Post # 1
Greetings beautiful Bee’s
im not taking turning 40 very well at all ; ( i really wish i was not getting so depressed over it.
but i cant help it it makes me so sad that im getting older and im crying all the time when im alone. im marrying the man of my dreams and im so depressed over my birthday.
i feel so ungrateful im lucky and thank God im healthy and my family/friends are too.
i feel like after 40 come sickness/illness and that scares me.
i worrie about every lil pain i have and im driving EVERYONE crazy lol im getting yelled at or ignored. please no being mean or snarky to me i just need some kind support here.
im really going thru a tough time mentally about this.
enyone else going thru this?
Post # 3
I am sorry turning 40 has made you feel depressed. My advice is to embrace it because the part of your life of trying to find yourself is over. You know what you want and have the ability to make it happen. Your Fiance loves you and chose you to spend the rest of his life with you may feel bad right now but trust me it does past and you will realize that it is truly a blessing to have made this far.
You are having what sounds like hormonal issues right now but they will past I promise and all of a sudden you will start to feel great and the sun will shine brighter and you will look at your Fiance and say I am so blessed.
I am 48 and love everyday of my life my girls are grown, I have a man that loves me, I am healthy inspite of having arthritis, sure I wake up with pain here and there but I am just thankful that I am here and can enjoy the second half of my life the way I want.
GOD BLESS YOU AND BIG HUG!!!
Post # 4
@niasg1: thank you so much your words mean alot to me ; ) blessings
as i say to myself everyday this too will pass ; ) i want to be happy and iam very blessed and lucky i have made it this far.
Post # 5
I think you need to be grateful. The alternative to turning 40 is not making it to 40, that is what I reminded myself. I’m in my late 40s and am thankful for all the wonderful things God has given me, including good health. We can still enjoy happy and health lives up to 80 and beyond.
Post # 6
@HisNightOwl2014: I know thinking about the initial 40 can be a bit shocking at first but I promise you when you do embrace it you will say to yourself this is GREAT!!!!
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
You HAVE to embrace it. They say “40 is the new 30…”, well, I would MUCH rather be 40 (41st birthday in less than a month) than 30. I didn’t have my $hit together at 30, even though I THOUGHT I did. :)-
Do something BIG for your birthday. My then-FI and I went to New Orleans for a long weekend… when you’re having a hurricane, you don’t care HOW old you are!
40 is good. Yeah, I’m not running as fast as I did 10 years ago, etc., but like paula1248 said, there are too many people who don’t make it to 40. Sickness/illness can happen to 2-year olds.
Maybe take a cue from Oprah, and get a gratitude journal. As cheesy as that might sound, when you focus on the amazing things about being 40 and FABULOUS, hopefully it will help your perspective.
Post # 8
@rebwana: thank you so much ladies you girls are great!
im trying to keep my head up about turning the BIG 40.
my Fiance has told me the same things and im a lucky women. i just cant believe it im here a 40 year old women a full blown grown up. its just a bit mind blowing to me.
i keep reminding my self this is the best phase of my life. im planning our wedding marrying the man of my dreams and living that family life i have always wanted with someone that wants it just as bad as i do. im a very lucky women. i will get thru this God is good!
Post # 9
@HisNightOwl2014: You’ll be fine. Yo won’t suddenly lose your health after 40 unless you suddenly get a whole bunch of bad habits. After 40, I reached 100 push ups for the first time. I was probably in the best shape of my life at 47. I just seem to need a little more sleep than I used to (age 49 now)
Post # 10
@nycsa: thank you for your kind words ; ) the only bad habit i have is smoking lol ive cut out my salt intake and im eating alot more chicken red meat only once in a whilw as to where i was eating it alot more. eating more veggies i just need to walk more and be more active.
Post # 11
I just turned 40 as well. The most annoying thing for me was entering the age in the treadmill at the gym. Otherwise, I don’t mind; I’m thinner, happier and healthier at 40 than I was at 30 or even 20. I’m glad I’m not as neurotic about what other people think as I was at 20 and 30 seemed harder as I cared more about not being hip and all that.
What’s cool about being a 40-year-old bride is that we’re mature enough to know that we can still do whatever we want as married women as we did as single women.
Post # 12
I’m over 40 and still in denial hahahaha…Just lie…lol
Post # 13
I’ll be 43 in two months. I’m still trying to come to terms with it but then I’ve been depressed by my birthday since 35 or so. Hugs.
Post # 14
P.S. I’d love to be turning 35 now. My husband is only 32 and I’d really like to give him a baby. 🙁
Post # 15
It’s a number. We tend to mark milestones, but I’ve never felt any different on a birthday than I did the day before.
At age 42, I still have people who think I look younger than I am and to be honest, when I start looking my actual age I think that’s when it will start to bother me. I don’t feel like I’m 42, I just feel like me. Some of that comes from the fact that my grandma is 95 and still active (well, active for 95). We have a game that started when I was 12. At age 12 I thought it would be waaaaay cooler to be 21, so I told grandma I wanted to switch the numbers. At the time she was 65 and she thought 56 sounded better, so ever since we switch numbers (or add, subtract, whatever) to make our age better.
So go out and channel your inner 04 year old! 😉
Post # 16
I turned 40 last year and just like you I was not eager/excite about that at all. When I was 24, I thought 25 was not young anymore. When I was 30, I thought that’s it, “I’m old.” Can you imagine how would I feel when I was about to turn 40? LOL!
I think my issue was most of my friends at work thought I was late twenties or early thirties so it’s difficult to tell them that I was turning 40 (and most of them just couldn’t believe it). Funny thing is, after telling them how old I am, I feel much better about my age (not sure why).
So once you past your 40th birthday, you will feel better and accept that more. You grow older, you get wiser, and your life is getting better (getting married!) :-). Age is just numbers as long as you can enjoy your life like you’re 39, why feel depress about it!