- 1 month ago
- Wedding: London, UK
My partner told me to pick a ring and it was about 15 months till I actually decided what I wanted, so I can relate to the decision being tough.
First thing I decided was that I wanted a moissanite, I’d known this for years. Having a diamond because of it being a diamond was a marketing ploy I was never interested in, plus I wanted a bigger stone as I have bigger hands so knew I could afford more with moissanite. I wanted a colourless stone purely because I wear a LOT of colour in my clothes and wanted it to match everything.
Second thing I decided was that I wanted a low profile bezel. I came to this decision because I am clumsy, anxious and not used to wearing rings. So I figured a bezel would alleviate concerns as the stone would be very secure and if it was low profile I wouldn’t have to worry about bashing it.
I then decided I wanted an asscher or emerald cut stone, as I love wearing stripes and these cuts look stripey to me, so they were just generally up my street.
I ultimately chose asscher as I felt an emerald cut was a bit too conventionally ‘elegant’ for me, I am not an elegant person.
Then I decided on kite setting because I just don’t like the way square stones look as a square.
I always knew I wanted a white metal, but became disinterested in white gold as soon as I learnt it usually needs replating. I need low maintenance, so thought I wanted platinum. That was until I discovered that palladium is virtually the same as platinum but a fraction of the price AND weight.
The setting I decided on was inspired by a MoissaniteCo ring that is a very simple bezel with an open basket, as I knew I wanted to be able to see the side of the stone because it looks cool and because it lets in more light. This was important to me because asscher cuts don’t glitter/sparkle in the same way as other stones, and a full bezel prohibts some light from entering and can inhibit sparkle. So I wanted to increase the chances of it flashing as much as possible, given the stone and setting.
The most difficult decision was stone size. I ideally wanted 7mm, but the company who made my ring only use Charles and Colvard stones, which come in either 6.5mm or 8mm. I went with 8mm after much deliberation. I am pleased I went with this rather than 6.5mm, but ultimately I still think 7mm would have been absolutely perfect, as the bezel does add some coverage. However as I’m not trying to pass my ring off as a diamond it doesn’t bother me that it is clearly larger than what we could have chosen had it been a diamond.
Lastly, I didn’t try on any rings bar some costume jewellery ones in shops which confirmed I wanted solitaire. I did however order some 8mm asscher earrings from Amazon for about £20 to double check I was happy with the size.
Sorry for the long post, but I think that covers all the steps and thought processes I went through to decide.