(Closed) How did you not stress over the RSVPs?

posted 6 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Hound away politely starting tomorrow. They still technically have a day. You’ll get your responses, but it might just take some effort from you, Fiance, Future Mother-In-Law, and mom!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Definitely don’t assume if they don’t reply they’re not coming!  You told them they needed to book the rooms by 5/1, right?  Release the rooms!  Do NOT pay for rooms just because people can’t RSVP on time!  They’ll have to figure out their our hotel situation.

 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We are giving people a grace period of 1 day, so the night after the rsvp date, the phone calls will start to people whom we have not received a reply from.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Pour yourself a glass of wine (or 2 or 3) and force yourself to not think about it tonight.  You deserve 24 hours of wedding-free thoughts before delving into the great RSVP chase!!  

If it’s too early for wine, then might I suggest mimosas or bloody marys?  =o)  Good luck tracking them down… there’s only so much you can do to make it easy for them, after that, it’s their responsibility and if they end up paying more it’s their own fault, unfortunately.

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I decided to do online RSVPs on our wedding website — it populated the spreadsheet for us and we didn’t have to do any work there. There were definitely stragglers — we sent an email out to those who hadn’t responded about a week before the deadline reminding them. A lot of them came in after that, but even a week after the deadline there were folks who hadn’t RSVPd, which to me means no by default.

At some point you just have to say that’s it and cut it off. You have to decide when your drop dead deadline is based on what you have to do (tables/escort cards/caterer requests) and stick to it! If someone said they wanted to come now I’d have to kindly tell them that while I’d love to have them there, unfortunately we’ve finalized all the arrangements and it’s too late. The wedding ship has sailed! 

Hope that helps!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@VegasSukie:  lol, ‘atta girl!!  Maybe I’ll teach my dog to pee the letters RSVP onto the yard so that I can loan him out as a service to everyone tracking down the stragglers.  That should get the point across!  

 

@serenitymd:  Your 2nd to the last sentence makes me want to let out a big piratey ARRRRRRRRR matey!!  =o)  

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I blocked rooms with no fininal obilgation and its up to my guests to book their room if they are attending.  If they book after the date given by the hotel they may or may not get the blocked price for the rooms, or even a room at all.  So at that point, it’s their fault for not having made the reservations.  Good Luck and best wishes!

 

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@VegasSukie:  Do you have the RSVP feature on there? My guests had to come to the website in order to RSVP. I also gave them the option for me to RSVP for them though, for my older relatives that weren’t computer savvy. 

I love it — plain table and NO GIFT BAG FOR YOU! 🙂

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Definitely call and release the rooms if they can’t confirm!

Sometimes, people just need a little nudge and heck, if they aren’t coming, at least you know! That beats paying for no-shows:D

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