Post # 1
Hey Bees – I posted on here a month-ish ago about waiting for my boyfriend to propose. (Quick summary: Been together a little over three years, living together for two. Looked at rings a year ago, but to this day he still won’t give me a timeline on when he might propose.)
It was recently his birthday and I asked what his goals for the next year is, and one of them was, “Marry you.” Which, now you’ve got less than year, so maybe he meant propose? Will have to clarify. (Was planning to give him until January-ish to propose and if he doesn’t, will have the “give me a timeline or I won’t think you’re serious (and maybe leave)” talk.)
But anyway. It got me thinking. I’ve been waiting for a proposal for a year now, and I’ve lost a lot of the excitement I once had for it. I still want to marry him and spend my life with him, but I’ve been so frustrated that he doesn’t seem ready or doesn’t want to YET that it’s just not as fun for me anymore. (I bought a wedding magazine a couple months after we looked at rings. I’ve since recycled it.) I joke that when he finally proposes, my answer will be “FINALLY!” not “YES!” I’m not an overly emotionaly/sappy person anyway but – for those who waited and their guy finally proposed – were you excited when he did it? What was it like?
(I realize this might not be the best board for this – not sure how many post-waiting Bees are here!)
Post # 2
I waited for him to propose for what seemed like forever. I felt like maybe I wasn’t good enough, pretty enough, lovable enough… I started to feel resentment whenever he would joke about proposing. And then whenever he joked about it or strongly hinted about it, I began to feel like he wasn’t actually serious about proposing and that he just fishing for an ego boost from my reaction.
When he FINALLY proposed, I was just soooo relieved. I was thrilled, excited, and on cloud nine. Just knowing he was mine forever was the best feeling ever. It was just a huge weight taken off my shoulders. I still wish he didn’t wait so long though. I mean, either you want to marry me or not stop dragging it out and ask already, lol!
Post # 3
We dated for like 3.5 years before he proposed. I’m not super emotional, either, and I sort of found out that he was going to do it that day because I accidentally found the ring box. lol So I thought, omg, now I’ve gotta try to look surprised. When he did it, I was excited, though. So it worked out and he still doesn’t know that I knew. lol Plus, it was kind of funny because he was walking me out to this place at a park where we first met and right before we got there and he was about to pop the question, he gets a business call that he has to answer. lol It was amusing.
Post # 4
Thrilled. It was so many things at once. I was watcing this man I loved so much tell me he wanted to spend his life with me, knowing this was it. This was the start of it all. It was exciting and thilling.
We’re been together almost 3 years. It wasn’t a surprise. His family had been waiting. Everyone knew this was it. Hands down no question.
Post # 5
lilylove14 : I was with my fiance for 4.5 years before he proposed. I was definitely ready for it and very excited when he finally did!
Post # 6
I was with my Fiance for 8 years before he proposed. We had talked about being together forever, being married to each other and having kids and made moves in that direction but never made it official with a proposal. I didn’t know he had a ring so when he got down on one knee I was SHOCKED to say the least. I held it together for about a minute then broke down crying.
Post # 7
I was with my SO for 6 yrs and living together for 4 until he proposed. To be honest when it actually happened I was in shock lol I was on a high but really shocked that it was real. It took me about a week after he proposed until it sunk in and then I was super excited! I was starting to feel a bit like u r now so don’t worry u will be excited 😀