Post # 1
I went dress shopping this weekend and had a blast. Tried on probably about 15 dresses. I think I have decided on one, but I didn’t get that initial “THIS IS IT!” feeling. I put it on, liked it, showed it to my mom and sister and just kept liking it more and more when we added a belt and veil. In the shop I was 100% sure it was THE dress.
However, I got home and saw the pictures my mom had taken and felt like it looked a little tight on my butt and that some of the other dresses I tried on were more flattering to my figure. However, this could be because this dress was a size 10 sample, and I typically wear a 12 or 14 in real world sizes, so probably a 16-18 in wedding dress sizes.
I am not planning on ordering my dress until April, regardless, but I am wondering if I should continue shopping until I have that “moment” or if I should tell my brain to stop second guessing myself?
This is hard!
Post # 3
Honestly, I didn’t have that teary OMG moment that I’ve always seen on Say Yes and shows like that. I spent a long time after I paid for the dress wondering if I did something wrong. Then when I went back when the dress was ready, I realized how happy I was with my choice.
It did make my Future Mother-In-Law and Future Sister-In-Law tear up (they came for the finalist round) but that wasn’t really a deciding factor for me.
My thought process went like this: The dress looks nice on me, the price isn’t giving me an ulcer, the dress will take great photos. I realized that there were probably 50 dresses in the store I would have loved to get married in, but I’m really happy with my one choice.
One thing that helped was taking some time off between rounds of shopping – I think I took 2-3 weeks and really thought it over. If you go back and try more things on, try to focus on gowns that have features you really liked from the “maybe this is it” dress. Or try a different designer with a similar style. Also, I think you’re right to an extent – samples never really look their best. Sometimes it helps to see if there are pictures of real brides in the same dress – I see a bunch of those threads on the bee.
Post # 4
Because when I put it on I did not want to take it off, I wanted to stay at the dress shop all day. It also made me forget about having a separate dress for my reception. I did not cry though, but that was okay for me 🙂
Post # 5
This happened to me when I went dress shopping. I tried on about 5 dresses and I left the store knowing that the 4th dress was THE dress..No ifs, ands, or buts about it. But the more I looked at the picture of the dress, it was me, but it didn’t do anything for me at all. I had chosen a dress based on how it looked but not how it looked on me. So when I went to another store and tried on dresses, I tried on about 5 more dresses. One of which was the same dress I tried on at the first store, but in a different color. That’s how I knew it was THE dress. I had picked it again without even knowing it was the same one. I put it on and I didn’t have a ‘moment’, I didn’t cry, or shake uncontrollably lol. I put it on, and didn’t want to take it off. I just knew it was the one. So not everyone is going to get all mushy and cry like they do on TV. You just know that it is the one.. Good Luck on your continued search if you plan to do so!
Post # 6
I knew it was the dress when I kept comparing every other dress to it lol. I loved how I felt in it, and it just felt very ME. –I also didn’t want to take it off! lol
Post # 7
For me, the feeling didn’t come when I was wearing the dress.
I knew I had found the one when, as I continued to try on other gowns, I kept comparing them all back to the same dress. “Oh, I liked the beading on dress X better”, “I wish the train was longer like dress X”, etc.
When I realized I was mentally comparing everything back to the same dress X, I knew that was the dress I was going to wear.
Post # 8
To be honest…it was a actually the look on my dad’s face that helped decide it! I liked a lot of dresses and would’ve been happy with a lot of them that fell into a certain category of strapless, sparkly, and a-line.
Post # 9
I never had THAT feeling and cried like most girls….I just keep thinking about it and feel it would be the best one for me!
Post # 10
I didn’t even really like my dress when I first tried it on. When my Future Mother-In-Law & Future Sister-In-Law (who is also my maid of honor) saw it they both got teary eyed. When I put on a veil and held a bouquet & looked in the mirror, it did sort of take my breath away a little. It’s hard to imagine the whole picture without the veil and bouquet and jewelry (at least it was for me). But after seeing myself in the mirror w/ everything else & seeing them tear up, I knew it was “the dress”, plus the price was really good (sample-$500). I actually bought it that day. I was worried I would find something I like better later on but I didn’t. I have looked at other wedding dresses for a possible rehearsal/reception dress but none of them come close : )
Post # 11
When I tried on my very first wedding dress I bursted into tears because I wearing the dress that I thought would be “the one”. Everyone told me that I showed the signs of this being the dress but it wasn’t. It was way too heavy, hard to walk in, and it didn’t look all that great (it was way too big). The next time I went dress shopping I was smitten with one particular dress (one that I never thought would be it) but I wasn’t too sure because my mom and my Future Mother-In-Law loved the dress and kept telling me that it was the dress. I wanted to make sure that I thought it was the dress because I felt it. I went back to the bridal shop alone and tried on a few more dresses and the dress that I really liked. I realized that the dress that I really loved on my second trial was the dress. It felt so wondeful on my body and I felt so beautiful. I didn’t buy it then because I wanted to wait since my wedding was still over a year away. In the meantime, I saw numerous dresses but none compared to my dress. When I did buy the dress, I was certain with my choice and I can’t wait to see “her” when she comes in.
Post # 12
It sounds like you have found the ONE, congrats!! 🙂
Not everyone has that burst-into-tears-omg moment. You just know when no other dresses compare. There are sooooo many gorgeous dresses out there that probably make you second guess yourself.
No harm in shopping around a bit more. When you find yourself comparing everything back to that first dress, you’ll know.
Post # 13
I went dress shopping by myself. When I stepped out of the dressing room and saw myself in the mirror in the dress I ended up getting, I turned BEET red from my chest to the top of my head and began blubbering nonsense to the sales associate who was helping me. However, I decided to wait to purchase it until I received some feedback from friends and family.
Then I went home and tossed and turned all night having ridiculous dreams about what could happen if I didn’t go back and buy the dress immediately.
Post # 14
I tried on loads of dresses (maybe about 25 all in all) and they were all mmm..ok but not right.
Then, I bought the best among the lot. I looked great in it but it just wasn’t my style. Called and cancelled and went for another appointment (at the same store). Nothing, nothing and then finally, tried on a mermaid. When I put it on and saw myself on the full length mirror for the first time, I thought “Yes, this is it. “. To be honest, I was also sick of looking for dresses and was happy to settle:D I didn’t even try other mermaid lace dresses.
Post # 15
Like Soon2BeMrsPea and a couple other ladies, I just knew it was the one because my cheeks hurt from smiling so hard and I didn’t want to take it off. I really would have been happy to stay at the bridal shop all day in the dress – I even put it on one more time once the consultant helped me out of it, just because I felt so pretty in it! Felt like my feet didn’t touch the ground for about a week after 🙂
Post # 16
Thanks for the insight everyone!!!
I did have a big goofy smile on my face when I put it on. I think I need to just stop doubting my instincts and go for it!