I know it isn’t the same with others.

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 8 months ago by  confidenceinrain. Reason: clarification

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