(Closed) How did you find out what sort of ring you wanted? How did SO know what to buy?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

My Fiance and I went ring shopping together. We had had conversations about getting engaged, and Fiance mentioned that he had no idea what type of ring to get me, and I honestly didn’t know either at the time. I suggested we go in and look at different rings. We went a couple of times to several different stores where I made a “wish list” at each store with my favorite rings. It was pretty clear once I started trying on rings at the first store what type of ring I wanted (round, halo, lots of sparkle) so after the first visit it was easier to make my “wish lists”. At some stores they discussed prices in front of both me and my Fiance and some they pulled the Fiance away to discuss prices (I noticed this more at the more expensive stores). In the end, we purchased our center stone online off Blue Nile together, and he picked out the setting from one of favorites of the wish lists I had made. He ended up picking my favorite one, said he could tell when I tried it on that it was favorite. ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I just went with my instinct. I planned my whole wedding on my first instinct as well and didn’t second guess a thing!

When it comes to spending lots of money on things (like a ring!) I tend to go classic. Nothing that will date or need replacing or resetting. So when my then boyfriend asked what sort of ring did would like I said a round diamond solitare in Platinum. He asked if I was sure, did I want side diamonds ect I said No. 

I left the rest up to him. I didn’t get in to carats or clarity or anything. He choose me a really special stone and a Cartier style custom setting.

If I had actually chosen a ring myself in a shop I may have gone a different route seeing things on my fingers but then again maybe not! I don’t know… this is why it is good he choose lol.

Oh also we didn’t talk about cost. I thought that was definitely up to him! I still don’t know exactly what it cost. It’s not about that is it.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I went to a jewelry store to try things on! I would have gone alone, but my SO’s sister was looking at rings for herself as well, so she went with me. 

I thought I knew what I wanted, but it was different having something actually on my finger. I tried on several different things I liked pictures of, and found I liked a solitaire with a plain band more than other styles.

After trying things on, I told my Fiance what I liked, and showed him some pictures. He ended up setting an heirloom diamond into a setting with a plain yellow gold band, just like a picture I showed him. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

napabride17 :  

That’s sweet. They are pretty good at listening sometimes these men aren’t they ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 6
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Blushing bee

We went ring shopping together to get ideas of what I liked and what looked good on me, and then he went and picked out the ring himself based on what we learned from that trip.

Post # 7
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304 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

ladyfreya :  When they want to be! wink My Future Sister-In-Law went with him to pick out the actual ring, because she knew what I liked too, but apparently he did fine picking the setting on his own!

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I wanted a bezel because I work with delicate fabric and prongs sometimes snag. I told him what I wanted. He went to a custom jeweler, discussed what I wanted. He showed me a CAD before ordering. Easy peasy. Communication is much easier than a surprise. I have no idea what the specs are, I didn’t care and haven’t asked. I could look at the insurance paperwork if I wanted to know. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Painswick Church and the Falcon Hotel

Mine was a total surprise but I loved it a traditional round 6 prong solitaire diamond 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

I think it’s useful to experiment around with some inexpensive costume jewelry rings to get a better sense for size, style, and what feels comfortable to you.  You might surprise yourself and learn you want a much bigger or smaller stone than you had in mind, discover you don’t like the way pave feels, etc.  

I don’t know what size ring you wear, but I think this is especially useful if your fingers are significantly smaller or larger than the rings kept in stock at jewelers.  I have large fingers – 9 to 9.5 size ring finger – and I can’t truly try on any rings at the jewelers, so it’s really hard for me to get a sense of whether I actually like a certain style. 

 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper

For years I drooled over round cut halo engagement rings. I finally tried a couple on and was underwhelmed.  To me, I felt the center stone became lost.  Then one dat while browsing instagram I came across a solitaire and suddenly it all just clicked.  In that moment I realized that solitaires fit my simplistic style and for years I was trying to force upon myself a style that just wasn’t “me”.  I ended up getting that exact ring style that I found on instrgram.  I got it before ever trying on a solitaire and its perfect for me.

a) ring shopping w SO **do jewelers talk pricing in front of the “bride”?

Yes, knowing your budget is key when shopping around.
b) ring shopping alone or with girlfriends/fam

The only ring shopping that I did instore was with my now Fiance.
c) just cruising pics online

I took lead in shopping around online.  
d) completely surprised by SO, no input at all

Nope, I was involved in the process up to the point that the ring was being made and purchased.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

My Fiance had discussed rigns in the past and we went to look at rings together. The store asked if we wanted to talk pricing or if they would like to do it seperatly, we were open about the spending so he spoke in front of me. 

I knew the ring I wanted early on and my Fiance lovedi t as well. 

One of my friends went to Lauren B with her soon to be Fiance and they looked at rings and he continued the conversation with the person over email after they left. 

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper

I looked at rings online on my own. Then Darling Husband and I went looking at rings together. I narrowed it down to a few ones that I liked, and he chose from there. It was very fun, and he actually chose my favorite style before I even realized it was my top choice!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

a) ring shopping w SO **do jewelers talk pricing in front of the “bride”?

We went together and spent a few days looking around. I ended up loving the first one I saw and, little did I know, he had bought it right after we went into that first store, along with the wedding band and matching anniversary band. Poor guy went along to a dozen other jewellers while knowing he’d already bought the ring.

I knew exactly what our budget was and exactly how much the rings cost. We don’t hide anything money-wise from one another, and this expense was no exception.

I ended up with a 1 ct. round solitaire. It was about $8,000 for the ring and the wedding band.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee

Growing up, I’d always seen my mom with a yellow gold round cut five stone diamond ring and thought I wanted that. One time I started looking online for fun out of boredom and ended up falling for the exact opposite sort of style instead. Our mutual best friends vowed to make sure he got me that ring haha.

Eventually, he started talking about it and asked if I wanted to be involved. He then sent me ring shopping with my best friend for fun, and I just tried on a bunch of things. Then he and I went around our town, and the next major city and looked at quite a few places. He’s essentially letting me choose every part of the ring (it’s a gemstone other than diamond, so price isn’t really a concern) and then I won’t get to see it again until whenever he proposes. 

 

Most at jewelers did talk money in front of us, and it was only awkward once when I tried on a gorgeous ring that was way over budget. (I thought the price was the overall price, not the setting alone, yikes)

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