(Closed) How did you decide where to settle?

posted 6 years ago in Married Life
  • poll:
    Family : (21 votes)
    23 %
    Job or industry : (42 votes)
    46 %
    Climate : (10 votes)
    11 %
    Where you grew up : (14 votes)
    15 %
    Other - please explain! : (4 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    3357 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Darling Husband and I haven’t decided yet, but it will probably be decided by job and how much we like the location. We also want to build our own house.

    Post # 4
    364 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    We plan to stay In Seattle for a few reasons. Fiance has established his career here, and he is in an industry where reputationa and connections are everything, so it would be hard for him to start over somewhere else. Also, my family is here and I’m very close to them. We also love the summers here, and since we are outdoors people, the Seattle area is amazing, with the mountains and the water right there.

    We occasionally dream about moving to Asheville, NC where Fiance grew up. We have so many firends there, and we adore the city. We would both LOVE to live there, but there just isn’t the possibility of a job for Fiance there anywhere close to the income level he has here, so…

    Post # 5
    2892 posts
    Sugar bee

    We were already in the same state and our highest earning potential is here…so far. If that ever changes (come on California) we’ll move but until then we decided to follow the money and settle in MD. Helps that we like the area anyways. 🙂

    Post # 6
    12247 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Our location is COMPLETELY determined by where he’s working!

    We met while he was working in Vermont, and now we live where he’s working in Massachusetts! When we buy a house, it will be once he gets his promotion–probably in another state!

    But he is the breadwinner, so where he goes, I go!

    Post # 7
    5423 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2012

    We live where we grew up, though on the other side of the city.  We do plan to retire abroad.  But that is wayyy offf into the future.  No idea on how we are going to pick where.

    Post # 8
    2622 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    D all the above?

    We started in Boston, moved to SF area because of climate and job opportunity and hopefully will be moving again because of job opportunity and climate and because its closer to family.

    We have spent 5 years in SF area and will likely spend 5 years in the next location.

    We dont have to move, we just like it. 

    Not sure where to after that. 

    EDIT: I should add that Darling Husband works for a VERY large company that has many many operating companies. They way they groom their management is to move them around from different roles to different companies so you can kind of choose where to live. and they also pay for the move.

    Post # 9
    13096 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    All of the above.

    Darling Husband grew up in the Atlanta area and his parents are still here.  My parents are going to retire to south Georgia so they won’t be too far either.

    We both really like the city and the climate (although climate isn’t really a deciding factor, just a nice plus).  And we both are able to have plenty of job opportunities here.

    Post # 10
    588 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    All but climate haha. 

    I moved home after a couple years of college and decided to go a different route. I also landed a pretty sweet job shortly after. Darling Husband moved to be closer to me and has found steady work here. We’ve since gotten married and now pregnant so we’re looking at getting a house out here since it’s close to my family, we have good jobs, and where most of my friends are. I do feel bad we’re 6 hours away from his family and friends but even he’s said he’d rather stay here then move back home so yay!

    If it was up to me I’d move somehwere warm and sunny all year long!

    Post # 11
    7649 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Kind of all? Except climate.

    He already had a job as a teacher, so I wanted hi mto stay in that job, so I moved to wear he was (which was actually about 15 minutes from where I grew up and where my parents live) so it worked out great.

    Post # 12
    2143 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    Well ultimately we want to live in our home town. Being close to family is very very important to us. But in about a year we are moving to a small town in our province for work (specifically for his job, but there are better job opportunities for me as well as a teacher). We’ll be there or a few years a least, but plan on eventually settling down where we grew up. 

    Post # 13
    89 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    i am from virginia beach and  FH is from Scotland. Both places have their good and bads. ultimately , scotland is too cold/rainy for my liking. So for now, we’ve settled on VB

    Post # 14
    16194 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    Right now, we’re living near family and near where we grew up.

    Post # 15
    6123 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Like for the rest of your life?  Or just right now?

    Well we met in Utah and we both had jobs and homes in Utah, so that’s naturally where we’ll be for some years. 

    It’s no where near any family, but I like it like that.  I would prefer not to live near family. 

    Where we grew up – I have no desire to be near the town where I grew up.  It has no value to me.

    Jobs – we have good jobs now, but it’s not the only state we can work in.  H has a very high end job so he’s already got offers to work elsewhere and he’s not even looking!  I think we’ll be OK on that front, thankfully.

    We do know we’ll always be in a mountain state.  It has to have snow sometime during the year; we love to ski.   We need to have access to recreational lands.  An airport 1 hour away or so would be idea.

    So that kind of gives us a handful of states that we would be limited to (ID, MT, WY, UT, CO, NV, CA, OR, WA). 


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    Post # 16
    11390 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Job and family. We moved about an hour from where we use to live, with our parents due to my husband’s job. We recently moved closer to our families, but still close enough to his work.

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