(Closed) How did you pick your wedding venue?

posted 5 years ago in Venue
Post # 2
3437 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

I wanted an outdoor ceremony close to twilight hour, preferably by a water source. Luckily we live near a lot of clubhouses and centers with these type of grounds. Then I wanted a venue that included everything without nickle and diming us for simple stuff like chairs or linens, had a bridal suite that wasn’t extra, had great venue/food reviews and cleaned up after the event. Last preference was staying under budget, but not hard to do with a weekday wedding.

If I had to sacrifice anything I suppose I don’t absolutely need the twilight background so a different time of day would have been fine but the sky is always so beautiful during that time.


Post # 3
435 posts
Helper bee

Our criteria was literally just “indoors” because we live in Oklahoma and the weather is extremely unpredictable. My aunt works for a venue and gets a crazy discount so even though the venue is not very pretty we didn’t look at anything else due to our cheap budget. I like the venue though even though it isn’t very pretty. It is a very central location for all of our guests.

Post # 4
1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2015 - Chapel on Base

Price determined our venue. 

Post # 5
1657 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I tried to visualise my wedding. What are the things you really want? How do you want it to ‘feel’?

– Intimate

– No beach or vineyard (as very common here)

– Indoor but with beautiful outlook

– Full service

– Ceremony & Reception Venue in One

– Classic/Classy vibe

– Price


Post # 6
2958 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

We are from a small town (population 200) so keeping an open mind about every venue was crucial. We knew we wanted to be close to home which was very limiting as traditional church weddings are the norm here (something we definitely did not want). Luckily, we reached out to town council member and asked about a (beautiful) barn located on the town’s fairgrounds and was pleasantly surprised to hear that they run on donations to use for events. We really wanted that venue so no decisions were made until we knew when they would be available  

One thing you did (that probably wasn’t the best decision) was get emotionally attached to a set date without reaching out to venues first. This limits you tremendously. 

Post # 7
9639 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i wanted a historic mansion but the logistics of transportation from hotel to venue where more than i wanted to deal with.  we had a lot of out of town guests and i decided it would be best if everything and everybody was at the same location, a hotel

one venue was perfect.  they had just converted their pool into an atrium,  perfect spot for our ceremony.  then they said we could use the art deco lobby instead of the ballrooms for our reception.  it was perfect.  DH and I were in love.

we didn’t have a particular date in mind.  we asked what openings they had in octover/november of that year and picked the first one available.


Post # 8
949 posts
Busy bee

I picked bang-for-buck. 

I wanted an urban wedding – a loft, a warehouse, or a rooftop. Lots of concrete and brick. I swore to my sisters that (direct quote!) “I would never get married on a grassy lawn!” 

We live in Los Angeles. All the venues I liked were between $6000 and $10,000 for a 12 hour rental. Yikes!!  Not to mention that they had additional fees for valet (required) and pay extra for site managers (required) and all sorts of additional costs that were “required” but not part of the base fee. 

So we drove two hours to Palm Springs and found a private estate we could rent for $7,000 for 3 full days, no additional fees – and it could house our paretns, siblings, bridal party, etc. Which ws a big load off!! Also, it meant we could have a sunday brunch at the same location for no additional renatl fee. So obviously, we had a pool party!! 

The funny thing is, I totally go married on a grassy lawn! Ha!! But I loved it. I wasn’t dissapointed at all. 

Cree Estate Palm Springs:



Post # 10
2180 posts
Buzzing bee

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lostinthemusic :  I didn’t really start thinking about weddings until I was close to getting engaged, so I didn’t have an “always wanted” vision to fulfill–just mostly thought about the vibe and meaning I wanted. Got my heart set on the place (botanical garden) well before we could book it!

I’m very into the details of the significance of a place, so getting to hold the reception in a historic building originally created as a social space for women by a local female architect is Very Exciting to me. I love the serenity and beauty of the redwoods and am holding our ceremony in a redwood grove. Both spaces give me major warm fuzzies and have exactly the atmosphere I want for the day.

We prioritized the venue and are planning everything else around it, and no regrets so far.

Post # 11
301 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I really wanted to get married in a historic mansion type venue. Once I got engaged, I booked venue tours of these places and quickly realized it was WAY out of my budget. I had to reasess my dream and that’s okay. I ended up finding a place in my price range that I absolutely LOVED and could see myself dancing that night with my new husband in and sipping champagne with friends and family. Keep looking, once you find it you will know!

Post # 12
477 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Indoor ceremony and reception because we want a fall or winter wedding and weather here is unpredictable.

Accessible from both airports and hotels by uber or public transit, because so many of our guests aren’t local that we don’t want for them to have to pay to rent cars. 

Available on one of the various dates that would work for us, which are also limited because of fall/winter holidays of guests in two countries. 


Post # 13
1758 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Malibou Lake Mountain Club

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lostinthemusic :  we wanted some place that meant a lot to us. A Malibu beach wedding was hard to get by, so we went with a venue that was near it, and we pass that area when we go to Malibu. It was perfect!!

Post # 14
4807 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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lostinthemusic :   I wanted a venue which would be a good backdrop for photos, rain or shine.  



Post # 15
2105 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I definitely had a certain setting in mind, but my hubby was very against the idea of making the majority of our guests travel (even a few hours), so that elimiated my original plans/hopes. It’s his wedding too. We compromised by finding a venue that had an outdoor option (which is what I really wanted) but was local too. We didn’t end up having it outdoors though due to weather so things just don’t always go as planned. Ultimately the deciding factors were price and availability for fall dates. You have to choose your priorties and work from there. Good luck bee! Remember ultimately all that matters is that you’re married at the end of the day 🙂

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