How did you decide what ring you wanted?

posted 1 year ago in Rings
Post # 2
10472 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Trying them on in person was huge in my decision making. I looked at hundreds online and couldn’t make a decision. When I saw them on my finger it was actually pretty easy to decide.

I also went with a sapphire center stone because I’ve always wanted one instead of a diamond. And I went with yellow gold because it looks better with my skin tone plus just to me it feels more classic than white gold or platinum which is probably because all the women in my family have yellow gold wedding rings. My husband actually picked the center stone on his own and decided on about 1 ct equivalent which I think is the perfect size for me. 

Post # 3
2670 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

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rdtobee :  I always figured I wanted a plain solitaire, so that’s what my husband picked out. Now that I’ve seen so many cool rings on the bee I’ve thought about switching it up and adding some side stones or something, but who knows if I’ll do it.

Anyways, I would suggest going in and trying on rings, you might find that certain shapes or styles that you like in photos don’t look good on your fingers/hand or vice versa

Post # 4
312 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

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rdtobee :  I would vote definitely just go try some rings on. You may know what style you like to look at…but you won’t know what style you think personally looks best on your finger/hand until you try it on. Also I would recommend looking at as many different styles as you can and keep your mind open. I thought I wanted a completely plain banded solitaire when I started looking but I ended up falling in love with my engagement ring that has small side stones. Good luck! 🙂

Since you said you wanted photos here is my wedding set – and then a photo of my anniversary band with my wedding band for days that I don’t want my higher set engagement ring on. (I wear it as my RHR when I wear all three) 🙂

Post # 5
23 posts

Firstly, I informed myself about diamonds, metals, settings, prongs, etc. Secondly, I looked for different ring styles online for a month. Finally, I just went to the store with my boyfriend and tried all the rings that I liked, I did not look at prices at all, but I think he trusted me because I do not like huge stones neither complex  settings. After three hours, we had three finalists and I let my boyfriend to choose the winner. All the process was pretty simple, but I’m not a complicated woman if I follow my own process of selection. 

Post # 6
2252 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

I fell in love with a ring I saw on pintrest with marquis side stones set East/West. So I definitely wanted to try that or something similar on. I always knew I wanted a sapphire, but my friend got a dark blue one (the color I thought I wanted) and it looks black in a lot of lights. When I saw Montana/Ice blue sapphires, I absolutely loved them! I love the color and love the way they change in the light! After that it was just going in and trying on what I wanted. I tried on a few shapes (I didn’t like some off the bat, so there was no reason to try those on) but ultimately loved the round stone. Plus with everything else being so different, I thought it was good to keep a classic shape. And we were looking at whte gold and rose gold, but when the rose gold got on my finger with the sapphire hovered over it, it was clear that was the winner! Rose gold looks better on my skintone and it looked SO GOOD with the stone it was insane! Literally the jeweler gasped when he saw it! So that is kinda how my ring came about! I narrowed down some things on pintrest and instagram (I went in to a mall jewelery store to see what shapes looked best on my hand so I could start narrowing some down, and I knew what to ask for at the jeweler), but I just kept coming back to the one that had my band. I literally pinned it 6 times! When I showed my jeweler the pintrest board, he got some band ideas and pointed some out to me, so that helped as well! My husband loves my rings, and since both were custom, there aren’t any more out there like them! Which he really loves! 

My advice – go into a jewelery store and just try on some solatires to see what shape you like. Also try on some halos and three stones or anything else you think you would like. Then start narrowing things down on pintrest or instagram (or even look at rings on this site, there are some really beautiful and different ones on here!) and then when you guys are ready to shop go in with your inspiration board and just start talking to a jeweler. They will have some great ideas to help you out! 

Post # 7
1635 posts
Bumble bee

Also, be sure that even if you decide by looking online that you like a certain shape/style, go try them on in person.  So many many Bees have shared that once they put their “dream” ring on, it looked terrible on their hand!  Then, they’d try on others, and found the one they loved.  Often, it turned out to be quite the opposite of what they liked online!

