(Closed) How did you differentiate my MOH from Bridesmaids

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
6247 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

My girls all picked different styles but the same color.  To differentiate my Maid/Matron of Honor from the BMs I had all the bridesmaids stick with the same satin fabric as each other (whatever styles they wanted, in that fabric and color).  Then the Maid/Matron of Honor chose a dress in the same color but a chiffon fabric.

Post # 4
1736 posts
Bumble bee

I feel like I’m an outlier in the whole Maid/Matron of Honor looks different from the other girls. I am not doing anything to make her stand out as different. She is going to stand next to me in a place of honor at the ceremony and walk just before me in the processional. In my mind, that’s distinction enough. However, I do like your idea of different color orchids. Or perhaps you can have her wear pearls and the other girls do not. I have also seen all the bridesmaids wear their hair down and only the Maid/Matron of Honor wears it up (or vice versa).

Post # 5
232 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012 - The Chapel of the Sir Christopher Wren Building, 2007 Legacy Hall

All of my BMs wore different dresses, so I really wanted to differentiate my Maid/Matron of Honor. She wore a floral sash belt and her bouquet was slightly larger and different from the other BMs.

Post # 6
4415 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Mine had a slightly different dress, but that was totally by accident (they all went to the store separately and the other two liked the same dress while Maid/Matron of Honor liked a different one). I think her bouquet was ever-so-slightly bigger but not much.

I’m kind of with @MsMindle: in that there’s no need for her to REALLY look different. It will be obvious by her place in the processional, that you hand your bouquet to her, and that she gives a speech later.

A different color orchid would be a nice touch, though!

Post # 7
3697 posts
Sugar bee

People will already know she’s the Maid/Matron of Honor by virtue of the fact that she is the last one before the bride to walk in, she is standing closest to you, and her name is indicated as such in the program. You don’t have to visually differentiate her from the others. You can if you want to, but, when they’re already choosing their own dresses, it seems a bit like gilding the lily. Plus it puts you in the position of saying “I let you guys choose what you want to wear – but since you’re special, I’m going to impose something on you that I’m not asking of the rest.” …??

Post # 8
23597 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I went for really subtle – my Bridesmaid or Best Man wore double stranded pearl necklaces with a rhinestone brooch on them custom made from a seller on Etsy.  My MOH’s necklace was instead a triple stranded pearl necklace with a different rhinestone brooch.  I’m sure nobody noticed, but it helped my Maid/Matron of Honor feel special.

Post # 9
7901 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I had her walk down the aisle last before me, hold my bouquet during the ceremony, and give the MoH toast Tongue Out

She’ll be differentiated by where she stands and what she does. You don’t really need to do anything else. If you want to, I’d give her a bigger bouquet or a different colored one. The hair flower thing is fine, too, but I wonder if anyone will notice.

Post # 10
347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

The bouquet for my Maid/Matron of Honor will be slightly bigger than the rest of my bridesmaids, with one additional type of flower that the other girls won’t have.


Post # 11
267 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I let my bridesmaids pick their own dresses in chocolate brown chiffon, and my Maid/Matron of Honor has a cream sash while the others don’t.

Post # 13
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I also didn’t really do much.  She stood next to me in the ceremony and gave a speech, and noted it in the program.  Her bouquet might have been slightly larger than the others, but that was about it.  My sister isn’t the type that would want to pull rank on the other girls though, so that may have been a factor.

Post # 15
1938 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

All my bridesmaids wore different dresses in the same latte color, the regular bridesmaids wore knee length and my Maid/Matron of Honor wore full length. 

Post # 16
42 posts
  • Wedding: November 2013

All of my girls will be wearing the same dress which is eggplant with a charcoal sash. I will have a sash in my dress color with some sparkly beading or something (not sure yet) and she will have a smaller version of that on her sash while the others will be plain charcoal. The seamstress we spoke to said it would be easy to remove the beading from the white/ivory sash and sew it directly on the charcoal.

I will also be ordering a slightly larger bouquet for her.


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