To answer your questions:
What did you think about your bridal shower and bachelorette parties?
I had the MOST incredible shower and bach that I could have ever wanted!! I was very happy. I am very close to my cousins (bridesmaids) and friends (who are super fun people) so I trusted them completely to make the night memorable for me.
Did the hosts ask you what you wanted?
My cousins know me from childhood so they pretty much understood what I liked and disliked. They only asked me input about who to invite.
And would you prefer them to ask what you wanted or should you just find out the day of and be surprised?
I did not want to be involved at all. The only thing I wanted them to do was to include me when drawing up the invite list and nothing disrespectful to myself or my hubby (but that was a given).
Was anyone disappointed in their days? Or begin off disappointed and then just suck it up and realize that you were with people you loved and ended up having fun?
Also…was there anyone who you LOVED and wanted to be there, but you were worried would kind of bring the party down? This seems to be a re-occuring theme…someone who is a big prude, or doesn’t include themselves in activities on a regular basis. Did they suck it up for the big day or did they actually bring the party down!?!?
Not at all. I don’t usually worry about who would bring the party down. I was going to have fun regardless. I only worried a LITTLE about having my family at the shower (since some do not speak English very well), but my cousins handled that with grace and everyone felt included.
I had a Destination Wedding in Cancun. So my bridal shower was Mexican themed.
They had a pinata, many different (family-safe) games, food and an outdoor TENT. Originally they told me they had want to book a donkey (that was kind of overkill hahaha).
My bachelorette was Moulin Rouge themed. I was to be “Satine” and my girls were the “Diamond Dogs”. The hosts had lots of food/snacks that they made themselves set up at a friend’s house for pre-drinks. We did bachelorette bingo. They booked a VIP booth at a lounge/club and had food catered for the night. It was just fabulous!
For both my bridal shower and bachelorette, my cousins (BMs/hosts) blindfolded me, drove me to a meet up point, passed me off to another vehicle, so that I would not know where I was going. It was a lot of fun!!
In the end, I don’t have much advice other thank to choose the right people to be your hosts/bridal party and to relinquish control. =) Just plan to enjoy yourself no matter who is there/not there and no matter what you do!! If you are uncomfortable with something, let the hosts know off the bat. Respect is key.