loden : Our family is a 20 hour plane flight away, so we actually are having my mom and sisters come about 4 weeks after he is due to 1) make sure he’s here! and 2) give the hubs and I time to figure things out with him together. They’ll be staying in our apartment, but have very kindly offered to get a hotel nearby either beforehand or while they’re here if its too hectic. Also, I made a point (I said it in a much nicer way – not nearly as blunt as this sounds!!) to let them know that I will not be “entertaining” them. The fridge will be stocked but I’m not making food or doing dishes, I’m not making plans for trips or sightseeing for any “down time”, I’m not washing their clothes, etc. They have free reign of the house so go ahead and water my plants or vaccuum or do your laundry if you’d like. The grocery store is down the street if there’s something they’d like to get.
They will be with us for Thanksgiving, and I told them the hubs and I will order a ham to be delivered and they can run to the store and get some Thanksgiving stuff if they want, but that’s it for our contribution. If they want more, then can totally do it (and I will be very appreciative!) but I just don’t think I’ll be up for it. If I am, that’s awesome because I love Thanksgiving and the whole season, but I don’t want anyone to expect there to be a Thanksgiving meal here.
(Gosh I sound terrible, but I just don’t want anyone to be expecting a vacation when it’s really not. I also said this WAY nicer and my family is 100% down with it – they don’t expect anything from me or hubs at all. They just want to meet him and spend some time with us. )
As for friends, the plan is to wait 2-3ish weeks at least until inviting people for a short “meet the baby!” in our home. We’ll probaby do like our friends have done before and do small groups at a time (just 2 couples/4 people) for an hour at most. Most of my friends have kids already and have done it this way and it seems to work out very well.
I *know* that I don’t want people at the hospital, so we’re not even making that an option. I also expect to be pretty sore and tired for at the very least a week after, so again, not an option for visits. If I’m not feeling good still around week 2, then we’ll delay people coming for a bit. I’m learning this time (being pregnant) is both a very selfish and selfless time – it’s all about me and it’s all about baby – so “we” do what we need or want, when we need to or want to. Everyone else gets to play by our rules.
As for shots and things for visitors- 90% of our friends and family are either nurses or in the military (or a spouse) so they will all have their flu shot and whooping cough vaccines already. We do have a friend or two that are anti-vaccine, and that’s fine – it’s their life and their choice – and they can still come and meet him. We’ll just ask that anyone that isn’t feeling well to please don’t come, vaccine or not (especially because I still get the flu every year with the vaccine, so I understand it doesn’t completely remove the possibility of catching it). And obviously everyone will wash their hands!!!