(Closed) how did you handle turning the BIG 40?

posted 5 years ago in 40 Something
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I am sorry turning 40 has made you feel depressed. My advice is to embrace it because the part of your life of trying to find yourself is over. You know what you want and have the ability to make it happen. Your Fiance loves you and chose you to spend the rest of his life with you may feel bad right now but trust me it does past and you will realize that it is truly a blessing to have made this far.

You are having what sounds like hormonal issues right now but they will past I promise and all of a sudden you will start to feel great and the sun will shine brighter and you will look at your Fiance and say I am so blessed.

I am 48 and love everyday of my life my girls are grown, I have a man that loves me, I am healthy inspite of having arthritis, sure I wake up with pain here and there but I am just thankful that I am here and can enjoy the second half of my life the way I want.

GOD BLESS YOU AND BIG HUG!!!

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think you need to be grateful. The alternative to turning 40 is not making it to 40, that is what I reminded myself. I’m in my late 40s and am thankful for all the wonderful things God has given me, including good health. We can still enjoy happy and health lives up to 80 and beyond.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@HisNightOwl2014:  I know thinking about the initial 40 can be a bit shocking at first but I promise you when you do embrace it you will say to yourself this is GREAT!!!!

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

You HAVE to embrace it. They say “40 is the new 30…”, well, I would MUCH rather be 40 (41st birthday in less than a month) than 30. I didn’t have my $hit together at 30, even though I THOUGHT I did. :)-

Do something BIG for your birthday. My then-FI and I went to New Orleans for a long weekend… when you’re having a hurricane, you don’t care HOW old you are!

40 is good. Yeah, I’m not running as fast as I did 10 years ago, etc., but like paula1248 said, there are too many people who don’t make it to 40. Sickness/illness can happen to 2-year olds.

Maybe take a cue from Oprah, and get a gratitude journal. As cheesy as that might sound, when you focus on the amazing things about being 40 and FABULOUS, hopefully it will help your perspective.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@HisNightOwl2014:  You’ll be fine. Yo won’t suddenly lose your health after 40 unless you suddenly get a whole bunch of bad habits.  After 40, I reached 100 push ups for the first time. I was probably in the best shape of my life at 47. I just seem to need a little more sleep than I used to (age 49 now)

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I just turned 40 as well.  The most annoying thing for me was entering the age in the treadmill at the gym.  Otherwise, I don’t mind;  I’m thinner, happier and healthier at 40 than I was at 30 or even 20.  I’m glad I’m not as neurotic about what other people think as I was at 20 and 30 seemed harder as I cared more about not being hip and all that.

What’s cool about being a 40-year-old bride is that we’re mature enough to know that we can still do whatever we want as married women as we did as single women.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

I’m over 40 and still in denial hahahaha…Just lie…lol

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’ll be 43 in two months. I’m still trying to come to terms with it but then I’ve been depressed by my birthday since 35 or so. Hugs. 

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

P.S. I’d love to be turning 35 now. My husband is only 32 and I’d really like to give him a baby. 🙁

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

It’s a number. We tend to mark milestones, but I’ve never felt any different on a birthday than I did the day before.

At age 42, I still have people who think I look younger than I am and to be honest, when I start looking my actual age I think that’s when it will start to bother me. I don’t feel like I’m 42, I just feel like me. Some of that comes from the fact that my grandma is 95 and still active (well, active for 95). We have a game that started when I was 12. At age 12 I thought it would be waaaaay cooler to be 21, so I told grandma I wanted to switch the numbers. At the time she was 65 and she thought 56 sounded better, so ever since we switch numbers (or add, subtract, whatever) to make our age better.

So go out and channel your inner 04 year old! 😉

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I turned 40 last year and just like you I was not eager/excite about that at all.  When I was 24, I thought 25 was not young anymore.  When I was 30, I thought that’s it, “I’m old.”  Can you imagine how would I feel when I was about to turn 40? LOL!

I think my issue was most of my friends at work thought I was late twenties or early thirties so it’s difficult to tell them that I was turning 40 (and most of them just couldn’t believe it).  Funny thing is, after telling them how old I am, I feel much better about my age (not sure why).  

So once you past your 40th birthday, you will feel better and accept that more.  You grow older, you get wiser, and your life is getting better (getting married!) :-).  Age is just numbers as long as you can enjoy your life like you’re 39, why feel depress about it!

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