(Closed) How did you meet and proceed? :)

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
724 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Bazingaa:  We met at a BBQ, he asked me on a date for the next day. He asked me to be his exclusive girlfriend about a week later, and proposed almost 2 years later.

Post # 4
9916 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

His younger sister is my best friend from college.  We’d always tell her, “Peach is going to marry your one brother, and Jenny is going to marry your other brother.”  It was just a joke, but we used to hang out with her brothers in college.  So in 2006, we started hanging out MORE…and then I was like, “Hey best friend, I think I am going to date your brother.” And she was like, “Okay!”  And I said, “I think I’m going to marry him,” and she was like, “One thing at a time!”  Seven years later, here we are — a week from our wedding.


Gosh that sounds saccharine.

Post # 5
8882 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

We met online (POF) and talked for about 10 days before our first date.  We met for dinner and we talked for hours, neither of us wanted to leave. By the 2nd date we both just knew, there was something special. We both laugh about it now how that only on the 2nd date we just knew that we found our soulmates.

Post # 6
158 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

It’s funny telling this story because we cannot decide on our exact first time we met.

He said we met on a train when I ran into him and a mutual friend when we were both 15. I don’t remember this.

I said we met at a birthday party when we were 18, where I didn’t think too highly of him because he was having a fight with his then girlfriend (also a friend) and she had been crying all night because of him. He doesn’t remember this.

We have so many mutual friends so we always actually knew of each other, just didn’t really know each other and then we finally “met” (again) at another party when we were 21 and drunkenly hooked up. 

We were pretty inseperable after that…I don’t even know how to explain how it progressed because we were both enjoying single life, didn’t want to settle down, but after we hooked up that night it was like…well that’s it, we’re together now. lol.

We’ve now been together 6ish years!

Post # 7
467 posts
Helper bee

We met on Craigslist.  Seriously, doesn’t that sounds super creepy?  I had just moved to NY an was living with a female roommate I found on Craigslist.  There was a 3rd bedroom and she, as the leaseholder, instisted on have a male roommate.  I was totally against the idea, because I didn’t want to live with some random creeper off Craigslist.  Finally, I agreed to the dude roommate idea, but ONLY if I got to help choose the guy. 

So we interviewed a bunch of duds, before my SO showed up.  After he left, I turned to my female roommate and said, ‘I want him! Can we please get him?’  It was like picking out a puppy.  He moved in and became my closest friend in NY.  Finally, after 6 mos of living together and trying not to date, we both got super drunk at a party and made out with some heavy petting.  ๐Ÿ™‚  

Things got a little awkward after that, as I was casually dating to avoid dating him.  (I mean its a seriously bad idea to date your roommate!  If things don’t work out, it can get messy fast.)  However, later that week, we decided we’d already spilled the beans.  We couldn’t pretend nothing had happened, and decided to date exclusively.  I cancelled the dates I had scheduled for that week. ๐Ÿ™‚

We said I love you within a month.  Moved into our own place 5 months later, and are still happily together 2.5 years later.  The funniest thing about this situation was I’d always said I never live with a guy before marriage (apart from roommates), and always took things super slow. I guess terrible ideas with creepers off Craigslist can work out!




Post # 8
3357 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We met online, in a chatroom where everyone in there attended the same university. I don’t do dates in the normal sense – I don’t date around and then decide to be exclusive to one person. I go on dates when I’m already exclusive with the person.

When we met, I was dating my ex. He waited around, and then eventually my ex and I ended. He immediately poured on the interest. I held him off as long as I could to make sure I wasn’t on the rebound. I finally accepted his request and we began dating.

I felt like we were a lot more serious about our relationship than most people usually are, especially in their first year of university. Meh whatever lol. We went on our first date for Valentine’s Day and we’ve been together for over 5 years now. oved in together at around 3 years. He proposed 6 months later and we were married 6 months after that. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
4419 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

We met while we were both working for the Census. We were in the same office. He’d been working there as one of the managers for 5 months or so, and he was indirectly my boss when I started. 

