Post # 1
Hey bees! I’m curious how you split up the thank you note writing responsibilities after the wedding. I’m writing the ones for my family, friends, and our mutual friends, and I’m asking my husband(!) to write the ones for his family and friends. He’s kind of dragging his feet on getting his done, but I think it would be nicer for his family to get a note from him rather than me. Does the bride usually write all of them? Or is it normal to share? How did you (or how are you planning to) do it?
Post # 3
We’re going to split them according to relationship. It should be roughly 60/40 (more for me) in the end.
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
HA! If I asked my husband to write them it’d never happen. Seriously I have to forge his signature on the Christmas cards every year.
What was really bad was the year his own MOM commented about how cute it was that he signed them in his somewhat-childish handwriting (I always write cards in cursive, but I signed his name the way he does). I didn’t have the heart to tell her it wasn’t really him.
Post # 6
My husband has just about the godawfullest handwriting in the whole history of bad handwriting. I wrote the thank you notes and he signed his name to them. Nothing else would have produced notes that would be correctly directed by the post office or readable once they arrived.
Post # 7
My husband’s handwriting is awful (not that mine is great), but how we’ve done it so far is he types out what we are going to say for all of them and then I handwrite them. We sit next to each other so i can read off the screen and can help him write stuff for my great aunt. It goes faster than me just thinking on my feet, and we are both involved.
Post # 8
I plan to make him do his own guests’ thank you cards!
Post # 9
I am writing them, he is signing me along with me.
Post # 10
We would split them, but FI’s handwriting is completely illegible. Even he can’t read it. I’m doing them all. My hand is already tired and the wedding is still 2 weeks away…
Post # 11
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Traditionally, if you split the duty, your switch families and friends. The bride writes to teh groom’s family and guests and the groom to the bride’s. It’s a mark of the integration of the two social units. You are not a part of his family; he is now a part of yours. I don’t know if anyone really does it this way that often nowadays though, but I think it’s a nice jesture if you are splitting the duty.
I did all of ours.
Post # 12
I wrote most of them and he signed them. I did ask him to write the ones to his parents, grandparents, and groomsmen BUT that was 3 weeks ago. Mine have been out for weeks now.. it’s annoying and he keeps saying he’ll do them. I just want to write them but I know it would mean more if he wrote them.
Post # 13
@mrsSonthebeach: Interesting! I’ve never heard this before. Thanks for sharing!
Post # 14
I was pretty much a baby about it. I was only able to invite a dozen friends and family because his family took up our entire 180 person guest list and then only about 60 showed up (although many more sent gifts).
I was kind of (ok, really) ticked off about it so I lied and said etiquette demanded he write thank you notes to the people on his side. He happily did it and I felt a little better about getting shafted on the guest list.
Post # 15
We were an assembly line. One wrote the note and the other addressed and stamped the envelope. Every few we would change.
We did write some really key ones to our own families, but otherwise it was just luck of the draw.
Post # 16
We had a very small wedding so we’re only sending out about 25 thank you notes. I’m making him do 2, I’ve done the rest.