Post # 1
Did you surprise your guests by sending save the dates to see who was interested?
I need to get an estimate but I don’t want to send an email and I’m not ready with enough info for full invitations. The save the dates will have to contain enough info and/or the website so ppl can make the $ decision.
Btw – its 14 months away and I’m getting quotes for resort packages.
Post # 3
We’re sending our save the dates probably next week (they’re being printed). The only bad thing I’ve heard is that if you send them out more than a year in advance people will get the year wrong and assume its for the current year (crazy I know).
Post # 4
@asscherlover: actually i read a story about that on etiquette hell. a guest got mixed up, flew in from canada (to a different country i forget which) and was surprised to find nobody there….rang the groom and found out he was a year early. and apparently he made it the next year too!
i find giving people an initial heads up as early as possible is good, then you can do an official save the date 10 months before (with website done and details ready) then the actual invite close to the time
Post # 5
@newname_99: Hilarious! I could actually see my fam making that mistake.
I was originally planning an Out of Town wedding near my hometown (where I no longer live). Once we booked the venue, I sent out an email out to let them. I listed the neighborhood we booked the park in and didn’t think it was necessary to add the state abbreviation after the area name. They all live in the area, but somehow they were all confused on whether the neighborhood was in the state I live in now or their state.
I was in awe at how confused ppl can get.
Post # 6
I kind of did a mixture of both those top ones. I sent out an email with a link to the wedding website. For some reason, our travel agent needed deposits down almost 10 months in advance to guarantee the spots, so we told the guests that and just figured whoever put their deposits down was coming. People can still book later but we don’t bet many will.
Post # 7
So are you basically looking for an RSVP at this point? People aren’t going to know their schedules or financial situations enough to commit to a wedding 14 months away.If you just do an informal poll or something, more people will say they’re coming, but back out when it’s time to pay. If you need people to put down hotel/flight deposits, then you should send a save the date with an insert saying “Hotel block will be held until (Date)” and give the hotel info there.
Post # 8
uh, i pretty much estimate almost no one will come. im relatively certain about my parents, my brother, and his parents. other than that, cousins and their kids, aunts/uncles, grandparents, even best friends will shock me if they actually book flights regardless of what their RSVP status will be.
i just looked up flights for this year during my wedding month so that i could get a general idea of next years rates. it was expensive. i gave the cheapest rates for air and hotel i could find to his mom and let her spread the word on her side and my mom and let her spread the word on my side.
ETA: havent gotten to the std’s yet, but will def send those out as SOON as we set a date (hopefully in about a month when we go on a site visit) which will give 1 year advance notice (even tho they have all known for 6 months already so far)
Post # 9
We actually called some people and spoke to them on the phone. Other than that, we spoke to others through email and facebook, just to get an idea. Other than that, we did our invitations with RSVP’s and kept a website. If it weren’t for keeping in touch through phone/email then we probably wouldn’t have had as many guests even come.