Post # 1
So I’m not engaged yet and trying not to “plan” but this is spurred by a conversation BF and I had yesterday driving to his parents’ for Passover — BF since we started talking weddings has somewhat jokingly said he’d like to get married in Fiji by a medicine man. I want a wedding where we live now where our friends and family can celebrate with us. He’d like a smaller more intimate wedding. I recently looked up flights to Fiji on a whim and realized just how expensive they are! There’s no way any of my friends, let alone my brother with their 2 year old, could go to Fiji. But I’m willing to compromise with BF and consider a closer destination wedding. So how did you choose your destination?
Post # 3
What about Hawaii if you want somewhere tropical that will keep it intimate? It’s far away, but more affordable. Not to mention, there was just recently an announcement about non-stops out of Dulles to Honolulu. From there, you can get to every island.
We’re looking towards Hawaii because we vacationed there a couple of years ago and loved it. We also think our close friends and family would love it.
Post # 4
@google: We’re getting married where our parents are (they live in neighboring towns) but its a desination for us since we live a couple states away now. I would choose your destination based on the type of surroundings you want. Whether thats mountains, the beach, or a forest ect. And then find somewhere that fulfills that and is inexpensive. I would look into closer places that feel like Fiji so that it is less expensive for your guests.
Post # 5
that was the hardest part of the whole process – picking the destination! although we had decided before we even got engaged that we would do a beach destination wedding at an all inclusive resort in the Caribbean. However, it was still tough. i originally wanted Mexico, but MIL’s doctor advised her not to go for medical reasons. I was willing to go to Cuba as i knew it was cheap and had gorgeous beaches, but I couldn’t cuz i was living in the states for a year for internship. Other places were too expensive (I was willing to splurge on our wedding, but we knew our families couldn’t necessarily afford that and we didn’t enough “splurge” money to pay for them!). we didn’t want Dominican Republic as we had both been there before and wanted to go somewhere new. Man it was so stressful! Oh and becase my sis’s husband had moved to Canada and was still an immigant, his passport limited where he could go! Finally we found an affordable resort in Jamaica that was suitable for us and our immediate familes. That was basically how we decided – we accommodated as far as our immediate families. If we extended it to close friends we wanted to attend – well, we probably would still be trying to find a date adn location! Timing was also an issue for some people, so we had to factor that in as well!
Post # 6
We chose Mexico because we had been there a few times together and always had a blast, and we specifically choose San Miguel because it was so full of culture and had a very European feel to it, which is what we wanted. We had also been to two other destination weddings in Mexico, and they were the most fun weddings we had ever been to. Plus, Mexico was relatively easy for our guests to get to, and a lot more affordable than many other destinations.
Post # 7
This is why we picked Maui:
– we have been to Hawaii (Waikiki) but never Maui and wanted to go somewhere new-ish but where we kind of knew what it would be like
– we wanted somewhere tropical and hot,basically the opposite of where we live
– FI’s family does not all get along the greatest and so we did not want to stay in an all-inclusive resort where everyone was together. In Hawaii there are a lot of different hotel and condo options to choose from.
– FI’s family has access to condos there through friends so it makes the travel a bit cheaper for them
– the flights from here aren’t too expensive, but not so cheap that a ton of people could come – we wanted a smaller more intimate wedding (They had a seat sale to Maui just about a month ago though $229 each way, so our RSVP count is higher than expected, which is still great – around 40 people 🙂 )
Anyways, hope that helps. I would definitely recommend Hawaii, it seems like the places there do a lot of weddings and they have made the planning very easy for me!
Post # 8
It was one of the easiest things for us. His parents have a summer home on Martha’s Vineyard and I spent a lot of time there with his sister & parents before I met him (I met him through the sister, who is one of my closest friends). When I finally met him, it was on MV; he proposed on MV; his sister and their parents had their weddings on MV… Add to all that the fact that our guests will be traveling from all over (concentrated in NJ/NY/MA) so there’s no single central location that’s convenient for everyone, I converted from my parents’ religion (Catholicism) to the Episcopal Church, so there’s no hometown church for me to go back to, and neither of us live in our hometowns… Then top it off with the fact that we LOVE the island… there really was no other choice for us.