Post # 8
291 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2021

I changed my mind and rings quite a few times before we got engaged lol. We did look around at local jewelry stores to get an idea. Then we did online research and found lab grown diamonds. First, FH got me a Clean Origin 1.3 ct lab grown rb with a round halo, then I wanted an oval so we did a C&C Forever One 1.5 ct moissanite oval with a halo, then I found my actual e ring a Brilliant Earth 1.0 ct lab grown rb with a cushion halo on eBay of all places.

My favorite part was that the e ring came with the wedding band for $1,600. FH knows how I love deals. I didn’t know what I wanted really, and my then boyfriend now FH was very patient and understanding. We both love my ring, even though it took multiple orders and returns to get to it!

Post # 9
431 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I decided mostly by bombarding myself with different styles. I looked at thousands of different rings online. When I saw one that gave me butterflies, I would open it in a new tab and keep looking, then once I got to a certain number I would look through them all, write down what they had in common, and pick a top five. I’d save those five to a list and start over. Then when I started to get bored of looking or feel overwhelmed with options, I would either go through the list I had made and compare two at a time and delete the one I liked slightly less, or I would search with the qualities on my list. By the time I only had like three or four on the list, I would go in and try some on. This let me close the gap between what I liked online and what I liked personally on me, as well as helping me pick the right size for my lifestyle.

My methods are a little intensive though.

Post # 10
1344 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

I looked at tooooons of pictures of rings, and of course tried some on. I started saving pictures of rings I liked and eventually noticed a common theme: cushion cuts on pave bands. I’ve also been married before and knew exactly what I DIDN’T want for my ring this time around (no channel setting, no rounded prongs, etc.). I wanted something in the 1-2ct range. I wear a size 7 so I knew I wouldn’t be happy with anything smaller than a carat, but I felt like anything larger than 2 would look too large. I went with diamonds.

1ct cushion (H, VS1) in platinum, 1.5mm french pave band.

Post # 11
820 posts
Busy bee

I tried on a bunch to the point I almost got tired of it. My husband and I went to different jewelery stores and I narrowed down what kind of stone I wanted, 1.5 carat or less, what color gold, and what style settings. I didn’t like pear cuts, princess was absolutely out of the question, and wasn’t crazy about rounds. So I looked more at cushions, ovals, and emeralds. I tried on a lot of solitaires but my husband didn’t care for them. I tried on some halos and wasn’t a fan of them at all. Eventually we went to a jewelry store in our city just to browse and my husband picked this ring. I never imagined I would ever want a halo since I was so hell bent on a solitaire, but I couldn’t stop thinking about it after we left. The setting had to be completely remade to fit my size. Center stone is an elongated cushion. It all came down to what we felt looked best on my hand and what was within our budget. 

Post # 14
241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

My first marriage, I didn’t get to pick the engagement ring, although I did find the wedding band. For this marriage, I did a lot of research ahead of time. I looked online constantly and would show one’s I liked to my fiancé to help narrow down styles. I also went to jewelry stores to try on rings. I already knew that I preferred round brilliant stones, but I wasn’t sure if it would make a difference between moissanite or diamond. Luckily, Helzburg has both in stock. I was able to compare them side by side and decided for sure that I preferred diamond. I though I would want a halo, but it turns out they tend to overwhelm my hand. Once I narrowed down my preferred style (although the one I went with wasn’t the one I thought I was going to get), I turned my focus to researching diamonds somewhat obsessively. I’m very happy with the end result.

First set:

My new ring:


Post # 15
1444 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2019 - USA

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rdtobee :  I thought I wanted a dainty round or oval ring with some side stones, but I ended up trying on a completely different type of setting that I fell in love with! It was really unusual so I didn’t expect to like it at all, but it blew me away! I would highly suggest you go try on rings in person, because you never know what will end up appealing to you! 




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