Post # 1
OK… I want to know whether I’m insane or whether some of you ladies can relate
I cancelled my wedding i think it could be 2 months ago by now… the wedding date was set to be on Saturday 15/07/2017. I am feeling a bit depressed just the thought of me being an actual bride to be and living the entire experience, doing my nails, my hair, making sure my dress is steamed etc etc… and here i am planning to watch movies the entire day on the day i was supposed to get married i feel SAD!!!…
How did you feel/or how do you feel????
Post # 2
So sorry to hear that. Did you postpone the wedding or cancel it completely (like breaking up)? Either way, if you feel really bad, perhaps it would be a nice day to just hang out with a good friend and just relax/pamper yourself!
Post # 3
slothbear : Yeah we broke up and cancelled completely
Post # 4
MissyWinters : I am sorry to hear that. My FI and I have postponed our wedding several times and the first time I was a little bummed, but we are still together so it was not that big a deal.
You on the other hand are dealing with a breakup, which I would treat like any other breakup. Trying to take care of myself and get back to being in a good place again. Mentally and emotionally. Good luck to you!
Post # 5
My husband ended an engagement with about 6 months until the wedding. We were dating when the wedding date rolled around and he was definitely affected by it. It’s normal to mourn the life you thought you were going to have, even if you were the one to decide it wasn’t going to happen.
He decided to spend the day with a group of our friends and make it as normal a day as possible. Do what relaxes you. If you’re up for socializing, I suggest keeping it low key and not alcohol-based…but that’s because I tend to be an emotional drunk. Not what you need on that day.
Post # 6
tinneranne2 : He cheated on me so i doubt drinking will help i might drunk call him and tell him excatly how i feel… so i will pass on the alcohol i dont want to be feeling worse…
Post # 7
MissyWinters : I ended an engagement a couple of years ago, also for cheating, so I know how you feel. We had a wedding date set so it was kind of weird when that date did come around. I kept myself very busy with my friends (I was single at the time). I had no plans on contacting my ex but surprisingly, he texted me and said he was sorry again for what happened. I didn’t respond but just hearing from him made me feel worse for a while. My friends knew what day it was and I will say, they were great at keeping me distracted.
Hand in there. You’ll get through it.
Post # 8
I have not been in this position, but much love to you, bee. Fill the day with whatever your version of self-care is. Eat some good food, watch what you like on tv, take naps…whatever helps. Hugs <3
Post # 9
Call your best friend or mom and have a girls day. Get your nails done, buy a new outfit and go out to a nice dinner. Nothing will take away the sadness but pampering yourself with a loved one will be a good distraction.
Post # 10
MissyWinters : I have a friend who cancelled 2 months before her wedding date. She got the invitations and just couldn’t send them out because of a nagging feeling in the back of her mind that it wasn’t the right decision.
She spent the day that was supposed to be her wedding with friends and trying to stay as distracted as possible. They were engaged for 2 full years so it was a day she was looking forward to for a long time. I know she felt guilty for the money both her parents and she lost, but it was the right call. The girls who were going to be her bridesmaids hung out with her all day, and she is in a much better place right now than she was at that time, just over a year ago.
Post # 11
🙁 I’m sorry you’re going through this OP.
I hope you can turn the day into one with positive memories – self care, give yourself some pampering and remember, while it hurts now, it was for the best to avoid marrying this man.
Post # 12
MissyWinters : I’ve never been in your position before so I can’t exactly say how I felt, the first wedding date we planned on has passes though, a little disappointing, but we are still getting married so for that I am thankful.
Your situation is entirely different, I would say that you should keep yourself busy, perhaps go out for coffee or watch a movie with a close friend or family member? But as much as I say this, I also think that its equally important that you allow yourself to mourn the loss of the relationship and the life you invisioned for yourself with your previous partner. The only way you can move on is if your face the hurt and the pain head on, allow it to wash over you so that you know you have dealt with it, you have no more tears to cry or pain to feel and then you can start building yourself up again. 😘
Post # 13
Dear Beez, i would like to thank each and everyone of you posting on this thread and i am glad i took your advise i kept myself as busy as possible i shed a few tears but funny enough i eventually deleted our pics his number everything and i felt i let go…
My friends and family were very supportive and he even sent a message saying sorry blah blah whatever now…
It still hurts but I believe I deserve better…
Thank you for all your motivational stories and comfort… lotsa love xoxo
Post # 14
I went through this a little less than four years ago… not gonna lie, it was rough. I called off my wedding almost exactly 6 months before the day, and even though I was the one to break everything off, it was still extremely difficult for me. Everything I thought he was and everything my life had become was a lie and was not at all how I pictured it.
It is normal to feel sad and mourn a cancelled wedding, event though it wasn’t right for you. I hope you weren’t too hard on yourself this weekend, you deserve some self love! <3
Post # 15
PinkCat : thank you for sharing your story, i am glad that i had good support from all the bees