(Closed) How did you handle thank-you notes?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Who wrote the thank you notes after your wedding? (Or how will you split them up?)
    I wrote all of them. : (15 votes)
    47 %
    He wrote all of them. : (0 votes)
    We split them up according to relationships (he did his family, I did mine, etc.) : (11 votes)
    34 %
    Some other awesome way (please share in the comments!) : (5 votes)
    16 %
    Derp. : (1 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    989 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We’re going to split them according to relationship.  It should be roughly 60/40 (more for me) in the end.

    Post # 4
    3471 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

    HA! If I asked my husband to write them it’d never happen.  Seriously I have to forge his signature on the Christmas cards every year.  

    What was really bad was the year his own MOM commented about how cute it was that he signed them in his somewhat-childish handwriting (I always write cards in cursive, but I signed his name the way he does).  I didn’t have the heart to tell her it wasn’t really him. 

    Post # 6
    2281 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    My husband has just about the godawfullest handwriting in the whole history of bad handwriting. I wrote the thank you notes and he signed his name to them. Nothing else would have produced notes that would be correctly directed by the post office or readable once they arrived. 

    Post # 7
    235 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    My husband’s handwriting is awful (not that mine is great), but how we’ve done it so far is he types out what we are going to say for all of them and then I handwrite them.   We sit next to each other so i can read off the screen and can help him write stuff for my great aunt.  It goes faster than me just thinking on my feet, and we are both involved.  

    Post # 8
    10453 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I plan to make him do his own guests’ thank you cards!

    Post # 9
    3303 posts
    Sugar bee

    I am writing them, he is signing me along with me.

    Post # 10
    201 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We would split them, but FI’s handwriting is completely illegible. Even he can’t read it. I’m doing them all. My hand is already tired and the wedding is still 2 weeks away…

    Post # 11
    7902 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    Traditionally, if you split the duty, your switch families and friends. The bride writes to teh groom’s family and guests and the groom to the bride’s. It’s a mark of the integration of the two social units. You are not a part of his family; he is now a part of yours. I don’t know if anyone really does it this way that often nowadays though, but I think it’s a nice jesture if you are splitting the duty.

    I did all of ours.

    Post # 12
    658 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I wrote most of them and he signed them. I did ask him to write the ones to his parents, grandparents, and groomsmen BUT that was 3 weeks ago. Mine have been out for weeks now.. it’s annoying and he keeps saying he’ll do them. I just want to write them but I know it would mean more if he wrote them.

    Post # 14
    873 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I was pretty much a baby about it.  I was only able to invite a dozen friends and family because his family took up our entire 180 person guest list and then only about 60 showed up (although many more sent gifts).

    I was kind of (ok, really) ticked off about it so I lied and said etiquette demanded he write thank you notes to the people on his side.  He happily did it and I felt a little better about getting shafted on the guest list.

    Post # 15
    3265 posts
    Sugar bee

    We were an assembly line.  One wrote the note and the other addressed and stamped the envelope.  Every few we would change. 

    We did write some really key ones to our own families, but otherwise it was just luck of the draw.


    Post # 16
    1309 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We had a very small wedding so we’re only sending out about 25 thank you notes. I’m making him do 2, I’ve done the rest.

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