(Closed) How did you decide that eloping was best for you?

posted 8 years ago in Elopement
Post # 18
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Bumble bee

@walnutgirl:  I wanted to but then i mentioned it in passing (talking about someone else) to my mother and she started to cry. I decided it might be selfish to exclude people who love me (even to avoid drama or annoyance) just invite your CLOSE family/ people who helped raise you and have a tiny ceremony (less than 10 people even)

Post # 20
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We’d both been married before, so we didn’t have a need/want to have a full-on wedding. Plus, I didn’t see the point in spending all of that money. In addition, I loved the idea of doing it privately and shocking everyone with the news afterward! Tongue Out

Post # 21
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I wanted to elope but we both knew that my ILs and parents would be furious with us. So I couldn’t. I knew I wanted to elope because I didn’t want to deal with all the shit that comes with a wedding that involves guests, no matter what the number lol!

Post # 22
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@walnutgirl:  “How did you organise it? Spur of the moment?”

 

I knew of this place (Emerald Lake Lodge) back in April through some casual internet browsing.  We had just cancelled our Jackson Hole wedding in March (my dad has a few months left to live) and explored getting married on a honeymoon trip.  I even emailed ELL to get some questions answered about their elopement pacakge.  However, we were not going to plan/book any dates just yet.  My father had 4 mohths left to live and I did not want to be preoccupied with a wedding and wanted to free up funds so I could fly home often.  I’m glad I did. 

So after he passed (June 1), I mourned the loss, life kind of got back to normal about 3 months later, so we booked the wedding date of August 28th on August 10th I believe.  Yeah, 17 days notice!  Since I already had contacted them prior, all I needed to do was to find a date and pay for the elopement package!  Their wedding planner worked with me on bouquet styling, boutonierre, cake flavors, ceremony location, witnesses (if we didn’t have any), dinner reservations and lined up my officiant.  Very easy!

Then in those 17 days we had to get some stuff ready!  Find H a ring, get my dress altered, figure my hairdo, find my shoes, customize our vows, plan an 11 day road trip…  It was so much fun! 

Post # 23
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

throughthebarricades  Thank you!  I have some photos of our Lake Louise visit and thought of you.  Do you want to see?  I can PM you.

Post # 24
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556 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Even as a little kid, I preferred an elopement/private wedding to a traditional wedding. Too much famiy drama that will ensue at my wedding, and I also just can’t take the seriousness of planning a full-on wedding very seriously, because it’s just one big party to celebrate something you did that literally, 80+% of people do in their lifetimes.

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

These are all great reasons ladies :]

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

-As a little kid, I never wanted a traditional wedding — so I don’t even feel like I “decided,” it was just something I felt wasn’t right for me.

-The above feeling came from my family not getting along.

-This was furthered when my parents divorced, and can’t see each other from a football field’s length away, and not scream.

-Every wedding is the same. You do the same things, you read the same things (seriously — how many times do I need to hear “On Marriage” and Corinthians?).

-I feel like it’s a bit too “attention-whorey” — a bunch of people wanting to feel special because their relationship didn’t change, they just signed a piece of paper.

 

Yeah, traditional weddings are just not my style!

Post # 27
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

We’ve both been married before and I just don’t want to go through all the time, money & effort for a wedding.

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