(Closed) How did you know your wedding dress was "the One"?

posted 5 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
528 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I didnt believe in that, but it sort of was for me. i am wondering if i was somewhat influenced by the fact the dress actually fitted. but anyway i wanted a simple silk dress, and this one called to me as soon as i saw it on the hanger. and yeah i felt a bit teary when i tried it on, but that happened with a few dresses as well.

Post # 3
1084 posts
Bumble bee

I always thought I wanted a lace dress with an A-line. My second choice (in my vision) was a heavenly beaded dress. I hated mermaid dresses. When I finally started dress shopping I soon learned that 1) there was no “wow” factor when I was in a lace dress. it wasn’t bad, but nothing stunning. 2) I tried on beaded dresses and it overpowered me, the dress was wearing me. I finally tried something I had 0% interest in: a sati, mermaid dress, with minimal beading. When I put it on, I lit up, i felt like a bride, it took my breath away. I knew that was the dress. When I walked out of the dressing room with the dress on, everyone stopped talking and I took their breath away. Even other brides and their families stopped to say “wow, that’s your dress.”

Post # 4
3586 posts
Sugar bee

I was sure that i wanted a chiffon dress and then i was like well let me try on a satin instead.  I was in love with the satin so i found a dress that had a flower belt. That belt is what sold me on the dress. As for style i knew i didnt want a ball gown because they were huge. Mermaid and fit and flare are to uncomfortable so i knew it had to be an A line

Post # 5
1377 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Chicpeas:  My mom and I went to a bridal show. We managed to get split up, and when wandering try to find each other, we both (separately) saw the dress at a showcase station, took a picture, and then immediately tried to show it to each other when we found each other again. I tried on probably 4 other dresses, and just kept coming back to the first one. My mom did cry with that dress, and I’m a hardcore symphathy crier, so I did too, lol. The consultant was great – very tactful when a dress was not quite right, but with this one she was nothing but smiles. 

The dress is pretty much what i saw myself in too – all lace, some beading, some sparkle, fitted but still easy to move in (I think it’s a fit and flare? or a very fitted a-line). 

Post # 6
3276 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I tried on four dresses bought the fourth. I knew I wanted either a ballgown type or fitted lace. The mermaid type dresses looked great but I couldn’t walk in them at all, the ballgowns all looked very similar so I just picked one with beading I liked. I knew I wasn’t going to have some emotional moment, because it’s just a dress, I wore for one day. I didn’t want to waste time trying on a bunch of dresses that look so similar. I did end up buying a reception dress without trying it on and it was great. Try not to put too much pressure on finding “the one” and just pick one that makes you feel like a beautiful bride!

Post # 7
264 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015 - Miami, Fl

I knew it was the “one” as soon as I tried it on! I had tried on soooo many dresses (at least 50) and even created a poll here for my 2 top contenders. The poll actually helped me realize I shouldn’t settle on a dress and that my opinion was the only one that mattered! I saw a dress online (Casablanca 1975!) and booked another appointment. Of course that salon had the dress listed on their website but they didn’t actually have it available to try on. We didn’t even leave the parking lot and I was calling other salons from the Casablanca store listings determined to try this dress on! As soon as I finally tried it on, I knew it was “the one”. I cried. Like boo hoo cried. It was such a mixture of relief and happiness. My mom cried too. Another family walked in while I was still staring at myself in the mirror and said “That’s it! That’s the one!” I was hardly paying attention to anyone or anything else except the mirror!

Keep looking. Your dress is out there! You will know when you don’t want to take the dress off and you are just itching to put it back on! I never thought I would find MY dress but I did! Now I just have to wait patiently till March to wear it again!

Post # 8
2690 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I really didn’t think I would have that “aha!” moment of this is my dress, but I actually did. My consultant brought in a dress that was a last ditch effort to find me what I was looking for. She unzipped the dress and I just knew. It was exactly what I wanted, to the t. A colored dress with a Victorian feel, strapless, sweetheart neckline, corest back. It was just perfect.

If you haven’t already I would suggest starting a Pinterest account and then before your appointment picking your top five and showing them to your consultant. They are trained to see the thread of commonality in seemingly completely different dresses.

Post # 9
9588 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

Because it was an easy decision. I put it on and was like yup that’ll do. Let’s wrap it up.

Post # 10
56 posts
Worker bee

Its good that you appreciate a lot of styles and it’s hard when you look good in a lot of them. Think about your venue and how the dress will match up with the formality of it as well as the style of your wedding. Try dresses until there is just one you can’t get off your mind.

Post # 11
2690 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Chicpeas:  For me, I went home liking two dresses and couldn’t choose between – I googled and tried to see other brides in it and believe it or not (this is actually silly) seeing the model (which I know I look nothing like) in the dress sealed the deal!

