Post # 1
I go back and forth on this subject so many times. I make pros and cons list. I’m a control freak! I want a baby but am I ready for one? I’m 27, he’s 31. Whenever my husband acts silly (which is often) I can totally see having a little baby boy just like him. Just thinking about it right now makes me smile. He is going to be an amazing father..and he wants to be one so badly. Me.. I think I’ll be a good mother and I’m obsessed with my nieces and nephews (2 newborns, and 3 others under the age of 5). My siblings even joke that I shower them in love and their kids are lucky to have “Aunty S” before she has a baby of her own to dote on.
But I value my independence. I love to travel. I love adventure. I like to drink on the dock in the sun reading a book all day. I want a baby but am I ready??? I know you’ll never know for sure…it’s hard to prepare for a baby… but I’m just wondering how YOU decided YOU were ready for a baby?
Post # 3
I work with infants, and I didn’t realize how much I wanted one until one of the other teachers pointed out I treat the kids like my babies instead of like the childcare worker I am!
That’s when I realized no other infant teacher blows tummy raspberries, or gives cheek kisses, or talks to them like adults, or counts their fingers, or smells their stinky feet!
And that’s when I knew I wanted a baby more than anything!
Post # 4
I got a BFP today and don’t think I’d ever have felt ready! But I realized I was when i found myself worrying the past few days about how disappointed I’d be if it was a bfn. If you’re financially and emotionally ready to care adequately for a baby, there’s always going to be a leap of faith element to it I think. It’s a huge change!
Post # 5
I have always wanted kids but yep I am scared of how much our life will change. I knew I was definitely ready when my period was quite late (unfortunately this has now happened twice since we started TTC but before that regular as clockwork *sigh*) and when I got BFN after BFN I was upset, and when AF finally arrived I was completely devastated.
I know that when I get that BFP I am probably still going to think “what have I done?” Cos life as i know it will change. But I know for me my life won’t be complete til I have a child of my own, plus DH is going to be an amazing daddy!
Post # 6
me and my FI were not TTC but we were not doing a very good job of NTNP.. as in no real form of birth control. my nuva ring ended in the end of august and i never got another birth control, and we both hated condoms. I’m 14 weeks pregnant. We are young. I’ll be 21 when baby arrives in December and FI will be 24. I’m still finishing school, but we live together. We just got engaged in March, as baby was being made in celebration most likely lol. it was definitely after our official engagement though. Our finances have been a little rocky but mostly because we haven’t been the best with our money, and we are really realizing how we need to change that. Not just because of the baby but because of how we spent so much money on stupid things like going out to eat. Why not save that money and use it for something much better like a vacation or something big to show for your hard work of earing money. we finally saw it that way and have got our finances on track, though were dealing with some CC debt and his bad bad medical debt from having no insurance. We plan to have a house in the next 3-4 years that is our biggest goal.
Anyways, my point was being a younger couple having a baby, everyone has always said oh don’t worry nobody is every 100% ready. And I kind of think that’s true. I think there are certain things you need to have figured out like your finances, are you happy at your job, do you have a savings, are you in a house that you want to raise a family in, or more so living somehwere you want to raise a family. I think its somewhat normal to worry you’re not ready for a baby. It does change your life and I don’t even have my baby here yet. But if you guys have a big social life, thats going to change. you have to think about what things would change your life if you have a baby. For my FI and I, we aren’t big social people. I mean we like to go out with friends every now and then but were not at the bar every weekend drinking . In fact we don’t really drink at all. Sometimes he has a beer at lunch or whatever.
I think when you get baby fever its a good sign to try if everything else is in order!
Post # 7
@S2013: I’m with you. Sometimes I think, “hey! we could do this” and in the same breath, I’m like, “so this vacation babe…” and realize we are TOTALLY not ready.
My friends with kids say you’ll never be READY ready and if you try to wait until you are, you’ll die of old age.
I think we’ll start talking babies when we feel something is missing (if that feeling actually comes). We want kids and would be very happy with them, but right now, I’m very content and happy in my life, just how it is. I think that’s a good sign NOT to have kids, for us anyway.
If I tested postive today, we’d probably freak out first but end up happy and completley fine. I also am not disappointed when I get my period (well, I am, because it hurts like a mo-fo but not in the fact that it means I’m not pregnant).