How did you keep yourself from overthinking the proposal?

posted 2 months ago in Waiting
Post # 2
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280 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

Remind yourself that the proposal is just as much a big deal  for him as it is for you. You don’t want to spoil anything or make him feel sad or pressured and taint his experience. 

Whenver I feel impatient I remember how thoughtful my SO is, and how much his happiness means to me and it calms me right down. 

Post # 4
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280 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

I legitmately have written down a sample guest list and bookmaked venues and dresses online at this point.  We worked together to design the ring so I know it won’t be long now. My SO’s exact words were, “do not plan anything for January, I’m trying to plan a proposal :)” The second he said that I made an account on the bee and started saving links for wedding inspiration. lol

Post # 5
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440 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

kimchipizza :  Start quietly planning πŸ™‚

My boyfriend has the ring ordered and it should arrive in the next week or two. We have an anniversary Feb 7th and we are doing a hotel that weekend to celebrate. Hes made it clear he wants to propose ASAP so i figure it will happen by then (EEK!)

So hard to be patient but Im trying to just enjoy this calm before wedding planning really kicks in LOL

Post # 6
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104 posts
Blushing bee

kimchipizza :  mine is also coming in April, but we’re picking up the ring next week. Since it’s all solidified and we’re planning a wedding out of the country (he’s an immigrant) I’m already doing research and planning! It’s definitely keeping me entertained during the wait. 

Post # 9
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104 posts
Blushing bee

kimchipizza :  I got to pick the whole thing, he’s a pretty hands off guy with the whole process actually lol. I mean, he wants it to be nice but doesn’t like fussing over stuff so I’ve got free reign over the whole shebang just about! 

Do you have pics of your ring? If so, please share! 

Post # 11
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114 posts
Blushing bee

kimchipizza :  πŸ™ŒπŸ™ŒπŸ™Œ We can do this! My SO has had the ring since the end of November and has further stated that it could happen at any time in 2019 (I predict it will happen in June, 2019 when we travel to Ireland). I am happy to wait (much like you) but the wait is KILLING me.

I have shifted my focus to health including healthy eating and working out. I find it is a good distraction. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

EDIT: I just read in your most recent update that you are already active. My suggestion is not much help. Sorry! 😬😬

Post # 12
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104 posts
Blushing bee

kimchipizza :  yes!

18k yellow gold setting. We’re both more old-timey people, hence the old-timey ring! πŸ˜‚

canadianbee91 :  I’m getting engaged in Ireland too, when we go so I can meet his parents! All I know is it’ll be somewhere in Galway (his county). 

Post # 14
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7626 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

kimchipizza :  

oh my god “anytime in 2019  would make me absolutely bonkers” 

Good God yes. Yet another post where a  woman  is made to wait for a ring that her man  has already bought, has hidden in his freaking  sock drawer , a ring she knows about,   that he knows she knows about  but has to wait for weeks , sometimes   months to be given . 

I wil never understand it ..

Post # 15
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114 posts
Blushing bee

 kimchipizza :  I think that he thinks he is sneaky by leaving it ambiguous (haha!) but he had already asked to plan all of our time in Galway when visiting Ireland. Similar to your SO (from what I gather from your original post), I know he has a plan and wants it to be perfect. I look forward to reading a recap post detailing your proposal!

elderbee :  I think “made to wait” are not the correct words but instead “agreeing to wait.” A timeline should always be a mutual agreement between couples.

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