(Closed) How did you know that your marriage/relationship was over?

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 166
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

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allthingsblue:  I know this sounds horrible but when his dad (ex-husband’s dad)  was dying in the hospital I knew I had to leave the marriage.  I could never imagine myself taking care of him.  My ex never took care of himself- overweight and bad hygiene.  That is just one of the many things that was wrong with the marriage.  Plus whenever I was sick he never took care of me. 

Fast forward to now with my soon to be husband.  I can imagine a forever with him.  I imagine myself taking care of him when we grow old together.  And I know he feels the same. 

Post # 167
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

My last boyfriend was very cold and sometimes very cruel to me. Never laid a hand on me but his whatever attitude towards our relationship was just as awful. He never paid attention to my problems or concerns and would actually mute me on the phone and wait for me to stop talking before going on about whatever video game he was playing at the time. The biggest red flag was when he yelled at me for waking him up on our first anniversary with an I Love You text and basically implied that if he had been woken up in person he would’ve hit me.

Two years later we got into a fight because I made a stupid joke about a game he was working on and refused to speak to me for two days afterward. The morning after the fight I was standing in the mirror looking into my own eyes and thinking, “None of this is normal. It is not normal for a man his age to be behaving this way and it’s not normal that I’ve put up with this for so long.” That was the moment I realized that I couldn’t go on for much longer but I didn’t find the courage to break up with him until my now-fiance became one of my closest friends and I realized slowly but surely that I was falling in love with him. Today I couldn’t be happier. 

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