(Closed) How did you make your final decision on your dress? Any second thoughts?

posted 8 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I was not 100% on my dress but it was the perfect dress for my wedding.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

i was sure when i bought it, but as the months went by i became less sure. untill wedding day, than i thought it was perfect. and that’s what counts.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

i bought a dress in september that i was 98% sure of.  It is a very pretty dress but I second guessed it from the second i purchased it until I finally decided to do something about it last month.  I bought a dress that I’m SURE is the right one for me.  There was just nothing about it I wanted to change.  I felt pretty and I just wanted to get married in it.  The other dress didn’t do that for me.  

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I decided because I started trembling and tearing up at the thought of not having that dress (it was over twice my budget). So I negotiated and got it.

Since then, I’ve seen several beautiful dresses I also think I would have liked, but they are almost all in the style of my current dress.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

i have second thoughts everyday about my dress, but always come back to it, and i love it! i saw it in a magazine, saw how it made me almost look skinny, and was in love! lol.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I am soooo indecisive!  I was between 3 dresses for a long, long time.  I finally cut 1 out and then had a really tough time betweent the final 2.  I think the most helpful thing for me was having my mom take photos of my in the dress from several angles.  In the end, I chose my dress for 2 reasons: I liked the fuller skirt because it felt more “once in a lifetime” and I liked the dress on me from the back better than my #2 option. 

But, even with that, I did have lots of second thoughts throughout the process, right up until I tried on my dress when it came in a couple weeks ago.  I kept thinking maybe I would actually look better in the other, the other would fit the location better, the other one was more classic, etc.  It was even to the point where I didn’t call the shop back or go see my dress for 3 weeks after they called to tell me it came in.  But when I finally put it on, those thoughts went away.  I am so glad, I know it’s perfect now.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I have a really really hard time making decisions, but the dress was the one thing for me that was pretty easy.  It made my sillouette look amazing, my mom cried & I didn’t want to take it off.  That plus a price tag of 650 (and they threw in the veil) sealed the deal for me!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

PS, I totally had second thoughts the next day, but I have second thoughts about every LARGE purchase.  SO I talked to my mom, and she reassured me that I made the right choice!  And I love it now!  I can not wait to wear it!!!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

no second thoughts here…but I’m usually a very “final” decision maker.  Plus I took my time with dress shopping, and spread it out over five months so I would really have time to think about it.  Even though I fell in love with my dress the first time I tried it on, I kept looking and tried it on three separate times before I bought it.  I actually spent an entire appointment at Saks trying on every dress that I remotely liked to erase any doubts!

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I was really indecisive about a dress too. I don’t think about it much anymore, but I was driving myself a little crazy for several weeks. I think it’s that I WISH I were edgy, but I’m traditional at heart. I tried to go for something offbeat, but finally had to admit that, as cool as that is for other brides, it’s really not me.

My final 3 dresses were a short one, a high-low, and a more traditional gown. When I was really honest with myself, I felt the most comfortable and ‘right’ in the traditional dress. I think I had to let go of visions of who I WANTED TO BE as a bride, in favor of who I really am. Then it was easy. I still have moments of ‘dress lust’ when I see another Bee’s gorgeous gown (Marisa 815, I’m talking to you), but mostly I’m peaceful knowing I made a good choice.

Wish I could remember which married Bee posted that ultimately her dress choice didn’t matter that much: she could’ve worn a dress from her closet and felt just as beautiful and special on her wedding day. Thanks, whoever wrote that! It’s helped me keep perspective in those moments of doubt.

See this thread: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/did-anyone-just-settle-for-a-dress for some good perspectives on choosing a dress. Some brides have that ‘lightning bolt’ certainty; others don’t. It’s all good!

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2010

here’s the thing: i think it’s impossible not to have any second thoughts. i mean, this is a HUGE day for you, and you want to look your absolute best, so who wouldn’t just have a bit of insecurity regarding her decision? there are a million gorgeous dresses out there, and frankly, i wish i could wear so many of them, that having no second thoughts seems just implausible! eventually you have to just pick one (well, unless you’re a celebrity) to wear the big day. if two dresses make you feel fantastic, you’ll have to pick one, and once you do, stop thinking about it! you’ll love it the day of the wedding as it will be the only option – think of it that way!

 

good luck!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I love my dress but i have to say that my SIL in getting married in sept and after i paid for my dress when i went with her i wish i had looked more and then i saw another that was similar to mine but more simple. i wanted to change my dress but then the consulant talked to me about how beautiful my dress was and it was way better so i fell back in love with mine again

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I probably searched harder than any other Bee here (22 stores!). It was the hardest decision of my entire wedding. But the issue wasn’t decisiveness, it was not finding the vision in my head. It seems like for some reason no designer decided to make that dress this year (drop waist ballgown in allover lace) even though it didn’t seem it would be that difficult to find. Had I found THE ONE, I would’ve known right away. I know this because I was married before, and I got that feeling then. This time it wasn’t meant to be. So I chose the nicest looking dress of all the ones I’d seen and that wasn’t ridiculously out of my budget. At least I know two things 1) it’s not a cheap looking dress 2) it’s special and beautiful. But…it’s not my dream ballgown. Now when I finally pick it up in a couple weeks and bring it home, if I hate the way it looks on me, I’m totally going on a last minute sprint to find Plan B!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I loved my dress the minute I tried it on. It fit well and the chiffon flowed so elegantly. But it’s CHIFFON! I went back and forth worrying about getting a dress in such a fragile fabric. But ultimately, I just went for it.

The key I think is once you have truly made up your mind- not too keep looking at dresses. It is way too tempting!

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