(Closed) How did you politely decline having babies attend your wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
2421 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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seeker: Sorry maybe I should have used a different word. Maybe dissappointed is a better word. I would be totally disappointed if someone told me my son couldnt come especially if I am close to the couple and was looking foward to the wedding. 

Post # 17
1603 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Bored6 — where I work, there are so many moms who breast fead who return to work that we have a lactation room (for those who are not familiar, this is a room where new moms can express milk and then save it and bring it home).   Many, many women do go back to work after having kids.  If you decide you cannot leave your dear baby at home, that is your decision.  Yes, you are entitled to decide you do not want to leave your dear baby, but, In My Humble Opinion, it is rude to ask for an invitation for an uninvited guest.  You can gently ask for clarification, but you you should not commuicate that you are entitled to an invite for your son.  

Post # 18
2152 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I totally dont understand the whole concept of a child -free wedding… Children are just ‘little people’, they’re equally valid guests and members of the family/friends. There is no way I would ever prioritize some members of the familiy over others, no matter what their ages were… and there’s no way I would deny my friends the option of bringing their children to my wedding. There was 1 badly-behaved child at my wedding, and I just figured ”it’s the parent’s responsibility and the parent’s embarassement… I couldn’t care less”. Or should I also exclude any elderly people, who might hold-up the ‘flow’ of events by walking slowly, or exlude any pregnant women who might need bathroom breaks.. etc?

Weddings should be about people you love coming together.. no matter what their ages are..



Post # 19
500 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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amanda3334455:  Ummm no, children are not just “little people” they have rights and needs of their own which are typically not met at a wedding for adults. It’s actually pretty cruel to invite them to an all-adult event with nothing to do and food they won’t eat.

That said, infants are the exception becuase they tend to need their mothers.  I’d say banning under 3 months is rather heartless becuase most moms with decent jobs are able to take off 6weeks -2.5 months, so they may not have a regular sitter.  Those infants between 3 months and 9 months typically also are at special daycares  (or in specail daycare rooms) so it’s not like you can hire Sally teenager to watch the infant.

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