Post # 9
I’ll share how we picked our locations. We had three priorities – scenery, special to us, intimate wedding with immediate family and close friends. Luckily we agreed upon those top priorities so we kept those in mind when we were thinking of places.
Location #1 was 2 hours from us, but 3 hours from an airport (all guests had to fly in). It was a special little state park in Idaho known for its rock climbing. It had a renovated little ranchhouse you could rent an d a lovely lawn for weddings, reunions, picnics. If people were actually local to us, we would have had it here honestly. It would have been so affordable! I planned that for 3 mohths before we decided it was not very acceissble, plus there weren’t enough hotel rooms to rent so we’d have to keep it small.
Location #2 was Jackson Hole/Grand Teton national Park. We are from Utah but SLC was not special to us. So we picked GTNP as we love to visit there, and Fiance is a big climber so he loves that range. Plus jackson is just pretty cool to visit and there’s something for everyone! We were even going to tkae all our guests white water rafting (well those that were interested). We had that one booked, planned, paid for and we cancelled it with 4 months to go due to a terminal illness in my family.
Location #3 so now were just going to elope by ourselves to make it easier on everyone else. However, we’ve never been to this area but have always wanted to visit. I guess our priorities have slightly altered now, but the scenery is still something we want. We toyed with the idea of Yosemite, Hawaii or New Zealand, but being able to 1) drive to Canada and 2) no jet lag (same time zone as Utah) were some pros as well. So that’s where we are researching now. We didn’t have a honeymoon planned for #2 since there weren’t a lot of funds left, so #3 will be a 2+ week weddingmoon. We’re trying to go big.
Post # 10
My fiance and i live in Monterrey, Mexico, his parents live in the next state and my family live in England. We decided to have the wedding near Cancun as we like beaches, and frankly Monterrey is neither safe nor interesting and i can’t imagine what my family would do here for 7-10 days!! Also weddings here are massive extravaganzas (often with over 300 people) and thats my worst nightmare – but there would be a lot of people we would have to invite or they wuold be extremely offended.
I found a fantastic wedding planner which really helps, as i’m not far from cancun but im not close enough to visit regularly to make sure things are how i want them!
Post # 11
I don’t know where you live, but we just booked our fiji wedding with airfare through a travel agent-ended up about 7K including airfare, all food, all inclusive except booze…if you are interested, pm me and I’ll give you her info 🙂
If you are in VA like your profile, what about Bocas Del Toro-that was our backup
Post # 12
We chose playa del Carmen because it has nice beaches and is affordable and easy to get to from Texas.
As for bocas del Toro, not really wedding or kid friendly. At all. Great fun place and i love it there, but would never suggest anyone go get married there. Lol.
Post # 13
We chose Rome because it’s where we got engaged and as fate would have it, as we were discussing wedding plans one night and we were feeling overwhelmed by the cost of a big wedding, the song “Rome” by Phoenix came on. Suddenly, we knew that a destination wedding would be in our future 🙂 We are having a very small, intimate wedding on June 30, 2012. If you’d like to read about how we are planning it, you can visit our site here: http://www.fascinodiroma.com/
Post # 14
I always wanted to elope in Vegas, and Fiance was okay with getting married anywhere but where we currently are or where he was from, so we’re having a smallish Destination Wedding in Vegas.
One of my close friends just got married in Mexico because that’s where she and her Fiance met, and a few years back one of my friends got married in Fiji. She didn’t mean for it to be an elopement (it was planned out far in advance) but it ended up being just her and her now husband that went. She didn’t come back with any regrets about people not being able to attend and the pics look beautiful, so I think she was pretty happy with it.
Post # 15
Choosing a Destination was the most difficult part for us – we went from Fiji to the Maldives to Hawaii back to FL and all the other places in between!!! and we Finally just booked our wedding – A Castle in Scotland!!
I believe that when you find the right spot for you both it is just like the dress you will just Know it 🙂
Post # 16
We had a hard time deciding where to get married like so many others! We ultimatly chose Grand Cayman. We picked it because it is actually a closer plane flight for most of our family to GC than where we currently live (our family lives in FL, we live in TN). We did not want a FL wedding because too many people would come and we wanted a more intimate wedding. We had an engagement party in Florida, and over 250 ppl came.
We also just wanted a more fun lcation/destination for our wedding than the typical wedding. Good luck!