How did you know your SO was THE One? How did you know it was THE ring?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2020

I knew within a few months of dating that my Fiance and I could possibly make it long term, which I really wanted, but we were young and had a lot of hurdles in front of that dream. So it took about three more years of dating and getting over those hurdles that I was for sure we could make it for life and was ready to commit myself to him for life.

As for the ring, I went to a few stores and looked at many styles without much luck. When going through my Pinterest board of rings, I realized engraved rings were what I really liked. Went to a few more stores that didn’t offer much in terms of engraved rings, then I turned to the internet. Found the OroSpot store on Etsy and loved their scrollwork designs! Added them to my list that I gave Fiance and he ended up getting my favorite one! Knew it was perfect when I saw it on my finger. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 19
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999 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

When I met my SO he was in the process of purchasing his first home (gorgeous 4 story modern condo) so this was suppose to be his bachelor pad. My lease was up in 6 months and he asked me to move in with him because we lived across town from each other and it was starting to take a toll with me doing all the driving to and from. He said that he knew that he wanted to marry me when he asked, he had never before lived with anyone and wanted to make sure we would be compatible living together. It wasn’t for another 2 yeas till we got engaged but we did learn so much about each other and I never regretting moving in together so quickly because he was the one for me; I am just happy he felt the same way lol 

As far as the ring goes, I never wear the one he purchased me. I have three rings an 1.25 carat CZ oval in a micro pave designer band, a 1.25 carat round brilliant in a solitaire setting, and I am currently having a stunning 4.6 carat Marquise reset into a 3 stone band (this was suppose to be my engagement ring but he knew I wanted an oval). Two of the diamonds are inheritance pieces so that is why he got a CZ to propose with. 

 

Rings come and go but the man is what is important, as long as you know he is your forever than the ring can always be changed lol 

Post # 20
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

There are many rings and many men, I could have likely been happy with approximately twenty of either one.

But I did hate my husband less than most men and he’s pretty hot so I figured, why not?

Post # 21
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I knew he was the one when I knew I would be happy to have him for the rest of my life ๐Ÿ™‚ and this is coming from someone who was afraid of commitment, never had dreams of getting married or having kids.  I remember the day I told him – you know, I can picture the rest of our lives together.

We went to high schoool together (I had a huge crush on the guy with pink hair who called me “witchhunter robin”…) and reconnected years later. And the rest so to speak, is history ๐Ÿ™‚

As for the ring, I feel like I’m one of the few bees who could care less *hides under a desk*.  Didn’t even realize picking out a ring was something people did.

Post # 22
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Busy bee

When I met my SO at 14 years old in highschool, I thought he was a vain a-hole. Cause he was. Teen boys are a little or very cocky in those years (he was a year older). He got on my nerves. Never would have thought he was the one obviously. Plus super young then.

He reached out to me when I was 27 and I thought… wth??? 

I dated so many jerks and only one nice guy over those 13-14 years. So when he asked me how I was doing and if I wanted to go get some dinner at a local mexican restaurant I was kinda on edge. I don’t think I knew he was the one for a while because I had walls up plus he was being a bit reserved himself.

I think I knew he was it when we could have normally flowing conversations about the future (marriage, kids, and buying a home together etc). Previous guys I dated, I was almost terrified to ever bring up anything about marriage or kids because… well… they were NOT the one. I guess for me, being able to bring up such things in comfort validated whether he was the one or not. 

As for the ring, I do not know if it has been purchased yet but I knew I wanted a simple solitare. I knew before we went and looked. I don’t think I will be that ecstatic over the ring though, versus finally knowing we are getting to take the next step together and start a new life. 

Post # 23
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1945 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

We started dating when we were 14 years old and I instantly knew he was the one I was going to spend the rest of my life with. As for my engagement ring we never went shopping together it was entirely up to him. I really like the element of surprise and I always love everything he gives me and my engagement ring was no different 

Post # 24
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187 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

The guy – it was just a “feeling” I had when we were together. I can’t explain it but my heart just knew he was the one for me. Not only do I love him but I LIKE him ….. he’s my best buddy .

 

The ring – I literally gasped when I saw it. After months of shopping for rings …… this was the only ring that I had that reaction with. We bought it on the spot.

Post # 25
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i don’t believe in the one. 

my ering was my grandmother’s diamond.  Darling Husband took the ring and traded in the setting towards my setting. i gave him some pictures of what i liked and he had his jeweler design it himself.

as for Darling Husband, i met him at a mutual friend’s party.  we chatted for a while.  but i wasn’t interested or attracted to him.  he asked me on a date.  i said yes because i had nothing better to do and figured why not. my mom had told me to give guys a 2nd chance and not just write them off after a 1st date.  i did have a lot of fun, so i said yes to date #2.  he planned the best dates.  we had a lot of fun and he was easy to be around.  plus some other mutual friends gave him glowing reviews.  everyone knew before me that i liked him.  they said my eyes lit up and i was happy when i talked about him.  it took me another month or so to admit to myself.

and as they say the rest is history.  we’ve been married just over 4 years and expecting #2 any day now.

Post # 26
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1589 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

paigerino :  i met mine on tinder too ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 27
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274 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

avprobeauty :  yayyy I love hearing other tinder success stories

Post # 28
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228 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

How I knew he was the one:  I would rather hang out in the dive bar with him than do anything else. 

How I knew my ring was the one:  After searching for 11 months (online and no less than 5 retailers, it was the only ring I saw that took my breath away.  It was nothing that I said I wanted, but everything I loved.  Once he saw it, he agreed, that was the one. 

Post # 29
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297 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

How did I know my Fiance was the one? Everything was peaceful when I was with him. We knew each other for years before we were an item. He was my best mate, and someone I could spend hours with. When I did, all I did was laugh and feel an immense sence of calm – like all would be OK. We lost touch for a good few years, and then one day he messages me. It was like God was saying “it’s now the right time for you both”… I never, ever stopped thinking about him. He was someone I searched for and longed for, and compared other people to. Now, we fit together better than I could have ever hoped or imagined. He still makesme laugh, he still fills me with peace and now he is mine to be with forever.

As for the ring, I left that up to him to decide. I gave him the instructions of white gold and blue sapphire (with the occasional dropped hint of a style I liked that I had seen). He chose it, bought it and surprised me with it. He did incredibly well!

Post # 30
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Buzzing bee

Fiance and I met on Tinder – we had talked a LOT in the few days between when we matched and our first date. And not the silly, joking talking you usually do with matches – deep discussions about life and our childhoods and families. 

We both knew we were uniquely suited for each other from the first date – from that point on we were both just waiting for a reason NOT to get married, and that reason never materialized. We’ve compared notes – turns out I was waiting for him to start being controlling or manipulative – he was waiting to see if I was going to become entitled and demanding and needy.

Once we knew each other long enough to feel assured we weren’t hiding glaring personality flaws from each other, we started discussing marriage.

So there was never a moment when we “realized” we were meant for each other – it was a feeling that was always there from the beginning that never went away. 

As for the ring.. I don’t know about “the one,” but we created it together, from elements we both wanted and felt strongly about. There were never any “options” to choose from – we chose the cut of the stone, then the setting, and were in agreement on all the elements. 

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