(Closed) How did you know your SO was "the one" :)

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I, admittedly, had lots of long term relationships where I thought they might be “the one”. I knew Darling Husband was for sure “the one” after we went through an intensely crazy dramatic event that was traumatizing for me.

It created a situation where I chose to not be around his father and step-mother, but didn’t wnat to break up their relationship, and he chose to break it up anyways because his father made him choose between him and I. Anyways, we got through it, strengthened our relationship to the extreme levels and several months later we got engaged.

That single moment, however, where he rushed to my side and defended me, knowing what the consequences would be– that was my moment.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Mine is actually kind of depressing…when my mom was dying, my Fiance came out to where my parents lived when we realized how serious it was going to be. Before he got there she slipped into a coma. I knew she would never wake up and I suddenly felt so sad that she would never get to meet the man I would share my life with. And that’s when I knew how important and special he was to me, although in the difficult time that followed he prove over and over that he would be there good times and bad.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

It was just a feeling I had one day. Like, “oh, this feels right”

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

It came really quickly for me.  It was really after our second date.  We had the easiest time talking, he was funny and most of all I felt really safe with him.  About 7 months before we met I was raped and my Fiance was the first man I allowed myself to be alone with after that.  He didn’t know about that at the time but he never tried anything beyond kisses.  I just had this overwhelming feeling of security with him and I knew that if  I could feel that with a man after just 7 months then he must be something really special.  Total fate in my opinion! We met online when I wasnt even trying to online date for myself!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

During sex  : )  Seriously. I had my a-ha moment during sex.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

When my brother passed away I knew that this man that standing by my side at his funeral and the tough times leading up to his funeral was the man I would be with for the rest of my life

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

After I had spent the night in the hospital when I almost died is when I knew. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’m not sure if I have one definite moment, but I do have one that really made me think very seriously about it.

It’s a little embarassing. I have a bit of anxiety/OCD. Something I deal with on an every day basis, but with stress it gets worse.

I am very hesitant to throw things away – big thing with some OCDs. When it was time to move my apartment (we’d been dating 7 months at this point), SO was so helpful. And the fact that he took the time over and over to sit with me while I debated throwing out the dumbest things made me stop and realize – no person in the world would ever do this for me. Sit there and not judge me for something that to the outside world seems to crazy. He is the most amazing, patient, wonderful person.

This has been a constant in my confirming he is the one for me. It takes a special person to want to help you through something – to want to help you get better, and to not make you feel bad for feeling a certain way.  And he makes me want to help myself get over this! I think to my past relationships and if I was that open and vulnerable for even a moment, they would have ran out the door. My SO, he doesn’t run, he holds me instead.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

When I realized I could be my absolutely crazy self and he was equally insane. It was just intensified after we got into a car accident two days before our 1 year anniversary.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I never had to realize he was the one; I just always knew.

After a terrible morning fighting with my parents at home, my mom dropped me off for high school cheerleading practice. He and I had been talking on the computer a lot recently, so I looked for him in need of some comfort. When he arrived (for band practice), I asked, “Can I have a hug?” I promise you, the moment he wrapped his arms around me, I knew.

Flash forward 6 1/2 years, he proposed, and we’re finally planning our wedding!

I always wish I could go back in time and tell my 15 year old self that I was right. lol

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

It was love at first sight.  It only intensified after talking with him. Driving home later, I knew I had two options: making it work with him and settling.

The scary thing is, I almost wound up settling.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I had a strong feeling I would be with him forever after a few years of living together, but the moment when all doubt left me was January 2011.

I had been suffering from anxiety for quite some time and was diagnosed with gallstones which sent me over the edge. I was freaking out and not handling everything very well. I had 3 huge panic attacks in one month, each time resulting in an emergency room visit, and he was the best person I could have wanted by my side. He took care of me, advocated for me with the doctors, and would show up to the hospital with a bag of clothes, magazines, treats and snacks. Anything to make me comfortable. Then he sat there and held me for as long as it took for me to feel safe. I remember looking at him and thinking “this is the best man in the world”. Since then, I knew without a doubt he was the one for me. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

When he told me. lol

I was jaded after thinking that everyone I dated was going to be “the one”.  (I was like Ted on HIMYM.  lol)  So, I just went with the flow while we were dating.  When he started talking about future plans and kids, I got my Aha! moment.  All the pieces just seem to fit together.  It is awesome to have a man who is just as head-over-heels over me as I am over him. 

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I always thought he was cute/funny/there was something about him (we were acquaintences for about 1.5 years before we started dating, not quite friends). Honestly, it was probably our second “date”/time hanging out that I realized this relationship was different. I distinctly remember being so surprised at how easy it was. 6 weeks later when said I love you. 

9 months after that, I was diagnosed with cancer. He never, ever considered bailing, even when I gave him an out. He was always there and was my absolute rock through everything. I realized there’s nothing in this life that we can’t get through & that I never want to go through anything (good and bad) without him 🙂 

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