Prior to being engaged, my fiance and I knew that if we ever got married we wanted to have a Destination Wedding. Our families were both a little hesitant about this at first, but they have now come around to it. A lot of it boiled down to the fact that we did not want to have a 300 person wedding and if we got married in California, we would have.
These are some of the reasons a Destination Wedding was the right decision for us:
-Our favorite weddings have been destination weddings. We have been to 3 out of country destination weddings before, and these have been the most enjoyable because I have gotten to spend quality time with people I wouldn’t normally, and spend a lot of time with the couple getting married. it has also made me travel to some really cool places that I wouldn’t normally go to.
-You are eliminating people that really don’t care about you. I have a long list of obligatory invites that my mom would kill me if I didn’t invite. These are people that are not really a part of my life. By having a destination wedding, I can still invite them, my Mom will not kill me and she will be happy, but most likely they will not come. And if they do? They obviously care about me a whole lot more than I ever expected and it will be amazing to get to spend real quality time with them.
-We are paying for most of the wedding ourselves. We are very greatful for the support we are receiving, but at the end of the day, we are paying for it ourselves and we need to do what makes us happiest.
-We are also on a pretty strict budget. Having a Destination Wedding is allowing us to give our guests a lot more than we would have been able to provide if we got married in the U.S. While i know that it is not about giving them things, it makes me really happy to be able to have more than one event for the people that do come and to not worry about every single dollar like I would be if we were in the U.S.
-Most people were going to have to travel regardless. My fiance is from New York and 95% of his family lives there. I am from California and 95% of my family lives here. Our friends live all over the world. No matter what, over 50% of our guests were going to have to take a plane to get to our wedding. If they have to travel anyway, why not make it someplace incredible?
There are always going to be some disadvantages. For me, there are going to be people that I really want to be there that just won’t be able to make it, and that is going to suck. But at the end of the day I think the benefits far outwiegh the negatives.
I think if you really really want to have a Destination Wedding, you should at least look into it. Your family might change their tune when presented with how great it would be.