How did you decide on anything?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017 - Robin Hill Farm and Vinyard

When is your wedding? Honestly, I had a Pinterest board FILLED with ideas, but as the vendors start getting booked and the time is nearing, I’m making my mind up pretty easily. It kind of just falls into place. But if your just starting the process and your wedding is far off, its okay to be overwhelmed. Just create a checklist and start rolling, it will get better! 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I honestly started pinning ideas and browsing before we got engaged so I could avoid being overwhelmed.   I also am very good at getting ideas in my head and then search for inspiration along the same lines.  I just stuck to my gut and knew the overall directio I wanted to go and went with it.  The only thing I keep changing my mind on is invitations. I have a few more months before I have to decide.  It’s kinda like the dress.  Once you find the one don’t keep looking.   Once you have ideas you love don’t keep looking for more or more inspiration.  Hope that helps!

Post # 5
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Worker bee

Please share once you figure out how to figure it out! LOL.  Notes, pictures, lists, folders.  These are things I have been doing just to help keep it straight.  But I am not as deep in with color scemes center pieces, gift ideas etc yet.  I say if its all things you like then thats your common theme.  Dont worry so much on all those small details and I bet it will all look like it belongs together bc it’s things you picked out!  I feel like this site is going to help me a lot with making some of these deciding factors.  Just keep posting or blogging and post pictures to help people help you!  Good luck!   

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

chrissybee :  since you seem to have some time, id start with one thing at a time, like flowers.  I knew I wanted a lot of greenery and light colors so I then started looking at different arrangements by searching greenery and blush arrangements on Pinterest and got a few different ideas and then created 2 different ones based off those with my florist. A lot will also depend on the type of venue you pick. It will all come together I promise! 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

The best advice I got and have given out is that when you find something you love, it has to be “good enough.” If you like/love it, stop looking and stop analyzing the possibilities. They’re endless and you could drive yourself insane looking at every venue, dress, color scheme, etc. But you need to pick one that is “good enough” and then force yourself to stop looking!

Post # 8
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Helper bee

I just went with what “felt” right. I felt a lot better making decisions when I realized that there weren’t really any wrong ones. We toured nine very different venues, and it would have been possible to have a beautiful wedding at any of them. No one will know the things I decided against, so no one will be thinking that it could have been better.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017 - Robin Hill Farm and Vinyard

chrissybee :  Yeah I started with pinterest and I found a picture that has been the base of my whole decor and feel for the wedding. We both knew we wanted a barn, so I googled the heck out of barn venues around my area. Picked one, booked it, then stalked their facebook page to see how other Bride’s had decorated the space. I knew the colors I wanted and went from there. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

chrissybee :  I’m the kind of person who will spend 5-10 minutes examining the ingredient lists between three tubes of toothpaste and agonize over which to get. Here’s what helped me:

1) Decide on 2-3 things to prioritize and it will help shape the rest of the wedding. For exmaple: if you absolutely have to have your favorite local folk band play the reception then you’re going to plan around their availability, find a venue that maximizes that feature, and plan your budget accordingly. Once you and your SO decide what aspects are most important–venue, flowers, guest list, music, whatever–you can put your energy and money into making the most of those and chill out a little on the rest. 

2) I didn’t shop around very much. I recognize this isn’t the best way to save money or find lesser known excellent vendors, but simply making executive decisions when I found something I liked in my budget helped keep things moving. 

3) Limit ‘inspo’ browsing once money is down and things are coming together. I’m less than four months out now and I’m staying off Pinterest.  

4) Remember that, with very few exceptions, all weddings are basically the same. As long as everyone is fed and watered and comfortable you can’t really go wrong. No one knows what alternatives you considered or what other alternate versions of the event could have happened. 

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