Post # 1
Hi Bees –
I have a question for you all. I recently discovered that by boyfriend has begun the ring shopping process (without going into details, he didn’t tell me, and he doesn’t know that I know). I know the kind of setting I want, but I don’t know how to ensure that he picks it! How did you all handle this situation? Did you just tell him directly? Get a friend to tell him? Keep your mouth shut and hope for the best? I would love your advice!
Post # 3
@SFrunner: My Fiance and I discussed what kind of ring and I picked between 2. He noticed that i kept going back to the same one and bought it 🙂
Post # 4
Tell him directly verbally or via email. You don’t have to tell him you know. You can even say that it’s for future reference for whenever he decides to start looking. 🙂 My guy let me know that he wanted to know what I wanted. I emailed him some links. Then we went shopping together, and we’re still shopping. 🙂
Post # 5
have a friend bring it up…i always thought i would enlist my sister in this if needed… or maybe you coul send him pictures? leave a catalogue out with pictures circled?
I didnt really know my husband was searching either though one day while walking through the mall he was like lets go in here and pointed at a jewelry store, i got so nervouse that i didnt even know what to look at – i tried on one ring and we left. I took that as my chance to show him what i liked so i went online that night and showed him a few settings – he proposed 2 months later with a beatiful ring! exactly what i would have picked if i picked it myself.
Post # 6
We shopped together. He’s going to want you to be happy with what he chooses, so it’d probably be best just to tell him or show him what you want, rather than have him find out later that you’re disappointed with his choice.
Post # 7
Depends on your Fiance. Mine did not allow me any input so telling my friends and pointing out rings I liked did not work. He took his sister with him to pick out my ring…this is good and bad. She and I do not have the same taste, but I’d hoped she’d pick something for me…not herself. I too stumbled upon my ring on accident and at first did not like the ring AT ALL. It was nothing like what I’d imagined it would be…but over the time I spent waiting for him to propose I fell in love with the ring and now love it. It also looked MUCH nicer in person than on the computer. So in the end the ring is very me. So I say, just trust that your SO knows you and knows what you like.
Post # 8
I had no say whatsoever, lol
Post # 9
My engagement wasn’t a suprise at all which was kind of a let down because I always love the stories about the guy getting down on one knee and proposing but I guess the up side is that I got to pick out my e-ring. I would say start looking for rings online and when you know what you want just tell him “oh I saw this beautiful engagement ring online if we ever get engaged I hope my ring will be like that one.”
Post # 10
I picked the right guy… and by doing so I got the ring that I adore, though not what I wanted, but I love it regardless.
Post # 11
He asked me to send him an e-mail with “all my sizes” (shirt size, shoe size, ring size…) so I figured it was fair game to also e-mail him a link to a setting I liked. I meant it as a GUIDE but he has no confidence in his jewellery-buying-abilities and so he bought that exact one. Except it was 9 months later, at which point I had actually forgotten even sending him the link!
Post # 12
Thanks for all the replies! I guess I should just man up and tell him what I want, “for future reference.” I know he’s big on surprises, so I doubt he would ever ask me what I want directly. Rough problem to have, I guess 🙂
Post # 13
I literally drew him a picture, lol, but he asked me to. In your case, I would try and enlist whoever you found out from to give him some suggestions on what you might like.
Post # 14
I took it upon myself to send him some pictures of styles I liked. Then he went shopping on his own and picked out the ring himself. He actually second guessed himself so he took me ring shopping one day and I fell in love with a certain ring. Turns out it was the one Fiance had picked (and already bought). I’m sure he let out a huge sigh of relief when I chose the one he already bought lol
Post # 15
I “accidentally” left the website open when he borrowed my pc. I didn’t get the ring I imagined but you won’t believe how much I love the one I got, of course he asked for some input as for the lines I liked and the metal, so that helped.
Post # 16
- Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)
We went shopping together!