(Closed) How did you know that your marriage/relationship was over?

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 61
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

When he told me he had plans to ask another girl out the next day (in the middle of a makeout sesh with me). They broke up a month later because she couldn’t accept his religious beliefs.

ETA: We’d been together off and on for a year.

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 9 months ago by  MKWeddingBee.
  • This reply was modified 3 years, 9 months ago by  MKWeddingBee.
Post # 62
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4232 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

The guy I was in a long term relationship/cohabitating with before my Darling Husband:

– He got fired from his third job in six months, and wasn’t even sorry when he told me I need to cover all the bills again on short notice.

The guy I was dating before that:

-He was normally SUPER obsessed with sex, but he turned me down.

Post # 63
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3029 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

arosebyanyothername:  My evil narcissistic mom did this to Dad after an emergency bypass surgery, and the kicker was that I was on bed-rest in another state with a work-related back injury and couldn’t care for him! I pretty much called everyone Dad knew… Thankfully, we had great neighbors at the time. 

Post # 64
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

I was dating a guy for a few months, and I was desperately in love with him – like, I felt like the guy was my soul mate. I thought the feeling was mutual but he gradually became distant. I knew it was over when I went to bar, and saw him leave with another girl. The next day, I brought it up to him and his response – ‘was she cute?’ UGH what a douche. 

Post # 65
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

khaleesi19:  *raises hand* I had to do that too, and it was actually done fairly early in our relationship. 

I should have left when, after dating for two weeks, we were going camping with a group of friends and when he found out I was bringing my own tent he started pouting. I ended up staying in his tent that weekend. When we got back I had an awful feeling in my gut and put the breaks on. I should have left them on. I ended up going back for another three years (on and off). 

Post # 66
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375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

When I found out he was a sex offender. Luckily, the relationship wasn’t long and I didn’t introduce him to my children. Yeah, bye. 

Post # 67
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149 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

heputaringonit:  Ugh, that sucks. I’m sorry! He should have respected the fact that you wanted to sleep in your own tent. 

My family and friends hated my ex-husband from the very beginning and I spent the whole relationship trying to convince them that he was so great when in reality he wasn’t. I was only 21 when we got married so I had a lot to learn!

Post # 68
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Bumble bee

khaleesi19:  

Isn’t it weird that everyone else can see the ass-hattery and we can’t?! I did exactly the same with my ex, ran myself into the ground trying to make him happy while ignoring my own happiness and constantly trying to convince my family he was worth it. He wasn’t. 

Post # 69
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623 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

My ex was really insecure and contantly accused me of cheating on him. I never cheated. I’m not a flirty person at all. I never had an interest in other guys or otherwise gave him a reason not to trust me. I couldn’t take it anymore when he accused me of cheating on him with our gay friend. Turns out HE was the one cheating the whole time. Excellent projection bro.

Post # 70
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I’ve been married for 5 months now and it is literally hanging on by a very fine thread. I wish I would have noticed sooner but now I’m realizing all the major red flags throughout our 4 year relationship. I’ve filled out the divorce papers but have been stalling on taking it to the courthouse until we have a discussion with our Pastors. My end of the rope was literally a week ago. I am 12 weeks pregnant and he told me that he will only mutually divorce me if I get an abortion. And that was the 2nd time he actually said it. Yeah not happening. Smh…

Post # 71
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

My first real boyfriend (not counting idiots in high school that lasted a few weeks) – one night he stayed over, woke up in the middle of the night with a bad dream where we were in a big city and I kept walking away from him/wouldn’t wait just kept on walking.  Told me he loved me (he was leaving early for work) and I faked sleep so I didn’t have to answer.  Like being beaten in the head with a hammer – he was taking that relationship along way the hell faster than I was.  There were plenty of other signs we wouldn’t be permanent but that was the moment I realized I couldn’t keep going along just because I liked hanging out with him.  Oh well, at least his dream gave him some nice foreshadowing…

As a bonus I was able to warn my next boyfriend that it might be best to let me say I love you first, when I was comfortable with it, as I take that statement far more seriously than a lot of people appear to.  He waited and eventually we got married, so yay!

Post # 72
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

nygirla:  that’s horrible!  I hope it all resolves well for you and you find a better future. 

Post # 73
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319 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I have 2, I guess i sure know how to pick em 

1. When ex #1 told me that he had a baby on the way. This was the 2nd baby by a 2nd baby momma. I had forgiven him for the first…..(what was I thinking)

2. When ex #2 got into some shady dealings (after he was on house arrest at the time mind you) and was unable to pay this shady character for some services, that character then took a picture of my license plate, which scared the shit out of me. As I was speeding on the way home, I told him we were done. 

Thank God my Darling Husband is nothing like any guy I have ever dated 

Post # 74
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1062 posts
Bumble bee

My exhusband would get hurt all the time and was always at the ER for stitches, and what not. I was ALWAYS there to take him, bring him home, wait until he was out of surgery, take him to follow-up appts. One night (while we were separated, yet still kinda together) I had a very bad fall. I fell down 2-3 concrete steps, hit my head on a paver stone, fractured my eye socket, blood everywhere! 

I was scared and needed to go to the ER. It was late at night so I was calling my brother, a-hole, etc. My brother took my to the hospital, thank god.

A-hole showed up w/ his friend (most likely were at the bar together) stayed for 5mins and left. Never asked how I was afterward. 

I never felt so alone when I so badly hurt. 

Post # 75
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190 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

When I came down to see him and another girl all loved up all over my facebook. Ended it there and then took my kids and bounced after many years of cheating and emotional abuse about me being ugly, and not good enough. That was the last straw and I just flipped. 5 years on and he still treats me like crap only dofference is it doesn’t hurt anymore. I was young and naive he was old enough to know better and is on wife number three already. 

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