(Closed) How Did You Decide on a Dress?

posted 10 years ago in Dress
  • poll: How many times did you go dress hunting before you decided?
    1st time : (7 votes)
    15 %
    2 - 4 stores : (27 votes)
    59 %
    5 - 10 stores : (11 votes)
    24 %
    11+ : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    513 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I don’t think I was even half as motivated as you are to go out there to find a dress.

    I had two of my girlfriends, fly in on two separate weekends. To prepare for their arrival and to maximize our time, I literally went on line, did a mapquest search and listed out all the bridal shops within a ten to fifteen mile radius of my house.

    My friends and I had a ‘pow-wow’ catch up session at my house or the coffeeshop. Ripped out a couple of dresses I liked or envisioned wearing from a couple of magazines. Then we headed to the stores. I went to 6 or 7 total.

    One of my friends, such a little spitfire, she would get into the salon while I would check in- and meanwhile she is going to the racks and based off of our ‘pow-wow/plan of attack’ (because I was too afraid to go into the bridal stores and see the nightmare of hundreds of brides trying on dresses. & I also feared the sales ladies hounding me) that to de-stress myself from chickening out- my friend would literally grab dresses while telling the sales person "she will try this one… and oh yeah! This one- and OH! Defintely that one!".

    It was awesome.

    I am just so happy about my dress. (I thought I was trying on costumes most of the time). It is being handmade by a small dressmaker. And she has a little wedding dress shop. -oh and she takes 5% (I know just 5% but at least it was something) and donates that portion of the cost of the dress to Brides Against Breast Cancer. Luv’n it.

    But it took me… going multiple times between two stores for about a month debating between two dresses. Finally, my mom stepped in and basically gave me permission to go over my budget by paying for the dress herself. I loved the second dress more than the first dress. But I loved the price of the first dress… anyhow. the inner turmoil is over. and I have no regrets. =o)

    Post # 4
    96 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    It was the 2nd store but the first time REALLY shopping. I got the dress that made me gasp(!) – it was the first one I tried on and the one I liked the LEAST on the hanger. The bridal lady made me try it on to rule it out and I fell in love… with myself?! Weird.

    But before that trip I put it off for 8 monthes!



    Post # 5
    687 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    i went to about 8 bridal shops within a space of 3 months.  I kept veering towards a particular style of dress so I waited until about 7mths before the wedding to actually purchase. Which makes me super nervous now because it looks like I will only have two months for alterations when the bridal shop is quoting 3 mnths for alterations! eek.

    Post # 6
    2204 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    GO shopping as many times as you need to!

    I went 3 times to 4 stores and ended up having my dress custom designed with a few ideas from dresses i liked.  Just makes sure to give yourself minimum 6 months!

    Post # 7
    456 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I’m like lattlelove, having it custom designed. I hate saying it that way tho, cause it sounds pretentious to me. It’s actually way cheaper than buying one, because the lady’s basically doing it at cost, and it’ll be custom fit so no more alterations once it’s done. I’m *very* happy with it, I was able to combine my favorite things about a few different dresses to get one that’s perfect for ME. I never tried on too many, actually ridiculously few, I just figured out what shape worked for me, then figured out what details I wanted, took 2 pictures to the lady and she’s making it happen exactly like I pictured it! I’m so excited! Good luck! As long as you have plenty of time, and you’re enjoying the process, who cares how many you have to try on? It’s fun!

    Post # 8
    752 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    Go shopping as many times as you need to in order to find a gown that feels right for you and your wedding! It only took 5 stores for me (and actually, I found THE gown in the 2nd store I went to and just kept looking before I realized that I couldn’t get THE ONE out of my head), but if it takes 20 before you find the right dress, so be it.

    I’d also recommend trying on some dresses that aren’t in the aesthetic that you currently think you want. You never know what will make your heart beat faster once it’s on your body. 🙂

    Post # 9
    601 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    I picked mine because the price was right (hello sample!), it fit great without alterations, and I thought I looked lovely on me (if i do say so myself )

    Post # 10
    3331 posts
    Sugar bee

    I think I went to 6-7 stores before deciding on a dress.  I actually found the dress, but continued to shop a little, just to be sure.  I had found the dress with my sister, but I wanted to show it to my mom too. 

    Don’t worry about being confused–I know I was for a while.  I kept finding dresses I liked just fine, but nothing that was really special.  Keep looking until you find a dress you love–it’s out there!!

    Post # 11
    66 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Bought the Sophia dress from J Crew online after browsing a bunch… I’m not a crystal/sequin/poofy person, so the simple ivory silk sheath was pretty perfect. I’m also wearing turquoise heirloom jewelry which I wanted to be the focus of the look. The best part? I got it on sale after christmas for $100 off. so my wedding dress was only $200! and it fits perfectly with no alterations needed at all.  Of course I then spent over $500 that on the perfect veil… heavyweight ivory tulle with mantilla-style lace around the edge, goes down to about my butt. it’s beautiful. and cheap lace looks cheap.

    Post # 13
    119 posts
    Blushing bee

    I bought mine online. I really liked the look of it and it was on clearance, so I went for it (after checking the return policy, of course).

    I really liked the dress. And I REALLY liked the price.

    For me cost and simplicity were more important than shopping around until I got that special feeling. But that’s just how I am.

    But you should take as long as you need (given ordering schedules and everything) to find your dess, if that’s what you want to do.

    Post # 14
    195 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    The dress I actaully chose was a dress I was trying on for a comparison to another dress I was trying to decide between and another one.  I was looking at shape differences and loved it.  Odd how things ended up working out, but I can’t WAIT for my dress to come in! I want to try it on again!!!!

    Post # 15
    1276 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    Hi quinty,

    I’m also getting a custom-made dress.  She said that six months was safe, though I’m pretty sure she could do faster if necessary.  In my case, I went to several stores (I don’t even know how many but probably about 8 or 9) and tried on an exhausting number of dresses.  But I was looking for something a little bit different than the single color, beaded or lace dresses I was finding.  But when I walked into the shop of the dressmaker I ordered with, I already had a feeling I’d find soemthing b/c her styling was so different than pretty much anything else I’ve seen.  She’s basically modifying a design she had in the shop already (changing the silhouette and adding some details).  I’d say that you’ll know when you put the right dress on….I thought I never would, but when I tried this one on I was sure that it was more or less the design I wanted to get married in.


    Post # 16
    214 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I tried to control myself long enough to visit at least THREE stores but ended up buying my dress after stopping at only two. But THE dress was the perfect fit, the perfect fabric and the perfect price so I couldn’t pass up on such a great find!

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