How did you know your venue was 'the one' and any winter weddings?

posted 2 years ago in Venue
Post # 31
45 posts
  • Wedding: February 2020 - San Diego, CA

We’re having a winter wedding in February, but we do live in Southern California. A lot of our guests are coming from the East Coast/Midwest (fiancé is originally from there) so we wanted to give them a chance to escape the brutal winter.


We originally were set on having a Catalina Island wedding and were only looking at Catalina Island. After realizing how difficult it would be to get people on and off an island, we started exploring other options. I came across my venue after a late night googling session and was able to schedule a visit 2 days later. My fiancé and I were originally interested in a particular ceremony/reception site on the property which we saw first. However, since the max it could accommodate was 140 (we’re expecting 120-150), the Events Director suggested we look at another site that could accommodate a bit more guests. After seeing the views, we were sold. It was the first and only on-site visit we actually did.


Our location is a bit out of the wedding norm which is what really appealed to us and it’s very kid-friendly. Also, I’m the type of person who once I know what I want, I stop looking for anything else. I zero in on it and must have it. My fiancé calls it stubbornness and not being open-minded. 🤷🏻‍♀️



Post # 32
4257 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - Canada

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happybridetobe1 :  I knew our venue was “the one” because its the only one in town that had all the amenities we needed lol. We will be having a winter wedding and all of our guests have to travel a minimum of 1 hour. We have lots of hotel rooms reserved and our immediate families will come up at least a day early for the rehersal & dinner. If anyone else is unable to make it because of weather, that’s just the way the cookie crumbles! I can’t ask people to take time off work and travel early just in case there’s bad weather. 

Post # 33
124 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2019 - City, State

I didn’t really have a magical moment when looking for a venue; it was a left-brain decision, lol. After I spent a month ruling out the already-booked, the out-of-budget, the too-small, and the rude-staff options, I realized there was an affordable and reputable banquet hall in a really convenient neighborhood for us. It’s not super trendy or an outwardly stunning building or anything, it just really works for us on all levels. And I was starting to get panicky about everything booking up before we committed to something, lol. ETA, we are also a winter wedding.

Post # 34
47 posts
  • Wedding: May 2019

I think it helps to agree on a theme, as that narrows the potentil list down significantly. It sounds like you know the style you like already, maybe you can then think of a few kind of venues that would fit your need? Once you know what to search for, you can start to find possibilities online. Also, it’s possible to find reviews/pictures of other people etc. I’d call/email before the trip to know the general availability/pricing. And I’d pick out a few choices to look at together to see what really catches your eye.

That’s how we selected our venue in a month. We decided we want to do castles as those are very typical/special of Germany and that’s where we met. We then looked online to find around 20 possible choices. We emailed/called/looked-up previous weddings to narrow down the list. Then we plotted all the venues and designed a 2-day round trip to visit the most promising 5-6. During the trip, we both fell in love with the one we’ve chosen and basically made up our mind. We kept a plan B in the game just in case something does not work out and to give ourselves more level-headedness when negotiating the package. After some rounds of negotiation we have now signed the final contract and paid the down payment. 

Ah, also, there’s a ton of venue question lists around on the internet and they’re basically an organized list you can go through with your potential venues to gain a comprehensive understanding of the place and its policies. It also helps you comparing the places side by side later. I found it quite helpful. Also, once you selecte a place, you already have the list of what can be done, what are the price breakdowns etc. , it helps with contract negotiation and execution, too. 

Post # 35
1305 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - Turkey

I’m not having a winter wedding, because all the venues we’ve reviewed literally sucked, didn’t have room for 600-700 guests that we’ll be having, or waaaay too overpriced. Sooo, when we first went to the forest tent venue, it was a rainy winter day. The venue wasn’t even finished and still isn’t until mid March.

I was very skeptical when my fiance suggested checking it out first, and we even went to the other end of the forest and saw literally nothing. At that point I was haha sure… Half an hour after I saw the actual thing, I went wo wo woooow! That’s it that’s it, let’s not look anywhere else. I just felt it. 

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