Post # 1
I know a lot of bees are using friendors to reduce costs. My question is how did you get them? Did you ask them about purchasing their services? Did they volunteer their help?
I ask this because I have a friend that I know works in a print shop. While I wouldn’t say no to free printing, if I’m already paying someone I’d rather give the business to a company that I know someone at, if only because I think I would get a little more personalized attention and I wouldn’t have to wonder if the business is reputable (I’m currently calling random places from the phone book).
But that friend hasn’t exactly volunteered their company’s info. It’s more like “Yeah, I work at a print shop”. Not even a plug like you should use x company for your printing.
I’d rather use their company, but at the same time I don’t want it to seem like I expect them to give me anything.
How did you approach your friendors?
Post # 3
There are really only two ways, that make sense. You can wait and see if he offers, or you can inquire as to his rates, not at all expecting a discount – same as any other vendor.
Post # 4
We used both of the methods that lola2011 references. For example, for our reception venue (a private club), we asked how much it would cost to rent. The owner, who is a friend, gave us a number that was way below what he would normally rent it for. Other friends approached us to volunteer their services.
Post # 5
I was just going to inquire about rates, but I didn’t want it to come off as if I expect something. I’d hate to only be asking how much and have him interpret it as why aren’t you giving me a discount. (I know some people are more sensitive than I am). I also didn’t want to cause any awkwardness or make him feel bad for not offering a discount.
Post # 6
@IAmLemondrop: We did the same thing as PP’s. FI’s aunt and uncle own a winery, so his mom called them up and asked about pricing. His aunt offered us CUSTOM wine (I mean, with our own label/pic of us on it) for 8 dollars a bottle (plus free delivery because she’s coming to our wedding anyways).