(Closed) How did you lose it?

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: How did you lose your V-Card?
    After marriage : (30 votes)
    8 %
    After dating someone for over a year : (74 votes)
    19 %
    After dating someone for less than a year but over 6 months : (61 votes)
    16 %
    After dating someone for less than six months : (120 votes)
    31 %
    Just before starting a relationship (i.e. before you are bf/gf, gf/gf, etc) : (13 votes)
    3 %
    With a hook-up buddy (having sex on multiple occasions after) : (24 votes)
    6 %
    One time with a friend : (15 votes)
    4 %
    One time with an acquaintance : (14 votes)
    4 %
    One night stand with stranger : (13 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    724 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I lost it about 6 months into my first serious relationship (I was 18). I was not at all saving myself for any reason but looking back I do wish I would have waited. That relationship lasted way too long and I honestly think it’s because I felt too attached. He was my first real boyfriend, my first love, my first partner and I just had a hard time letting go after that even though I knew the relationship needed to end. I don’t regret it and I am for sure happy that my SO wasn’t my first because he had quite a few partners before me and I would have felt so insecure.

    Post # 4
    Member
    4160 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I was 15 Yell sounds sooo young now.  It was with my high school boyfriend who I was with for about 1.5 years and we were together for 5 all together.  I don’t regret it, but I do regret wasting so much time with that idiot lol.

     

    Post # 5
    Member
    6892 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Fiance and I were eachother’s firsts…and I voted after less than 6 months. Hell, I think it might have been less than 6 weeks? Lol. I guess we just “knew.” My whole principle was that I’d never do something I was uncomfortable with. Obviously it worked out, as 4 years later we are getting married. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 7
    Member
    23 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    My fiance is the only person i have had it with. We did it a few times within our first year then stopped because we want to wait till we are married. So i feel its best to wait for marriage.  

    Post # 8
    Member
    724 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @nineteen87:  HAHA. I understand that a little too much. My Fiance was actually one of my best friend from high school all the way through undergrad and we didn’t start dating until my senior year in college. So I actually know every single one of his ex girlfriends AND every single girl he has ever been with before me. Sometimes I am thankful for that and other times I wish I didn’t know so much about him! 

    Post # 9
    Member
    3978 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Wow, I’m the only ‘after marriage’ vote yet! woohoo for me!

    Post # 10
    Member
    3968 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I wanted to wait until I got married (I was terrified some guy was going to hit it and quit it), SO even agreed to date me when I told him this (and he hadn’t made that commitment hhaa), it took a lot of soul searching and I realized that this was the right guy, the wedding day didn’t magically change anything, so it was almost 2 years after we started dating. I knew by then he truly cared for me! So, definitely glad I waited, I could have waited longer, but overall, glad it was with SO, I was almost 21.

    Post # 11
    Member
    103 posts
    Blushing bee

    I was 15 and I wanted to be a huge rebel! He was a few years older than me and took really good care of me, so I was very fortunate!

    I don’t regret it, I’ll encourage my kids to do it for better reasons obviously but even with a less than perfect start I couldn’t be happier in my relationship with Fiance, and the decisions I had to make to bring me to him ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 12
    Member
    1213 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I lost mine after dating a guy for 3 months. That guy is now my fiance so it worked out well for us. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 14
    Member
    269 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    @AmeliaBedelia:  Exact same here! I think we waited about 4 weeks after being officially together. We just both weren’t comfortable with the people in our past relationships to get that far. I didn’t want to give it to someone who I wouldn’t want kids with just in case something happened.

    Post # 16
    Member
    216 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    My Fiance was my first when I was 21 (although I wasn’t his), but I waited about 2 months…guess it worked out ๐Ÿ˜€

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