How did you decide to start trying for your second? (WYD? Poll)

posted 6 months ago in TTC
  • poll: What would you do in my exact situation?
    Wait until you get a new job, no matter how long it takes, possibly never having kids close in age. : (2 votes)
    14 %
    Start trying in April if there is no new job on the horizon (still looking for a job just in case). : (7 votes)
    50 %
    Wait until September to start TTC to give the job search a bit more time. : (3 votes)
    21 %
    Start TTC #2 as soon as April (or as soon as you start TTC) and stop the job search until after #2. : (2 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    759 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2019

    I think it depends on what you feel most strongly about. If you feel more strongly about having kids close in age go forth with your original ttc plan and the job search may need to wait until after baby #2 is born.

    Post # 6
    Member
    2710 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I’ll tell you my story to see if it helps.

    it took us 2.5 years to get pregnant with our son (unexplained infertility, natural pregnancy just before starting IVF) 

    we wanted about 2 years between our kids too. I took 14 months maternity leave and returned in March 2018 (DS was born Jan 2017) 

    i hated my job on my return and did look for something else but in the end decided better the devil you know and good maternity pay.

    we decided to try for number 2 at Christmas 2017 so just before DS’ birthday. We were 33 and knew we might be in for another long journey. 

    Right off the bat we took the prenatals recommended by our fertility doctor and did all the stuff that worked first time round. I fell pregnant naturally in May 2018. I had literally just had a breakdown to hubby about how much I hated my job and that I was giving myself until Xmas to either be pregnant or leave and get a new job. 

    I’m due any day now with number 2 (and if you’ve been paying attention you’ll see that the kids will be bang on 2 years apart) 

    I’d say try from April, but give yourself a deadline by which you will change jobs if nothing happens. I changed jobs twice in those first 2.5 years and fell pregnant just past my 1 year with current job. 

     

    Im in the UK for context.

    Post # 7
    Member
    759 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2019

    SeaOfLove :  yeah it sounds like you know what you want to do but I totally get it it’s hard to put off your career for a little bit. In the grand scheme of things delaying for a few years for a baby isn’t the end of the world and I know so many working mothers who have done it successfully and have great careers. You’ll be ok and good luck!!

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