I never had that eureeka cryung moment though.. maybe Im just un-emotional

Post # 12
1289 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Chicpeas:  the first dress I bought (and returned!) was definitely not my dress. I had to talk myself into it and for 3 weeks thought about a totally different dress I tried on at the same store. When David’s called and told me my dress was in I felt dread. I didn’t really want to put that dress on again. A friend and I went to pick it up and try it on again and I knew I couldn’t get married in that monstrosity. So I asked to put on the other dress I was thinking about and broke into a huge smile the moment it was on. I think it’s a feeling you get. You can picture yourself walking down the aisle. You might cry, you might not (I didn’t) but you WILL know 🙂 

Post # 13
171 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I’m not a crier, and I didn’t have an “aha” moment. I was down to 2 dresses and I just went back to the pictures we had taken and looked at how they looked on me and how I felt I looked in them (happy, uncomfortable, etc) and then I went back to the salon and ONLY tried on those two (this was after 3 different salons and prob 30-40 dresses total) and picked the one I felt looked the most like “me”.

One of the two dresses (spoiler alert: the one I DIDN’T pick) was something that really surprised me – it was a satin drop-waist A line (that’s the best way I can describe it lol) with lots of ruching and a really blingy neckline and corset back. As a street size 16/18, I never thought I’d look good in such a fitted gown, but it really accentuated the right curves and downplayed the wrong ones. I LOVED the ruching and the corset back, but wasn’t completely sold on the blingy neckline.

Ultimately, the dress I decided on is a tulle full A line with ruched bodice and buttons down the back. It also comes with a blingy belt that I am not wearing and will be replacing with a soft blush flower sash from Etsy. I’m still a little sad that it doesn’t have the corset back but I just feel like ME every time I put the dress on!

I guess my point has two parts. Number one, don’t feel bad if you don’t cry or have a SYTTD moment – it’s not an indicator of how happy you’ll be with your dress or your marriage. Number two, find something that helps you feel like yourself! Refer to pictures and get one or two trusted opinions (for me it was my mom and sister). But ultimately only YOU will know which is YOUR dress. Good luck! 🙂

Post # 14
242 posts
Helper bee

I can completely relate to how you feel. I first tried on a bunch of dresses at Davids Bridal, I found some I liked, was surprised that a dropped waist looked good on me, fell in love with corset back style and realized sweetheart neckline was perfect for me. I was trying to veer away from lace, sweetheart, mermaid or fit and flare since all of that seems to be so common. Once I realized the sweethear really did look the best on me, I didn’t care if it was common or not.

Then I went to a small bridal shop, asking for more specific guidelines and found a few I really liked there. Once in particular was nice, a simple lace, sweetheart, corset, not a big train and was cheap. I was going to order that one, even though it wasn’t a magical moment.

I went back to order that one and wanted to look around one more time. I was hoping to find something similar with a little bit more special lace. I found a totally different style in the discontinued sample section. When I put it on, I knew it was a contender. It was lace, halter with sweetheart, no corset but that can be added, a medium train, the lace has a little bit of bead word to make it sparkle, and underneath the lace is a tan fabric that makes it all look really nice against my skin. I asked for a veil, a long veil, and that’s when I knew. I just got that butterflies in my stomach feeling, no tears though I welled up a bit. This was the look I would get married in.

It can be overwhelming, and that’s where I was when I just decided to order the simple lace one. But I knew I wanted something just a little bit more than that dress had to offer. I am so glad I looked again, even though its more money and a little over the dress budget, so worth it.

I would recommend revisting the top dresses you’ve tried on. Maybe thinking about the ceremony location, what would look the best for the feel of the wedding you are having, and add a veil to the ones that stand out. See if that makes a difference. I got away from some of the dressier ones since we are having a small, intimate affair. I also knew I wanted lace for the soft romantic feel, I decided I really liked it and who cares if its popular? I like it and I will rock it!! For reference here are the two dresses: First one was the one i was going to order


Hhere is THE ONE!!!lol!

Trust your gut. I do agree with the pp, who said its a dress for one day. Just pick something you feel beautiful in!! Good luck!

Post # 15
1519 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

For me, I had a list of things that I wanted in a dress:

  • loved lace, but was open to other designs
  • fit and flare
  • had straps of some sort
  • had a keyhole or portrait back
  • looks great bustled (I don’t like the bustles that look bunchy or tiered)

I tried on one dress that I really, really liked. It was strapless and fit and flare. The bottom was tulle. It looked so beautiful! I almost said yes to it, but I wanted to think about it. Once I got home and was able to really think about it, I realized that although I liked the dress, I couldn’t get past the fact that it was missing several things that I really wanted. Also, I didn’t like how the tulle would look bustled. I knew that if I picked that dress, I would end up with dress regret.

My second appointment, I went to another store and the consultant there really listened. I did try on several dresses with different details and different silhouettes, just to rule them out. Then I put on the dress that I ultimately picked. It checked every box and looked beautiful! When I was standing there looking at myself in the mirror, I didn’t want to take the dress off.

I just picked up my dress last week, and I love it more than ever!

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