(Closed) how did you do your wine box ceremony?

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
Member
1135 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

Hi!  We had a wine box ceremony and we loved it.  So did everyone watching.  We did the ceremony after our ring exchange and right before the pronouncement.  Here’s what we had our officiant say (I wrote the whole ceremony, and I’m officially giving you permission to use this if you’d like, or any part of it).

WINE BOX LOVE LETTER CEREMONY

Officiant Says: At this time, T and M would like you to witness an untraditional tradition.  The fact that it is untraditional is probably why it appeals to them so much.  Here’s how it works: M and T have written love letters to each other.  In these letters they have detailed why they fell in love and what they truly admire about the other person.  These letters were sealed before they could be read.  T has made this box, into which they will place the letters, along with a good bottle of wine.  They will then nail the box closed.  The idea is that if ever they find their marriage has hit a rough spot, they will bring out the box, they will open it, share the wine, and read the letters reminding them of the love that brought them together and the promises they made to each other here today.  It is their hope and belief that they will not need the box except in celebration of an anniversary (they hope to hold out until their 25th)–but if they do need it, it’s there.  This may not seem like the most romantic thing to do on a wedding day–to think about the days when things will be hard–but it’s important to T and M that their ceremony and promises to each other be realistic.  They know that marriage is hard.  They know it is a lot of work.  They mean every word that they have said here today, and they do not take lightly the words “as long as we both shall live.”

 

 

 

Basically, we had the box stashed behind the officiant, and he had our letters to each other in his folder.  When the time came, he handed each of us our letters (the ones we had written) and he went a got the box.  He then said the words I had written for him.  Then he handed my husband the box–my husband opened it for me to put my letter in.  He handed the box to me and I opened the box while he put his letter in.  We closed it and handed it back to our officiant who stored it away again.  Then we continued with the pronouncement.  Later, at home, we nailed it shut and we have it proudly displayed.  

 

 

That’s a bad picture of us, but it’s the only one of the winebox ceremony I have on this computer.  My husband made the box himself, which made it even more special to us.

 

I hope this helps, but let me know if you have other questions!

 

 

I had to add a few other photos so the ridiculous one wasn’t the only image you had of our ceremony.  It was really beautiful.  Good luck!

 

ETA: 

Oh, and also!  Make sure you go to a really reputable wine shop and talk to someone who knows what they’re talking about so that you get a bottle of wine that is going to be really good when you open it in 25 years.  We sort of thought that all wine gets better with age, but apparently only certain varieties do.  They should be able to tell you how long a particular bottle will last–we went with a bordeaux that will be good for 30 years, which is perfect for us, because we plan to open it on our 25th anniversary if we don’t end up having to use it before then.  It would be sad to open up the box and have bad wine!

Post # 4
Member
3241 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I love this idea!! Although I may make it a tradition we do every year.

PS @mrsmdphd: I think I have the same dress as you. 🙂 Love your photos!

Post # 5
Member
7300 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

We are doing it too, but we are going to open it on our first year ani and then write new letters and do it every 5 years.

Post # 6
Member
1135 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

@StarryNight2011: Thanks!  Yay, dress twins!!  Also, I’m from New Mexico, but my husband and I live in Nashville, so we got married here.  Small world!

Post # 7
Member
3241 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@mrsmdphd: Yay!  It sure is a small world…..I went to graduate school in Nashville.  We moved to New Mexico for jobs, he moved 2 years ago, I moved to NM not quite a year ago. 

@Miss Tattoo:  I like your version better.  I wasn’t sure I could convince FH to do this every year.  🙂

Post # 9
Member
217 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

wow, I have never heard of this but it sounds pretty cool, I love it!

Post # 10
Member
687 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

This is a really neat idea, I’ve never heard of it either! I love the idea of having that box there in case you do hit a hard time or to help you celebrate a big anniversary!  I’m totally going to show this to my Fiance and see what he thinks! Thanks for sharing ladies 🙂

Post # 11
Member
3364 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I told my mom about this and LOVE this! =]

Im glad she thought it was nice and untraditional! She is VERY traditional!

Post # 12
Member
2538 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

We also chose to do the one year thing.  So the officiant said that we wrote letters to eachother that we would open in a year and then would replace the bottle of wine and write 2 new letters.  I bought a nice bottle from FIs favorite label.  I bought the box on etsy.  PM me if you want the details.  The guy rushed it to me in less than 5 days (because I waited until the last moment).  He laser engraved our names and wedding date and it looked awesome!

My guests thought it was the coolest thing.  No one had ever seen it before.

Good luck!

Post # 13
Member
1991 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We decided to do this too! We’re actually deciding to do the 10 year mark for us. We’ve been trying to figure out what wine to get because we both only like sweet wine and we want something that will last that long.

The topic ‘how did you do your wine box ceremony?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors