(Closed) How did you handle?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
1566 posts
Bumble bee

That’s so frustrating. I think usually people need a very clear indication, like “We have reserved 2 seats for you.” Since some guests seem to be confused,  you can politely say something like “I’m sorry if there’s been any confusion, but the reception is adults-only.” Since you’re not inviting any children, they should understand. 

Post # 4
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5823 posts
Bee Keeper

We told people that our venue was not large enough for us to invite their children as well.  It usually went something like this:

Guests: “We are so excited about the wedding!  I just bought Little Jenny the perfect dress for it!”
Us: “Aw, I hope you can still return it.  Our venue doesn’t have enough room for everyone AND their children, so we only included the children in our wedding party.  Will you be able to find a babysitter, or can someone stay home with the kids?”
Guests: “Um, they aren’t invited?”
Us: “No.  They are not.”
Guests: “Well we won’t be able to find a babysitter…”
Us: “You have three months, I’m sure you can find someone who will be free.”
Guests: “Well if the kids aren’t invited then we aren’t coming.”
Us: “We’re so sorry you’ll miss it!  We’ve made it a very special and intimate event, but we understand if you would rather stay home with the kids.”

The thing to keep in mind is that THEY are being rude.  You have to clearly set the boundary/rule and abide by it.  Once you’ve made an exception, then you risk offending all the people who DID follow the rules.

Post # 5
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1232 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

It was really tough, and I felt a little rude, but I just told them that I was really sorry for the misunderstanding, but we were unable to accommodate children. Most parents were really understanding. It’s tough, but it has to be done otherwise if other parents find out “so and so” are bringing their children then they’ll think it’s ok for them to bring theirs as well.

Have you though about maybe hiring a babysitter and having all the kids go there? It would be much cheaper than paying the $70 a plate!

Post # 6
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463 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

This is truly frustrating.  We did the “We have reserved ___ seats in your honor” but some still responded with additional guests. 

I 100% agree with mightysapphire.  I know how hard it is to tell people no, especially something as awkward as this but you have to keep it in mind that it is not your obligation to include their children. 

Post # 8
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408 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

@msgthoney, we did the same “we have reserved— seat(s) in your honor and had about 3-4 people add additional guests….and about 10 people call, email or text requesting to bring a date….I was like are you illiterate, it says ONE!!

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