Post # 1
I’m going through all the stages of planning, right now I’m trying to figure out how to decide on the wedding ceremony. How do you choose the way things will go? I’ve found a few readings I like, but I am not sure about vows, or anything other readings or prayers.. We are planning to have a sand ceremony but other than that, I am stuck. 🙁 How did you choose yours?
Post # 3
I felt the same way at first, it can be very overwhelming.
I would recommend going online and finding some templates for various types of ceremonies. There are dozens of options depending on what you want to incoporate and how religious you would like to be. Also, whoever is performing your wedding might have a template as well that they can offer.
I honestly just went through all the options and cut and pasted and added and deleted what I liked, hated, loved etc. Eventually I came up with the perfect combination that suited us.
Post # 4
Our officiant had a bunch of sample ones and sent them to us. We had the option to edit one and go with that one or cobble a new one from all of the examples. We fell in love with one ceremony in particular so we edited some of the things out and kept the rest. Easy peasy!
By The Way, I found it quite tough to find ceremony wording online (unless you want the uber-traditional, standard ones). Our officiant even said that it is challenging coming up with a meaningful ceremony that pleases everyone so while she shares these samples with the B+G, she wouldn’t necesarily share them with other officiants.
Post # 5
We started with a traditional Jewish ceremony, removed the parts we weren’t comfortable with, and added a few things. I’m Jewish, he’s not. Changes included: reciting our own vows instead of signing a ketubah, no circling, adding English translations after each of the Seven Blessings, and having my Christian Mother-In-Law read a Psalm (in English) of her choosing. My husband decided to build our chuppah, and we sewed my dad’s Bar Mitzvah tallis to the cover. Our officiant was a very liberal/hippie rabbi who was a perfect balance for our respective backgrounds. I was really happy with our ceremony and am so glad that my husband was open to using Jewish elements. It’s more of a cultural connection for me than a religious one, so while a secular ceremony was not my preference I would have acquiesced if it made him uncomfortable.
Post # 6
@lilbluebird: It would probably help for me to get in touch with my future Father-In-Law. He is a minister, and he’s going to be the one to do our ceremony, and he has done plenty of ceremonies before so I’m sure he’ll have some good ideas to start with..
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
When we met with our officient, he copied for us the ceremony options from the United Methodist Church’s book of such things (it has a real name, I just don’t remember) and we went through choosing the options we liked best. Then, we chose one biblical passage and one from classical antiquity (the general field my PhD is in). We gave the violenist permission to play whatevs.