Post # 1
My finace and I have been engaged since April and have a wedding date of May 2014. We both love each other very much but have recently been having doubt about whether or not we are meant to be together.
How did you know your s/o was “the one”? Did you have a certain feeling? Did you have any doubts?
Post # 3
@FutureMrsBPJ: For me it’s when we can be in the worst situations possible (the explosive flu, cancelled planes, car accidents, etc.) and we still pull together to handle things together (yes we do our fair share of griping) and end up laughing about it in the end.
If I’m going through hell there’s no one I’d rather have at my side.
Post # 4
I had this feeling in the pit of my stomach after we had been friends for a couple of months and I just knew. But I told myself, “Fizzy you are 17! What do you know anyways? You have to go to school.”
Then again when I visited him at university, I just knew. I didn’t care that he was at school in another city. I had to have THAT guy for my boyfriend.
Then again when we were backpacking after university and a bottle of wine smashed in my backpack after travelling for 2 days straight, causing us to smell like winos, and we screwed up our hostel reservation and had to sleep in a train station all in the same day… And we laughed… I just knew!
**Insert 20 more examples**
I maybe doubted a teeny bit when he took 8 years to propose, but we were very young when we started dating. But we eventually got there, and I’m 100% sure of our marriage.
EDIT: To address your doubts, I don’t believe in ‘The One’ and neither does my FI. It’s all a matter of taking care of your relationship, chemistry, sexy times, building a home together, facing adversity as a team. There is no ‘meant to be together’, I don’t think.
Post # 5
There are many reasons why I know he is the one. But one example is that he is my very best friend and my favorite person in the world. We spend 90% of our time together and I would happily spend 100% of our time together if we had the choice (work and school get in the way :)) I hate being away from him! It is a chore to spend time with my girlfriends instead of him, lol.
He is the one that I want to spend the rest of my life with and the one that I want to be the father of my children.
If you are having doubts, you need to put wedding planning on hold until you are sure about what you want to do.
Post # 6
If the two of you are having doubts about your future, then he is most likely not the one for you to marry.
Post # 7
I couldn’t imagine myself with anyone else. He’s not perfect, but he’s perfect for me. I “just knew”. (Insert every other cliche here because they’re all right).
Seriously though, I saw him across a room (a bar, to be exact) at karaoke. I looked at my friend and said, “Hey, Crystal, see that guy over there in the purple shirt? I’m going to marry him.” I had never spoken to him before and did not even know his name. But when I saw him across the bar, I knew. He was the only person I could see. Everyone and everything faded into the background and there was only him. And that’s how it’s been for nearly 4 years. There is only him.
Post # 8
My fiancé and I have been engaged since March and will be Married June 2014! We were only dating 5 months before getting engaged. I’ve known he was the right one snice before we were dating but I understand where you are coming from. I think for me, outside of prayer my biggest reminder is the fact that no matter what we stand by each other. We may fight at times and at times it’s bad but I still know that no matter what he’ll be there.
Post # 9
@FutureMrsBPJ: I knew the moment I met him. CRAZY right? It is. I met him, and there was something about him-After being introduced by a mutual friend (closer friend of his, distant friend of mine as in she was closer with my other friends it’s complicated), we were left alone to our own devices and chat each other up…..And to my absolute dismay I found out he was younger than me by almost 3 years.
My heart dropped, and I was ready to move on, figuring that he was a college party boy type and not in the place I was in life.
We couldn’t shake eachother….and 3+ years together we are planning our future which is including an cross country move and much speculating about the future we want to have together.
It’s odd….I tell this story a lot on this blog….and everytime I retype/relive the moment I can FEEL that same moment of feeling-The rush of excitement, the attraction, being letdown by his age….and the moment I got my first text from him after my BFF gave him my number.
Post # 10
My heart sings around him, I just look at him and the world stops. We have been through some really tough times together as well as some good times, so we know we can work through things together. We have grown as individuals and as a couple, and no one else could make me feel the way he does. He is The One.
Post # 11
@ltj14: +1….Love the bit about it being a chore to spend time with GF’s…I know it’s healthy to be well rounded but sometimes my GF’s (even more so if they are single!), just don’t understand that I’d rather hurry home to my SO instead of bar hopping all night. Sorry to my GF’s! I do still hang with them though…It’s just easier to do if my SO isn’t available and I don’t care how lame that sounds! CRAZY IN LOVE!
Post # 12
- Wedding: September 2016 - Santa Barbara Courthouse
I just knew. There was never any doubt. There never has been.
I would be extremely worried if I experienced doubt about her being the one, and even more worried if she was experiencing that same doubt.
What is making you guys doubt?
Post # 13
@FutureMrsBPJ: I didn’t have any sort of feeling immediately. We had known each other a little throughout undergrad but didn’t get together till the last semester.
I’ve never been one to believe in soulmates or “The One”. However, one night we went to a party and I sprained my ankle really badly(the doc told me it would have been better if I had broken it so he could cast it, it was that bad), a couple weeks right before graduation…I was basically laid up in bed and DH completely took care of me for the rest of the semester, brought me food, took me to the shower, got my books and stuff so I could study in his room…..I definitely had some sort of feeling at that point. 🙂
It wasn’t until we were long distance that we decided, in order for one of us to move to the other person’s city…we should get married. And we did, 6 months later. And we’ve been married for over 9 years and still are pretty crazy about each other 🙂
Post # 14
@FutureMrsBPJ: I knew he was the one when I could picture us with a family, and eventually old and grey. I never wanted kids but when I met SO, somethig in me knew it was different this time. I started to picture our curly haired kids running around, and it never faded.
Now I know for certain. I miss him when he’s away or I’m away, I love to have him here. My heart literally still flutters when he comes home from work.
I never had any idea how one would ‘know’ before I met my one. And now I get what they mean when they say you just know!
Post # 15
Because everything is easier and better with him around.
Post # 16
I dont believe in “the One” – there is no such thing as “Mr Right”.
Once people get to the point of thinking about marriage – Its not a question of it being “Mr Right” or “Mr Wrong”. Its just a relationship like any other. It takes work, effort on the sides of both people. Every relationship will fail when people stop making the effort to make it work. As soon as one person gives up on keeping the relationship going, it is doomed. So no matter WHO is in the relationship with you – Mr Right, or Mr Maybe-Wrong, “The One” or “The Other One” – as long as both parties are commited to making it work and keeping the relationship going… Thats the right one.
@MsW-to-MrsM: If everyone went according to that, then everyone who ever got “cold feet” would be unmarried… doubts are far from abnormal…