Post # 1
So I’ve always heard that when you find “the dress” you just know. But at this point I’ve been to four dress shops and not felt that AT ALL. Yes I’ve found plenty of beautiful dresses, but none of them have felt like any kind of special beautiful. I’m not expecting to cry or anything, because that’s just not me, but I am expecting to feel something when the right dress comes along. I also really feel that if I’m going to pay this much for any dress I better be completely satisfied with it! I also know at a certain point I can’t keep dragging my friends to bridal shops (so far they’ve been very happy and excited to go!)
Am I being too picky?
How did you know your dress was “the one?”
Post # 2
Did you try on all of the major wedding dress styles and didn’t find that you like any of them?
To be honest I had no expectations about what I should feel about the dress, just as long as it looks flattering for my body shape, is “my style” and is less than $1,000 lol… only been engaged for a month and I’ve already found a dress I liked (only went into one store, non-bridal specific) and thought it looked good on me. No special feelings about it.
Maybe think about it logically will be more helpful than trying to feel something?
Post # 3
For me, it wasn’t a big moment. I was wearing the dress and thought “I like this one, I’m done looking”
There was one the day before everyone in my group loved but I just had a nagging feeling I needed to keep looking and I’m glad I did. I went to 5 shops (multiple visits to some) and lost count of the number of dresses I tried on before finding mine.
Post # 4
When I put on the dress, I didn’t want to take it off. That’s how I knew it was the one. There were no tears or anything like that, I just stood in the dress and said, “Okay. I’m done looking.”
The dress I got wasn’t even one I pulled off the rack, the bridal consultant pulled it and I trusted her knowledge of what they had and her knowing what I was looking for, and tried it on. That was it.
I’d say try on things you don’t think you’d like. Based on how it looked on the hanger, and in stock photos, I never would have picked my dress, but it looked different once I was wearing it and I loved it.
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2018 - The Venue, Barkisland, UK
Mine just felt comfortable in a ‘made for me’ kind of way and like PP I didn’t want to take it off.
It did also tick everybox on my wish list though so it wasn’t necessarily unexpected.
Post # 6
I didn’t have an overwhelming “a-ha” moment. I thought about narrowing it down to the top 3 dresses I had seen so far that I liked and then went back to try them on again. In the end. I was torn between the dress I had always pictured and one that was unexpected. A couple of things that helped:
1. I realized that the unexpected Dress just was more flattering to my figure in the end.
2. I took photos of myself in the dresses and looking at those photos, I just looked happier and giddy in the pics in one more than the other.
3. I also went once with my sisters the first time around and then the second I came back alone. Then I didn’t feel the pressure of having to listen to all the opinions and just focus on how each Dress made me feel.
4. The stylist mentioned that the other dress was rearly popular that season, and that helped me rule it out. While it was popular for a reason, I didn’t want to be in the same dress that half the city’s brides would be wearing.
If you’re not getting the “feels”. Try focusing on what aspects of a Dress is most important to you and measure the dresses against that list.
Post # 7
rainyday72 : I definitely had the “feels”. But there were two others I liked a lot. My dress ended up being out of my comfort zone, a different shape, neckline etc. So I’d definitely recommend trying something different if you haven’t already. I was also surprised how the same shape by different designers can look totally different. I didn’t end up with a mermaid in the end but that’s what I thought I wanted. I looked damn fabulous in some and frumpy and chunky in others.
Post # 8
I never really had that feeling, not after going to 6 dress appointments. So I ended up ordering from Etsy. I guess my “this is the one” moment happened when it came in the mail and I tried it on for the first time (since it was non-returnable anyways..), but I never had that WOW moment.
I don’t think there is “the one” when it comes to dresses. I would have been just as happy in many others, and budget was the main factor when choosing my dress.
Post # 9
I knew what I wanted and what I didn’t want. I didn’t want a ball gown. I wanted a gown that is backless, with spaghetti straps, open neck so I could wear our family heirloom set, low arm pit cut because I knew it was going to be hot and I didn’t want sweat marks on my gown. I also didn’t want to deal with many alterations. Before I went to dress shopping I looked at pictures of the gown that are on my budget. I really like BHLDN’s style and there was one gown that fit all my requirements. In total I tried 5 gowns and the one that I was thinking felt right. No crying, no big emotions. I just said “yes this gown is very me.”
Post # 10
I didn’t have a big moment with my dress. I only went to two salons. It was a dress I had brought photos of to show the consultant at the second salon, and she told me that the salon happened to have that exact dress. When I walked out of the dressing room my mom, grandmother, and Maid/Matron of Honor just stopped. I walked around in it, put a veil on…. and looked around and realized that everyone else was crying. Nothing else topped it.
I honestly felt a bit overwhelmed with the choice and all the dress shopping… I didn’t have a magical moment then, even though I picked the dress. I could picture myself walking down the aisle in it… but I couldn’t get over the idea that I was supposed to “feel” something, and I was confused because my family was having an emotional reaction and I couldn’t bring myself to feel the same, even though I liked the dress. (In reality, I’m just not a feely person!)
After choosing it I started to freak out– did I make the wrong decision? Was I supposed to have cried? If I didn’t cry, did it mean it wasn’t the right dress?
A few weeks later I went back to the salon with just my Maid/Matron of Honor and tried on the dress again. That time I cried! Haha. It was beautiful and unique and classic and it fit my venue and the vision of my wedding, and most importantly, it just *felt* like me in a way that I cannot describe. I cannot imagine getting married in anything else now. When I look at photos of the dress I just think, “yes, this dress is 100% ME”.
I recommend taking it slowly, keeping your entourage to only one or two people, and not being afraid to try on a dress, take lots of photos and video moving in it, and then think on it for a few days.