Post # 1
So I’m starting to look for wedding venues and I’m realizing that everywhere I’m look offers a one-stop-wedding-shop. I find this to be a double edged sword. I love that everything I need can all be found at my venue (thus cutting costs for travel and delivery) and they know what works well with their specific layout. But that venue has a wedding every weekend, the brides get to choose from the same a la carte menue, not leaving much room for variety. I’m having a hard time thinking of ideas to make our wedding unique to us. So my question is, how are you making your wedding your own? What seperates it from the other weddings held at your venue or those you’ve attended?
Post # 3
LOL We stopped asking people’s opinions. Literally. We both agreed that our wedding didn’t have to play by anyone’s rules, and from that point on, we’ve had a great time customizing what we want to have happen! 🙂
Post # 4
One things I’ve learned is that even though all we can think about all the time is weddings, that that isn’t necessarily the case for our guests. We really want to do a photobooth, but both my fiance and I were thinking "oh but everyone does them" … then we thought about it for a minute — we haven’t ever been to a wedding that has one, which means that 90% of our guests probably haven’t either! Just because something seems overdone or repeated, doesn’t mean it will be to your guests. Another example is the birdcage veil, I see it all over weddingbee and all over other brial things, but I’ve never actually seen a bride with one, which means again, if I decide to go that route, I’ll probably be the only bride most of our guests see with one.
You make your day your own by enjoying yourself and your guests!
Post # 5
Our wedding isn’t going to be extraordinarily different to others, but it will have lots of meaning behind it, which I’m not sure whether or not guests will know.
Our venue is overlooking our alma mater where we met. We are serving chicken and filet mignon, since I was such a picky eater when we met until he introduced me to filet mignon, I loved it and became a more adventeous eater. We are also considerign a welcome reception the night before at the hotel. It is a destiantion wedding, so we may welcoem guests with ice cream form the place we had our first date. Most people won’t get why these details are so special, but it will be special for us.
I think the main thing is to include items that are special to you and nto worry what others think.
A couple suggestions on making your venue a little different:
Unique table numbers: instead of numbers you can do names of places special to you, numbers on pictures of the two of you like mrs. Tiarimisu, years instead of numbers 1-x with pictures of the bride and groom from those years.
Signature drink- with a fun name special to your relationship.
Lighting- it can dramatically change a room
Anything that has to do with you as a couple that can relate to the decor.
Post # 6
This might be a bit off topic, but finding a great location that is meaningful to you even though you can’t specialize as much is unique too!
We’re getting married at the Peabody Essex Museum in Salem, MA and its meaningful because its got an old school charm and museums somewhat equate to education which we value a lot. (The actual ceremony is in a library!) Sure, we don’t have as much say about redecorating the place, but we like it as it is 🙂
Post # 7
For us, it’s all about the small details, ring bearer carrying something other than a pillow, writing our own vows, not having bride and groom sides of the sanctuary, etc. I even found candles that have colored flames to use during the reception. We’re trying to DIY as much as possible.
Post # 8
I totally understand how you feel about those all-in-one wedding venues. We had our wedding at a winery with everything included. But we had talked about doing an appetizer and dessert reception, which wasn’t offered by the winery. So we just talked to the owner and wedding coordinator and they totally adapted the wedding package for us. Based on their reaction, we were the only couple to ever make such a request.
Other ways we made our wedding our own…I made all of our wedding stationery (invites, wedding weekend schedules), our welcome boxes for Out of Town guests, and part of our favors. Plus, me and the hubby love ice cream, so we served ice cream cake and other ice cream treats at the reception.
And I agree with HumarockBride. Just because something seems overdone to you doesn’t mean that your guests will feel the same. If you really want your wedding to reflect you, try to do it in the smaller details, as those can make just as big an impact as your venue and your menu.