Post # 1
Okay, so I’m having a sappy sort of night…Fiance has gone to bed and I started listening to our ceremony music — namely my processional song. I started picturing the aisle walk and for some reason it just hit me so vividly this time. I have finally chosen my entire ensemble — dress, veil, shoes, bouquet, bolero — so I pictured it all together. I imagined seeing my Fiance at the end of the aisle, seeing my Future Mother-In-Law all prettied up, seeing my dad in a suit (I’m walking down the aisle alone), and seeing my beautiful, wonderful grandma sitting next to him and realizing my mom’s absence (she passed away when I was an infant), and feeling all of our guests’ love and just the enormity of it all — and I am flat. out. bawling right now! And the wedding is a year away still!! I can’t imagine what it will be like on the actual day with a year’s worth of planning and all of the excitement building up to it and ACTUALLY seeing all those people!!
So married ladies, how the heck did you keep it even remotely together during the aisle walk?? I have the ugliest of ugly cry faces, I get super snotty/runny nosed when I cry, and I’m also the kind of person where once the waterworks start, they just don’t stop. I can’t just turn off the crying — once it starts I have to cry it all out until the emotion is over, and god knows that emotion is going to be there for the whole ceremony. I don’t want to be bawling uncontrollably through the entire thing!
Or if you cried like a baby, tell me that too so I know I’m not alone haha.
Post # 3
I’d love to know the answer to this too!
Post # 4
I was worried about this but when the time came my eyes did well up with tears but because I felt, ‘this is the moment I’ve been waiting for and looking forward to’ I had a beaming smile on my face, which I think helped stop the tears from falling.
Post # 5
@CatyLady: That’s so sweet!
Post # 6
I cried, not full out bawling, but it didn’t make for the prettiest pics ever. Whatever I felt like crying from joy so I did it. I debated taking a Zoloft/Lexapro before the ceremony to control the crying and I’m really glad I didn’t.
Post # 7
You need to take some time and try picturing yourself not crying while walking up the isle. this can help. athletes do this when they want to see themselves succeed.
So next time you think about it. imagine yourself really happy smilling, how beautiful you look in all your get up! Dont think “im so happy i could cry” think “im so happy i could burst smilling!”
you will have to do this more than once! give yourself cues aswell! perhaps i am so happy i cant contain my smile! so when your walking down the isle thats what you think! and you have practiced the walk in your head. so keep saying that to yourself.. and remember smile cause your so happy!!!!!
Post # 8
I am super sappy too and cry at the drop of a hat lol. This is part of the reason we’re doing a first look, but I will probably still cry for half the ceremony lmao.
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Post # 10
I cry at everything there is to cry at. Every wedding I’ve been to even if I hardly know the people. Everyone had bets on when I would cry and I didn’t at all through the ceremony and not a thought of it walking down the aisle!
You could surprise yourself 🙂
Post # 11
Oh, I cried the whole freaking time.
Make SURE you have a Kleenex or hankie while you’re up front, and don’t be afraid to use it or you’ll be sniffling up a storm.
My bridesmaids had dresses with pockets, so the Bridesmaid or Best Man nearest me handed me Kleenex when I needed it. If your BMs don’t have pockets, have your FH have some in his pockets. Another option is to wrap your bouquet with a decorative hankie and don’t be afraid to put it to use.
Post # 12
Im going to lose it!!!! I lost it last night thinking of it. I was always Daddys little girl and dreamed of my wedding day and always pictured being walked down the aisle by my dad. Well, two years ago I lost my dad to stomach cancer. I put off wedding planning because I just couldn’t come to terms that my dad wont be there. I finally started planning with my mom and I think I try to just block out the thought my dad wont be there…. I have a feeling when I start to walk down the aisle with my mother and brother It will all hit me.
Post # 13
I almost lost it during the vows but I have a thing about not crying in front of people so…I got this huge on my face and kind of giggled. I think that was even worse!!! Someone asked me during the receiving line if I was having a giggling fit up there =/
Post # 14
I listened to my processional music over and over before the wedding while walking around in my wedding shoes (they needed some breaking in, is my excuse, lol). The first few times I totally started crying, which surprised me, but after a few trial runs the tears weren’t as quick to make an appearance.
On the day of, when I heard my music start, I did have a moment of welling up and was worried the floodgates were going to let loose, but I took a few deep breaths, relaxed my shoulders, and the feeling passed.
I’d just focus on your breathing and you should be okay.
Post # 15
I think I’ll have a glass of my favorite vodka with redbull… that’ll keep my tears away
Post # 16
@madymommy24: I’m going through this too. We lost are dad just over 2 years ago to cancer and everytime I think of him not being there I cry and get so sad, so I think I tend to block it out and not think of it. I hate crying in public but I know there will be lots of tears that day. I’m just trying to keep remembering how happy he would be for me and that he is watching and smiling down.