(Closed) How did you know you wanted kids?

posted 8 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Did it take you a while to decide if you wanted kids?
    Yes, but not very long : (3 votes)
    3 %
    Yes, and I went back and forth on it a lot : (28 votes)
    26 %
    No; it was a natural decision for me : (69 votes)
    65 %
    Other : (6 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 4
    Member
    5263 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We don’t. I know that’s not helpful, but we both flip-flop as well! We are not inherently kid-people. I’d say that you’d be best just waiting until you both are sure you want kids for at least 6 months-1 year straight. It’s not exactly something you can take back!

    Post # 7
    Member
    359 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    This is probably not going to be helpful, but I’ve always known I wanted to have kids. I have the strongest maternal instinct you’ll ever see.

    Sometimes I freak out about the physical aspect of it though. Like having this baby inside of you and then somehow pushing it out (OMG Scary!) and losing my figure and stuff… but I figure it will all be worth it in the end.

    Post # 9
    Member
    9056 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    We go back and forth a lot.  We’re definitely hesitant to dive in.  I hope this doesn’t sound bad, but neither of us are really baby people.  I think they’re cute, but kind of get bored of them quickly.  They say it’s different with your own kids, but what if it’s not??

    Plus, the double income, no kids stage is pretty nice.  I’m not always sure we’re ready to give up having lots of time for ourselves and disposable income.

    Post # 10
    Member
    439 posts
    Helper bee

    We’re about 98% in the no kids camp.  The older we get, the more annoying we find children to be.  I know people say it’s different with your own kids, but I just don’t know.

    We may change our minds, but we really don’t have much longer to change our minds.  We wouldn’t have them until after we’re married, and I’ll be 32 when we get there.  We don’t know how our lives would work with kids, either.  I’m in law school, and will likely be working a lot right after I first get out.  He’s a chef who wants to own his own restaurant.  We will always be on opposite work schedules for the rest of our lives.

     

    Post # 12
    Member
    3671 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I’ve always had a strong need to take care of animals and people.  I’d always wondered if I wanted kids because I work with teenagers right now and I know that my career is important to me.  As soon as I held my soon to be nephew though for the first time though it became incredibly obvious to me and my fiance that we definitely want kids, we just want to wait maybe 3-4 years at least before we start trying or at least not trying to prevent pregnancy (we think 25 is a good age to stop trying to prevent it and 27 is a good age for us to actually actively attempt to conceive).

    Post # 14
    Member
    3671 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    @Statutory Grape: We actually have talked about having two biological kids then if we’re still wanting to be parents adopting an older child that isn’t considered as much for adoption when we get a little bit older.

    Post # 16
    Member
    3671 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    @Statutory Grape: Yeah we definitely want to make sure we’re ready to have kids.  We know you can’t ever be totally ready financially or emotionally but we want to get as close to it as we can.  We would be fine with one (and know it’ll be a handful for us) but both of us want our children to have someone else to play with while at home as I was pretty much raised as an only child (I have a half-brother who lived with his dad 12 hours away from me).

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