He’d say hello to me every day and make small talk. I just thought he was the nice manager, because none of the others deemed clerks good enough to talk to unless it was to tell them to do some grunt work. 

After about three weeks, he asked me to lunch. I was so nervous. I didn’t know if it was a date or not. I mean, I was certain that a guy as good looking as he is had to be married. 

Turns out he wasn’t married, and he had been trying to figure out how to get to know me outside of the office since I started working there. He asked me right away if I was seeing anyone, and I wasn’t, so he asked me if I wanted to see him.  We were exclusive from that moment on.

We had to hide our relationship at first, because we didn’t want anyone to think he was giving me special priviledges–even though there were no rules about co-workers dating.

Our relationship went fairly quickly. We were inseparatable almost immediately, with either him staying at my apartment or me staying at his house. Our first date was April 3. I moved into his house in August. He asked me to marry him the following April 3, and we were married December 1st that same year. 

Post # 10
1143 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

We met at work, but I had a boyfriend at the time and he had his eye on another girl. In fact, I didn’t really like him much at first, because he was the awkward new guy at work!

A little over a year later, I had broken up with my boyfriend, and the girl he liked had decided she liked her boyfriend better, so I actually tried to set him up with my sister. I ended up going along on a date with them, and they didn’t hit it off. Then I’d say around a month after that, he invited me to a party that I never made it to because the cops showed up and busted it, but we went to the mall to hang out the next day anyways.

We hung out for a couple of days, I actually asked him out, and now we’re married! People either find it amusing or weird that I tried to set him up with my sister, but that’s our story!

Post # 11
905 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

We met online (PoF) and texted for a week before going for coffee. We texted the entire next day, and went on a second date the day after that. We’ve been inseperable ever since. We became exclusive a week later, and he proposed a month after that.

Post # 12
1372 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

We met abroad. I was super attracted to him, but not so into the long-distance, intercultural complications, so at the end of the week, I said “see ya” and went to travel in Europe. After three months of skyping and facebooking, he had some time off and came to meet me. That went so well that we exchanged ILYs and became exclusive. We were talking about marriage from the beginning, but decided that we definitely wanted to get married during his long visit over the winter. Official engagement was supposed to follow quickly thereafter, but job and financial complications have gotten in the way. I’m hoping we can announce engagement around our two-year anniversary and marry next spring (we want a backyard BBQ-type affair so it shouldn’t take long to plan.)

Post # 13
406 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

we met through our individual blogs (we’re huge bloggers over here). he lived in OKC and i lived in CA and was flying out to korea the day after we started talking online. so it wasn’t very possible for him to fly out to CA to meet me or vice versa. but it didn’t matter because we kept in touch for 5 months via email/skype/text every single day. after 5 months in korea, he then flew into SF (where i’m from) and we met for the first time. we spent a week in SF making sure we actually did like each other then went on a 3 month road trip around the US. we’ve now been together for a few years  and engaged for one and i feel lucky that our situation worked out so well.

it’s been a whirlwind but i am so glad we both took that leap and we have stayed together ever since.

Post # 16
4929 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

We met at Kroger. He was the cute cashier and I was picking up some things with my mom. Two weeks later, he started coming to my tiny private school and my math teacher formally introduced us. A couple weeks later, we started texting and he told me that he liked me. We were official a couple days after that, and said I love you pretty quickly. 

We’ve since broken up and gotten back together twice, both times for different reasons. The most recent was 3 years ago. We started talking again in October 2010 and officially got back together in February 2011. And we’ve been inseparable ever since.

We wanted to get back together much sooner, but I was going through a lot in November and December and couldn’t handle a new relationship on top of it all. It was awful, but it was the best decision I could’ve made. We were “engaged” from Day 1, because we decided that we were “either going to get married or never see each other again” since we’d attempted to be together before. 

We got formally engaged in July of last year, about four and a half years after we met (though I later found out that we had actually met once before, so it was technically close to 7 years). And we’re getting married in just under a year!

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