(Closed) How did you know what dress to buy?

posted 9 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
1490 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Maybe go by yourself or with one other trusted friend? I like a bunch of dresses too. I figured out which one to buy when it made me feel like a bride, not just like me in a beautiful dress. “The” dress was transformative and elating. It didn’t have much to do with style/silhouette for me. It’s hard to explain, but I’d keep trying on dresses. No need to be a multiple-dress bride if you can avoid it :-).

Post # 4
175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I went with my mom and 2 sisters.  We went to 2 bridal salons in the same night with a very open mind as to style and design.  As I tried on dresses my entourage and I eventually decided which silhouette looked best on me and that I liked more embellishments on the dress.  I originally went in wanting something simple, but ended up buying something a lot more ornate.  

As I kept trying on dresses I did start to get confused.  I’d definitely recommend taking pictures if you’re allowed.  It’ll let you remember what each dress looked like without having to put them on again and again.

I knew I found “the dress” when the sales lady asked if I felt like a bride in a dress I thought I loved and I broke into tears.  I knew that was my dress.  After only one day of trying dresses and being engaged less than a month.

Take your time and try on as many different dresses you can.  You’ll just know.  Only bring a few people who know your style and aren’t afraid to tell you the truth about how you look, but in the end it’s how you feel about the dress and no one else.

Good luck and happy hunting!!

Post # 5
343 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I went with my mom and best friend (MOH). I am that type of person where if I find something and love it then I go for it. So I was pretty sure I’d find THE dress. We went to the first salon and I tried on dress after dress and I just wasn’t feeling it. I was actually getting nervous, I had put all this pressure on myself to find a dress that day. We left the first salon and went onto the second one. I had a bunch of dresses that I wanted to try on and one in particular that I couldn’t stop thinking about. I put that dress on and I just knew! I had that feeling that I was looking for the whole morning! I had found MY dress! My mom started crying…and I was sold. So don’t give up! Your dress is out there.

Post # 6
647 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

It took me 3 months to find a dress. I went dress shopping 10-15 times, trying on 5-15 dresses each time.  If I loved a dress, I went back a week later and tried it on again-that helped a lot.  I have a tendency to get excited, so this helped me stay realistic.

Since you like lots of things, I would think about the wedding itself.  How formal is, is it a daytime or an evening wedding, etc.  I really liked a slinky satin evening gown, but it was way too glamorous for my late afternoon wedding.  Hopefully that you will help you narrow it down a bit!

I let my fiance influence my decision way too much.  I’m glad I showed him dresses, but at the end of the day, I picked what I wanted.

I knew it was the one because I have never felt so sexy in a dress before, and so me at the same time.  I never had a “this is the one” moment, I just felt like myself and felt gorgeous.  So I would say trust your gut, you know?

Good luck, I can’t wait to see what you end up with!

Post # 7
1064 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I was like you, I loved every dress I tried on, but when I put on “the one” we all knew it. It was so fun to feel so pretty in every one, I thought it would be like bathing suit shopping, scary and irritating, but I had such a blast. You’ll know when you put it on!

Post # 8
853 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

i picked my dress based on a few things:

i wanted to feel like i was still me on my day – a gorgeous me, but still me – not a barbie doll dressed up.

we didn’t have a bridal party and it was important for me that i be able to move around without assistance that day (read pee, sit, eat, drink – basically have fun!)

in terms of style, i went with what best reflected the vibe i wanted to set for the reception.


Post # 9
14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

It looked the best AND i could afford it! And it required no alterations. Easy, inexpensive, and not stressful

Post # 10
238 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I went with my mom and my sister. Their opinion had a HUGE impact on my decision. I fell in love with a dress that was out of my budget so I found an almost identical dress by another designer. It’s hard to tell right away which dress is the one, but you should definitely take into consideration your wedding decor, the opinion of those who matter to you, the location of the wedding (outdoors, indoors, beach, etc). Give yourself some time and eventually the ones that you didn’t like as much will naturally fade from your memory.

Post # 11
799 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I didn’t think I would have the “this is the dress” moment, but I definitely felt different about it than any other dress I tried on, and I didn’t want to take it off. 

Post # 12
575 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010 - Kindred Oaks, Georgetown

I went out twice. When I found my dress I was by myself. I was like you. I didn’t see a whole lot online or in magazines and when I went to the store I picked out all different styles. The dress I decided on was something I’d never imagined wearing. I ended up in a lace dress but it’s gorgeous.I knew it was the one as soon as I put it on. It’s super comfortable and fit perfectly. And I couldn’t stop thinking about it after I left the store. I knew it had to be the one. Good luck finding a dress!

Post # 13
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I narrowed it down first by ‘shape’, since I am short and curvy but thin I found out trumpet style dresses look best on me. Also, since I have a largish chest, the sweetheart neckline was the most flattering.

I then decided that dresses that were too plain weren’t going to cut it (even though I always gravitated towards them) because I’m getting married in the evening in a beautiful church wiht a large fancy ballroom reception. So anything without detail or looked like an ‘outdoor’ dress didn’tn cut it – there had to be something going on.

I finally did a lot of online searching of different designers in my price range and saw that Priscilla of Boston offered a ton of trumpet style gowns with lots of different detail so I made an appointment there to try them on. I saw another bride trying on my dress and it was over – I knew it was the one.

Good luck and if I can offer advice, try to narrow it down like I did – first by shape, then by fabric/detail and then do some searches of designers within your price range. I never brought people with me (after the first time) because too many opinions or even worse blank stares really confused or upset me.

Post # 14
542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I went by myself to narrow it down, and found the one despite some drama with a rude sales lady.  I just knew when I put it on, and it was very similar to dresses I had picked out online/magazines.  When my mom came to visit a week later, I tried on four dresses so she wouldn’t know, but straight up told her it wouldn’t matter what she thought.  It is my dress- and I’m paying for it.

A few years ago when one of my sisters went shopping she tried on 6 dresses at a store.  The first one went on, then the second and she had to chose which one she like the best.  When the next one went on, it was compared to the favorite, so by the end, it was narrowed down to her favorite dress.  Maybe give that a try and see if it helps you eliminate some of the dresses.  Happy shopping!

Post # 15
3285 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

i lucked out, to be honest.  i stalked eBay for a few styles I found online that I liked, and got lucky on a bid!  you never know =)

Post # 16
172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I found my dress the first time I went looking, but had gone to try on a different one originally. I didn’t have a big ‘omg this is THE ONE’ moment but I kept remembering that one particular one and went back two months later to try it on again, and decided it was right for me then, but I think it’s ok to like a few dresses: I tried on some really lovely ones that almost swayed me too.


My mum and my Future Mother-In-Law both cried when I tried it on but I’m pretty independant in my choices anyway.

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