- 6 years ago
How did you know? Was there an “ah-ha” moment???
How did you know? Was there an “ah-ha” moment???
I think you want to more so ask yourself the question: At this very moment in time, is this the person I want to spend the rest of my life with, every day, rain or shine?
People don’t change easy, if at all. So if your waiting for something to feel right or like there is a future, it may not be a good match.
Some people say they have moments where they just knew, and I think its very situational. We always have to be aware of our emotions at the time, because love is indeed, blind.
It sort of was an ah-ha moment….I dated MANY guys (prb like 30+), it wasn’t until one lazy Sunday when we were hanging out and time just flew by,,,I couldn’t believe I could feel so relaxed with someone and have such a good time without finding him irritating like I had found in other guys I dated… I was afraid he would hurt me because I liked him so much and thought I might end things out of this insecurity, my friend told me I was ridiculous and that I always do that with guys I like…so I held out and in 11 months from now he will be my husband for life!!! (sorry for the digression!)
We broke up after 3 months and I could not stop thinking about him even though he was being a jerk. I called him and we went out on one more date where he asked me to be his “girl.” Swoon. Been the gentleman I always wanted ever since!
With me, I waited for the 4-5 month period where people start relaxing and being themselves. lol I also got to a point where I didn’t want our time spent together to end and I was enjoying myself. He made me laugh and usually guys embarass me. We just fit. Now when he makes me mad, I think about all of the cute thing he says or does and it makes me smile, so I don’t stay mad at him long.
I had a mini moment on our 1st date. It was the moment he said, wait a minute. Something is wrong. I can see it in your eyes. And he was right. He let me cry, let me talk about it, and I’d never felt safer. Moment 2 was when I told him I was fine even though something was really wrong and he told me that if I couldn’t talk to him about it, it wasn’t going to work out. It was so incredibly freeing to realize he meant it and I really could tell him everything. And moment 3 was the first time I saw him with my family. For him, it was a little different. He said it was the moment he rolled over in bed and went to put his arm around me. Except I wasn’t there because I was at my own apartment. It was the moment when he knew he never wanted to go to sleep without me.
It was the way he looked at me on our first date. We played Call of Duty after dinner…not a romantic setting, but we sat far away from each other on his couch and he just looked over and smiled and his eyes truly twinkled. He said mine did the same.
Ever since then, because we lived an hour away from each other, we texted all the time, spent almost every day together despite living apart, and so when he aksed me I just knew this was the guy I wanted to father my children and spend the rest of my life with. I’m madly in love with this guy 🙂
No moment, but from the beginning it was different with him. It felt like we had been together forever right from the start.
Can’t remember an ‘ah-ha’ moment but I know he’s the one because he makes me laugh. He makes me smile. He makes me cry. He makes me feel everything and more. He makes me feel alive.
I just knew. We met when he had four months of school left and he had already secured a job about 4 hours away. As the date approached, I was totally filled with dread. In the past, LDR’s weren’t really for me, but I couldn’t imagine not being together and making it work.
I definitely had an “ah-ha” moment and I think about it often. We were in the car at a stop light. I looked over at him, smiling back at me, and it was like a wave of calm just washed over me and I knew. It really felt magical.
Our first “I love you” was less magical. He e-mailed me. HA! Especially silly, since our desks were right next to each other. But when we said “I love you” to each other, it was different than any relationship I’d ever had where the phrase always felt like a plea, or a resignation. This felt like an unbreakable truth of the universe.
I never had the thought “this is the one”. It was more like a gradual realization that I was willing, and more importantly wanted to stick it out with this man. I wanted to work out every issue we might face because I love him that much and hanging out with him makes me so happy that I want to do it for the rest of my life.
I had 2 AHA moments. The 1st one was 3 weeks into dating “S”. I had to go to business trip really early in the morning and I lived 10 minutes from the airport. He insisted in waking up at 3 AM, drive 45 minutes to pick me up and drop me off at the airport, even though I could have expensed the taxi in the corporate account.
The 2nd AHA moment was in January 2012 and I was in a really BAD car accident which I broke my ribs. He took care of me at my very WORST. The pain was surreal and he slept in the couch for over a month because he was afraid to hurt me in his sleep.
If that is not love, I do not know what is.
I don’t know if there was one moment exactly. One that stands out though is in college, about 7 years before we actually started dating. Him and some friends were at my apt with some of my friends. Him and I started sitting in front of the CD player picking out songs and listening to music (yeah we are old . . pre mp3s). I look up and all of a sudden these two random dudes are in our apartment and the one friend of mine is sitting on this guys lap and the other friend is talking to this other guy ad wearing his hat.
Two things can be taken from that story. 1) We partied a little two hard in college, and 2) I was so engrossed in what we were doing/talking about that I had no idea that was going on around me. And it was always kind of like that when we were together.
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