(Closed) How did you honor lost family members during your ceremony?

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
925 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

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As many of you know, my 48-year-old mother (and best friend) passed unexpectedly about three weeks ago and all I can think about is how she won’t be at my wedding. Other than wearing her jewelry, I’m curious what other ideas are out there.

Post # 4
3101 posts
Sugar bee

@brideatbeach:  I listed our deceased relatives wiht a special note on the back of the program.  I have seen brides who have their parents’ and grandparents’ wedding day photos on display in nice frames at the reception.

Post # 5
3078 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I had a picture of my brother, a heart shaped locket for my mom, and ring my brother had given to his girlfriend (her mom gave it back to me at her funeral..brother and his girlfriend died on the same night) all tied in to my boquet.

Post # 6
2144 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My husband’s brother passed away about a year and a half ago, he was supposed to be his best man. Our officiant said a prayer and his nephew did a reading of his favorite bible passage. Then at the reception he had a picture of him and a place card for him at his parent’s table and I had a picture and place card of my best friend who passed away when we were teenagers at her sister’s table.

Post # 7
11233 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I made bouquet charms with photos of my great grandma and grandma on their wedding days.

Post # 8
10366 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

We reserved a seat in my DH’s mother’s honor with a framed picture of her holding him as a baby. I laid my bouquet on the chair during the ceremony as a symbol of thanks to her from me. I also had a locket with a picture of my grandmother who passed away 3 weeks before my wedding.

Post # 9
7208 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@Brideonabudgetlauren:  That really beautiful. My bouquet will most likely be loaded down a bit… mom’s class ring, grandma’s rosary, aunt’s brooch, locket with my other grandparents’ pictures…

I also plan to take one of mom’s blue shirts and cut a heart out of it to sew inside the bodice of my dress over my heart. I’m hoping my “something borrowed” will be a piece of jewelry from my cousin’s grandma. We weren’t related by blood, but I grew up with the family and she always treated me like I was one of her own. Her marriage was one of the most beautiful I’ve ever seen. In fact, the week before he died, I was visiting grandma & her husband. Grandma walked by in a sparkly shirt & one of the uncles leaned over to grandpa and said “That’s a good looking chick, huh grandpa?” and he said “My beautiful bride.” Your “something borrowed” is supposed to be from a happily married woman. I can’t think of a better choice, so I’m hoping the aunties can get together and figure out something for me to borrow. 

Post # 10
720 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Everyone’s ideas are beautiful. I have tears in my eyes!

Between FH’s side and mine, we’ve had a few passings over the last couple of years. We will be doing a memory candle on our wedding altar, with a note card attached saying, “In memory of those with us in our hearts.” After the wedding, we will move the candle inside to the reception table with our guest book, so people can see it. Hopefully it will make them feel good to know their partners/our loved ones are remembered.

Post # 11
222 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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Post # 12
1144 posts
Bumble bee

@brideatbeach:  I will be wearing one of my grandmothers’ bracelets and I plan on tying her e-ring and wedding band (they were left for me) to my bouquet.

ETA: Our ceremony poster (we are putting it up at the entrance of the church instead of handing out programs) also mentions those that couldn’t be there with us.




Post # 13
707 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Jacksonville Inn

Both of my parents have passed away, and my partner’s Dad has passed as well. We plan to have a small table at our ceremony that will have pictures of them. We will  have a memorial candle on the table. We will also have 3 empty front row seats. A good friend of mine will walk down the aisle and place roses on each empty seat. He will then light the memorial candle and then be seated. My Dad was a volunteer firefighter so I will have his badge attached to my bouquet.

Post # 14
1143 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

We made a little note on the back of our programs “In Loving Memory….” for my grandparents. I wore a bracelet that my grandmother had given me for my birthday the year before she passed, but I never knew my grandfathers so I didn’t know how to incorporate them.

Post # 15
899 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

We aren’t telling people how we are honouring a couple of key figures in our lives. One is through a music choice, and another is through jewellery. We don’t want to make it obvious.

Post # 16
2564 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Bouquet charms with photos of my grandparents and my FI’s mother on their respective wedding days <3

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