(Closed) How did you know your (now) FI/DH was the "one" for you?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I just knew.  He’s the only man I ever loved.  What we have is so special yet simple.  He was there for me in a way I can’t explain when my mother was sick and passed away.  The way I saw him interact with my younger cousins made me realize what a great father he will be.  And my family loves him as much as they love me.  

I helped him out a rough patch when we started dating when I was 15.  We broke up when I was 21, because I thought I was missing out on something.  As I got older and had other relationships it made me realize he really is the only guy out there for me.  Luckly he felt the same way.  We got back together when I was 23 (and going through a rough patch he helped me get out of) and things just went foward from there.  Now we’re getting married in 89 days and I couldn’t be happier or more excited!!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Because he’s my best friend, and he completely gets me, and I get him. We accept each other for who we are, and really work as a team. We both have are strengths and weaknesses, but we seem to compliment each other to make the best of the strengths and work on the weaknesses.

Plus I couldn’t imagine my life without him – he’s the love of my life and I have never been unhappy with him. And he keeps me interested in him and us, I feel motivated to keep with him because he loves me.

Whew so many reasons. I’m actually working on a jar of 365 reasons (one for every day of the year) why I love him to give to him the night before we wed 🙂

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Fiance and I started out very very casual.  We startd hanging out/seeing each other in November of 2007.  In May of 2008 my brother and his girlfriend passed away very suddenly.  Fiance had never met either of them.  I didn’t want him to feel weird or obligated to be at anything so I was kind of hush hush.  The day of my brother’s funeral he showed up.  I didn’t ask, I didn’t even give him any info.  He just sat silently in the back of the room.  I hugged him and cried my eyes out, then he just let me be with my friends and family.  That is when I knew. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Plus, he made me realise what I had been missing out on in previous relationships. And he pursued me before we dated, he must have known we were meant to be (I realised a little bit later!)

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

When I realized that I was able to be honest with myself about what I was contributing to the relationship, and that I wanted to do better.  He refused to let me continue believing that I was a “bad” person.  I went through years of abuse before I met him and he remained committed from day one, through the difficult work of understanding and accepting my past.  Amazing man.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2012

My brain didn’t know but my feelings did.. if that makes sense! We have had some rough times since we met so young but we grew together and faced our challenges together.  I was afraid to start dating him because we got along so well, I could not have possibly gotten it right on the first try, right? He felt like family right off the bat and I felt safe/comfortable around him. We fight for each other when needed but bring the other one back to earth when needed as well. We balance each other out.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I suspected within the first week of dating him, but wanted to keep a cool head.  I’d say I was sure about 6 months in.

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I literally knew the day I met him. It took two or three months to get him to finally talk to me, but we had an instant spark when we did. I was dating someone and then he got back together with his ex, but we were one another’s rocks through those awful relationships, and I just knew. I can be myself 100% around him. He doesn’t ask me to change anything about myself to suit him (my ex did this all the time–he wanted me to make myself into a version of his first girlfriend, yuck). He supports me through anything and everything, and he really balances me out.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

First of we make eachother happy but I would have say that I truely realised it when he started telling me about me! lol like he was explaining a look I get when I’m tired and he always seems to know how much food to give me based on how I’m acting. I just feel like we sometimes know eachother better then we know oursleves 🙂

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I just knew.  Well, we both knew.  It’s hard to explain.  I knew from the first day we became friends that we had some kind of special connection.  The timing wasn’t right, so we had to ignore those thoughts and feelings for years.  Once we finally got a chance to be together, it all fell into place, quickly and easily.  We never even told one another that we thought there was something until shortly after we started dating.  It was weird how we both had the same feelings about one another, but thought what we felt was crazy.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

It just all fell together for us fairly quickly. I didn’t want a relationship (if interested, check out my posts regarding my previous long marriage) and he had decided he wanted the “whole package” with a woman. Once we started seeing each other it became difficult not to talk to him every day. We usually IM’ed each night for hours and he emailed me every morning. I loved how he expressed himself in writing. I needed to be in control of how quickly we went. Soon I knew I loved him and was shocked by feeling that. I was shocked when he told me he loved me, but it always felt as if we were supposed to be together. Nearly 2 months after we met, I introduced him to my mother and he told her that we’d be together for the rest of our lives. She never doubted it. We’ve alwas felt that our relationship is nearly effortless. My mother said that for some people it’s “just written” that they’ll be together. She should know. Her own love story about meeting my dad is amazing. Other than my children, my guy is the greatest gift I’ve ever gotten.

Post # 15
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Helper bee

I was 18 and he was 23. We had instant chemistry when we sat down to dinner. I asked him out the next day. In two weeks, I knew I loved him. After 3 weeks, I said it. With him, it’s always just been EASY. We’ve grown together as a couple and push each other to do our bests and call each other out on our shit. We just work together. I can’t remember a point (prior to the aforementioned dinner) that I didn’t know that something was just right.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Because I felt it in my gut.

I had been in love before, yes, but I had never felt so safe or so certain.

Everything with Darling Husband has been easy.

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