(Closed) How did you determine which order your bridesmaids went / are going in?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
5152 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

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ladylawyer:  I put them alphabetically by last name – with my Maid/Matron of Honor first, obviously. My SIL made my wedding a fucking nightmare and I wanted her as FAR from me as possible. Luckily, her last name is at the end of the alphabet 🙂 

Post # 3
10452 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

You can do it by height or alphabetical or some other arbitrary method. No one’s feelings can get hurt if it’s a reasoning that clearly has nothing to do with who you are closest to.

We actually are doing family first though. FI’s brother is his best man so he will be first, then his sister (who is a groomswoman), then his best friend. It’s the reverse on my side though – first my best friend who is my maid of honor then my brother.

Post # 4
684 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - Nashville, TN

Shortest to tallest

Post # 4
369 posts
Helper bee

We went in age order. It was the simplest for us.

Post # 5
1078 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

We paired them with the guys and our relationships

Maid/Matron of Honor + Best Man (Cousin and brother)

Bridesmaid or Best Man 1 + Groomsmen 1 (both childhood friends)

Bridesmaid or Best Man 2 + Groomsmen 2 (both college friends / and the rowdy ones, haah)

Bridesmaid or Best Man 3 + Groomsmen 3 (My sister in law and my brother)

Our whole wedding party is very relaxed, and don’t really care what order they go in.  They have all also been through planning weddings, so they get it.  BM 2 had a particularly tough time with the order of the BMs, basically because of her parents.  She wanted myself or one of the other BMs to be close to her, while her family demanded that her cousin would be next to her (she isn’t close to this cousin).  I was like… ok, drama, put me whereever it is easiest for you, it has no bearing on our personal relationship, and hopefully will make life easier for you.

Post # 8
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Honey bee


Post # 9
9217 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

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ladylawyer:  I went be height, which actually turned out to be the order in which I met them too so that was a funny little discovery lol

Post # 10
2502 posts
Sugar bee

by height. it helps that my Maid/Matron of Honor and FI’s Best Man are both the tallest anyway.

Post # 11
222 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

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ladylawyer:  I did my Maid/Matron of Honor and then my sister who was my matron. After that I did it in order of who I knew the longest to shortest. My hubby had no order lol, our siblings walked together though. 

Post # 12
111 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

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ladylawyer:  I did my bridesmaids in order of when I met them. My sister was moh so that was easy. 

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 9 months ago by  Kwista17.
Post # 13
528 posts
Busy bee

I picked who I wanted to walk with which groomsman and then had DH pick what order he wanted the guys in.  One less thing I had to deal with!

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 9 months ago by  mrsyeti.
Post # 14
859 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I’m doing Bridesmaids by age and then matching Groomsmen based on who should walk with who.

Post # 15
1199 posts
Bumble bee

Maid/Matron of Honor, Sister, Stepsister, Future Sister-In-Law, then the rest we’ll figure out on the day haha

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